We all have the chance to do great things in life ... no matter who we are.
At one point we already have some statistic datas about what we can do .... and actually we should not worry about doing most of the things we have to do.
For example ... i agree that is very difficult to kiss a girl for the first time in your life ... but still ... when you are at the relationship number 7, should be much easier to do it.
I remember ... i was in high school and i asked one girl that i liked ... “May i kiss you?!”
She smiled and agreed ... but she was surprised cause i asked.
She was expecting just to kiss her.
But she had her style and me ... my style.
And this story from high school is still a story of success ... comparing with other stories.
I had the courage to ask ... and I got what i desired.
But there were probably thousands of other occasions when i don’t even had the courage to mention what i wanted. So ... so many spoiled opportunities.
And i still act in this way ... even today.
I want things that ... i should only have the gut to speak about them ... but i don’t.
The only thing i should do ... should be only to mention my ideas ...
and most probably i could easily get what i want.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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But unfortunately, even if it looks like a nonsense ... even if i’ve done those things before ... the absence of courage ...became for me ... a “great” way of failing in life.
Today, i am somewhere on the timeline of my life ... in one point where i feel that it’s the time to not lie myself anymore.
I define everything that looks like non sense ... but i try to find out what is behind the absence of courage of acting in the right way. Maybe is time for a change.
Maybe is time to define ... what is the right attitude.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
43
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Tomorrow ... can be a different day ... even a better one
I was driving today, on a street that i haven’t visited by years and i accidentally met a guy that i know by a long time.
I own a house on that street and he also lived close to that house. Called him just to say “Hello” and nothing more ... and started to tell me what happened in the last few years.
He divorced and was not living in there anymore.
Only the ex wife and his kids are staying today in that house.
He explain me .... that he was quite unhappy.
But i knew the guy pretty well.
He was a very successful lawyer ... he appeared on national tv channels many times ... a wealthy guy ... but also a guy that adored to have love affairs.
Today he was unhappy ... and in a conversation of only few minutes he told me the whole story of divorce ... of his unhappiness ... but also that today he met with 2 wonderful ladies.
For someone that does not know the guy ... the conversation we had ... might look as a total nonsense ... cause is kind of a paradox that he explains in 5 minutes that he is so unhappy cause his wife divorced of him ... but also happy cause he met 2 beautiful women today.
I was laughing of him on the phone.
I was laughing loud ... and he could not understand my reaction.
I knew him well.
He is a nice guy ... buy also a jerk ... but i am his friend and i can afford to laugh of him.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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But ... after i stoped laughing i assured him ... that i am totally convinced that tomorrow will be a better day for him.
And part of his tomorrow ... of his future ... was happening today ... cause he already met 2 amazing ladies ... even if he was pretending, like a great lawyer ... that he was crying.
And i still believe that we can find the truth about the truth ... just in the nonsense actions from our lives.
That is the real key ... if we really want in this life to follow the best path that we should follow.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
45
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
The art of responding to the situations the Universe sends you in... is based on the decision of choosing between being right or kind
About 6 months ago i met a nice guy and i started a friendship with him .... based mainly on philosophy discussion. He is quite young, but retired.
All he is doing the whole day is drinking alcohol ... but also consuming drugs, by a while.
And truth be told ... alcohol and drugs helps to understand the philosophical theories better.
I never smoke in my life ... and also never smoke weed, but i heard many people saying that it helps of understanding things that you usually don’t understand in a normal state.
But knowing him by only 6 months, i saw right away the jump from alcohol to a mix of alcohol and drugs.
He ... somehow ... is not the same anymore.
He even used to be polite ... and today i see a person that has kind a philosophical aggressiveness difficult to be understood.
I began to become an observer of everything happens around me ... things ... situations ... but also people ... and i see quite easily the dynamic of change.
I easily understand now where the path of drugs can take a human being.
I thought this were stories ... but it’s not like that.
I decided in my relationship with him to be kind and ignore the non sense of his new behavior.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
46
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Should be useless to discuss philosophy anymore ....
And it’s funny cause i know that people as Osho were taking drugs before meditation ... but were eliminating the substances from the body through yoga.
But ... Osho and other spiritual teachers knew the whole story about the way drugs can help the mind see things that usually are not easy to see.
My new friends, as all the other people that are using alcohol and any
other kind of drugs ... are usually losing control on themselves and
everything is going on around.
But how should we react to them?!
We should do the right thing and just forget about the friendship we have with them ... or be kind ... and ignore on and on the nonsense of their behavior?!
We like it or not ... my question is a huge contemporary dilemma ...
cause people that just start using drugs ... you can see them everywhere today.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
47
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Failing ... is a great way
of better understanding life
Truth be told we only want to win in life.
We prefer perfect scenarios and even if we have in mind lots of negative scripts that will never be real ... deep inside us we want as we should never fail.
But failure is ... just the other mask of success.
The unwanted one.
But we should accept it also.
Failing is just part of life.
Most of the time, on the path for obtaining great things ... you meet the success or ... the failure.
But whatever should happen ... we should embrace any of the situations.
Failure ... is just a lesson.
Success is a moment before you start the process of new lessons.
Today ... i believe we need both ... success ... but also failure stories.
But why should we think we need failing also?!
Why we can’t run our lives only on positive situations?!
Well ... i think the beauty of success ... can be felt and really appreciated ... only after you also know what failure means.
The meaning of positive situations can’t be understood without having the negative also.
And even if it sounds as a nonsense ... having the right balance in life, between success and failure will help you enjoy ... but also understand life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
48
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Failing ... in case you know the power of a positive thinking ... is preparing you for even a greater success that you dreamed for. Life runs between negative and positive ... no matter what it is about ... and we should accept everything just as it happens. Seeing the failure as a lesson is much indicated as seeing yourself as a victim.
Prepare and accept anything happens ... and take advantage of anything ... even of failing.... cause in failure ... you will see later .... a great way of understanding life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
49
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
The art of switching realities
... a new way of living?!
My son was playing a video game and i asked him... “What is this game about?!”
He explained right away that he was trying to become a pilot for helicopters.
But you see ... my son is only 11.
Actually both of my sons are loving video games ... and in fact if i think better they love these kinds virtual realities.
Now you can run a race in Formula 1, then you can be Batman ... after that you kill a dragon ... and later, in the night, before going to bed ... you are on the moon ... with your our space craft.
You can be whoever you want to be ... and this is probably why video games are so popular.
Is actually kind of an art of switching realities ... and it actually becomes a new way of living.
But what if ... we just decide to change our attitude in front of anything happens?!
What if one day we decide to be .... whoever we want to be?!
For example ... it happens i know a guy .. who is about 40 and is a person ... kind of a mix between introvert and extrovert. He decided one day to enjoy love stories ... of any kind.
He knew lots of ladies, but had only a relationship with them as businessman or as friend.
One day ... as an experiment ... he decided to tell few of them that he would like to have a love affair with them.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
50
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
He masters the power or words and formulated in the right way for every women he liked ... so that everything will sound excelent.
It might sound like a nonsense experiment for you ... but i should name it ... the experiment of daring to taste what he actually wanted. Instead of playing a video game ... with the art of going out with ladies ... my friend totally changed his attitude ... made the switch from introvert to extroverted and dared to say ... whatever he wanted ... whatever he desired.
You see ... dear friends ... we should not spoil our lives only dreaming
... but we should also dare to act.
The story with my dear friend is real ... the experiment is real ... but you should also try your own experiments, in the real life ... with whatever you would love to have.
And remember ... life ... real life ... is not a video game!
So ... dare to act ... even if you might be in the position of desiring ...
a nonsense.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
51
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
“Nah, bigger!”
... the Universe
It’s quite difficult to understand the meaning of life, even if you look
for it ... for years.
But you know why?!
Cause you don’t really look for the meaning of what life really means ... but the meaning of your life.
You ... just you ... nothing else ... no one else.
Everything you see in this world is ... YOU.
The the confusion appears ... between the meaning of life and the actual path that you are following.
But the funny thing is that sometimes, the Universe just change the script of our lives.
It can happen that you already have everything you ever wanted ...
but still a piece from the puzzle is missing.
And then .... everything change over night.
You lose everything ... and all looks like a tsunami that just ruins your life completely.
After things calms down ... it looks like you have only 2 options ... restart your life from scratch ... or just abandon the concept of being alive.
And many people get suicide in such situations ... totally losing the hope that they can be again in the position they had before. Everything is just a big test from the Universe.
And we doubt ... and doubt for days and weeks ... and months.
We can’t see any positive scenarios that might come for us again.
Too many people ... from all around the world were ... or maybe are
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
today in such a situation.
Can’t see the hope ... and if you meditate enough you will see that all you need to do for rebooting your life is ... have hope.
But ... even if deep inside you ... you know that the Divinity created everything you see ... mountains, seas, continents, planets, stars ...
you don’t have the power to believe that the Universe can treat you also in a great way.
You know ... Budha was the son of a king.
He had everything a human being from that time could dream .... but
he was feeling that a piece from the puzzle was missing.
He abandoned everything and went to a wild territory ... into the forest ... and stayed 6 years in there to meditate and find the awakening.
Imagine the nonsense.
To have everything ... and abandon the life style offered as the son of an important king from that time ... just to find the meaning of life. Even today ... his actions ... would be defined as a nonsense ... by 99% of the people from our planet.
Imagine a study made by the Institute of Statistic ... in the whole world ... asking if what Budha did ... was a wise thing to do ... or a nonsense?!
Many will see no meaning in what he did ... but in the end between becoming a king, because he was the son of a king ... the Universe offered him something greater ... he became a spiritual King.
Today everybody knows about Budha, even if they don’t really know his teachings.
You see ... sometimes ... there are people that follow a great path, that looks in the beginning a path of nonsense ... but sometimes, for the rest of us ... the Universe sends something that looks as a tsunami ... just for changing the direction ... on a greater path.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
53
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Sometimes people have the confusion
that being a nice person, means being weak ... silly ... and without the right attitude
Being kind, in a world that can be defined as a real jungle ... looks like a non sense virtue nowadays.
People have strong personalities ... and in fact so big Egos ... bigger than the Everest mountain ... as a friend of mine use to say ... and it’s quite difficult to deal with them. Being a kind person .. is a virtue indeed.
But being a kind person with people that have strong Egos ... is a game that you going to lose.
People love to be treated well ... but don’t know that probably the only thing they should do is to reply back in a nice way also. People go today in 2 and 3 stars hotel and expect to stay like in 5 stars hotels.
At one point we already have some statistic datas about what we can do .... and actually we should not worry about doing most of the things we have to do.
For example ... i agree that is very difficult to kiss a girl for the first time in your life ... but still ... when you are at the relationship number 7, should be much easier to do it.
I remember ... i was in high school and i asked one girl that i liked ... “May i kiss you?!”
She smiled and agreed ... but she was surprised cause i asked.
She was expecting just to kiss her.
But she had her style and me ... my style.
And this story from high school is still a story of success ... comparing with other stories.
I had the courage to ask ... and I got what i desired.
But there were probably thousands of other occasions when i don’t even had the courage to mention what i wanted. So ... so many spoiled opportunities.
And i still act in this way ... even today.
I want things that ... i should only have the gut to speak about them ... but i don’t.
The only thing i should do ... should be only to mention my ideas ...
and most probably i could easily get what i want.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
42
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
But unfortunately, even if it looks like a nonsense ... even if i’ve done those things before ... the absence of courage ...became for me ... a “great” way of failing in life.
Today, i am somewhere on the timeline of my life ... in one point where i feel that it’s the time to not lie myself anymore.
I define everything that looks like non sense ... but i try to find out what is behind the absence of courage of acting in the right way. Maybe is time for a change.
Maybe is time to define ... what is the right attitude.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
43
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Tomorrow ... can be a different day ... even a better one
I was driving today, on a street that i haven’t visited by years and i accidentally met a guy that i know by a long time.
I own a house on that street and he also lived close to that house. Called him just to say “Hello” and nothing more ... and started to tell me what happened in the last few years.
He divorced and was not living in there anymore.
Only the ex wife and his kids are staying today in that house.
He explain me .... that he was quite unhappy.
But i knew the guy pretty well.
He was a very successful lawyer ... he appeared on national tv channels many times ... a wealthy guy ... but also a guy that adored to have love affairs.
Today he was unhappy ... and in a conversation of only few minutes he told me the whole story of divorce ... of his unhappiness ... but also that today he met with 2 wonderful ladies.
For someone that does not know the guy ... the conversation we had ... might look as a total nonsense ... cause is kind of a paradox that he explains in 5 minutes that he is so unhappy cause his wife divorced of him ... but also happy cause he met 2 beautiful women today.
I was laughing of him on the phone.
I was laughing loud ... and he could not understand my reaction.
I knew him well.
He is a nice guy ... buy also a jerk ... but i am his friend and i can afford to laugh of him.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
44
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
But ... after i stoped laughing i assured him ... that i am totally convinced that tomorrow will be a better day for him.
And part of his tomorrow ... of his future ... was happening today ... cause he already met 2 amazing ladies ... even if he was pretending, like a great lawyer ... that he was crying.
And i still believe that we can find the truth about the truth ... just in the nonsense actions from our lives.
That is the real key ... if we really want in this life to follow the best path that we should follow.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
45
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
The art of responding to the situations the Universe sends you in... is based on the decision of choosing between being right or kind
About 6 months ago i met a nice guy and i started a friendship with him .... based mainly on philosophy discussion. He is quite young, but retired.
All he is doing the whole day is drinking alcohol ... but also consuming drugs, by a while.
And truth be told ... alcohol and drugs helps to understand the philosophical theories better.
I never smoke in my life ... and also never smoke weed, but i heard many people saying that it helps of understanding things that you usually don’t understand in a normal state.
But knowing him by only 6 months, i saw right away the jump from alcohol to a mix of alcohol and drugs.
He ... somehow ... is not the same anymore.
He even used to be polite ... and today i see a person that has kind a philosophical aggressiveness difficult to be understood.
I began to become an observer of everything happens around me ... things ... situations ... but also people ... and i see quite easily the dynamic of change.
I easily understand now where the path of drugs can take a human being.
I thought this were stories ... but it’s not like that.
I decided in my relationship with him to be kind and ignore the non sense of his new behavior.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
46
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Should be useless to discuss philosophy anymore ....
And it’s funny cause i know that people as Osho were taking drugs before meditation ... but were eliminating the substances from the body through yoga.
But ... Osho and other spiritual teachers knew the whole story about the way drugs can help the mind see things that usually are not easy to see.
My new friends, as all the other people that are using alcohol and any
other kind of drugs ... are usually losing control on themselves and
everything is going on around.
But how should we react to them?!
We should do the right thing and just forget about the friendship we have with them ... or be kind ... and ignore on and on the nonsense of their behavior?!
We like it or not ... my question is a huge contemporary dilemma ...
cause people that just start using drugs ... you can see them everywhere today.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
47
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Failing ... is a great way
of better understanding life
Truth be told we only want to win in life.
We prefer perfect scenarios and even if we have in mind lots of negative scripts that will never be real ... deep inside us we want as we should never fail.
But failure is ... just the other mask of success.
The unwanted one.
But we should accept it also.
Failing is just part of life.
Most of the time, on the path for obtaining great things ... you meet the success or ... the failure.
But whatever should happen ... we should embrace any of the situations.
Failure ... is just a lesson.
Success is a moment before you start the process of new lessons.
Today ... i believe we need both ... success ... but also failure stories.
But why should we think we need failing also?!
Why we can’t run our lives only on positive situations?!
Well ... i think the beauty of success ... can be felt and really appreciated ... only after you also know what failure means.
The meaning of positive situations can’t be understood without having the negative also.
And even if it sounds as a nonsense ... having the right balance in life, between success and failure will help you enjoy ... but also understand life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
48
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Failing ... in case you know the power of a positive thinking ... is preparing you for even a greater success that you dreamed for. Life runs between negative and positive ... no matter what it is about ... and we should accept everything just as it happens. Seeing the failure as a lesson is much indicated as seeing yourself as a victim.
Prepare and accept anything happens ... and take advantage of anything ... even of failing.... cause in failure ... you will see later .... a great way of understanding life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
49
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
The art of switching realities
... a new way of living?!
My son was playing a video game and i asked him... “What is this game about?!”
He explained right away that he was trying to become a pilot for helicopters.
But you see ... my son is only 11.
Actually both of my sons are loving video games ... and in fact if i think better they love these kinds virtual realities.
Now you can run a race in Formula 1, then you can be Batman ... after that you kill a dragon ... and later, in the night, before going to bed ... you are on the moon ... with your our space craft.
You can be whoever you want to be ... and this is probably why video games are so popular.
Is actually kind of an art of switching realities ... and it actually becomes a new way of living.
But what if ... we just decide to change our attitude in front of anything happens?!
What if one day we decide to be .... whoever we want to be?!
For example ... it happens i know a guy .. who is about 40 and is a person ... kind of a mix between introvert and extrovert. He decided one day to enjoy love stories ... of any kind.
He knew lots of ladies, but had only a relationship with them as businessman or as friend.
One day ... as an experiment ... he decided to tell few of them that he would like to have a love affair with them.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
50
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
He masters the power or words and formulated in the right way for every women he liked ... so that everything will sound excelent.
It might sound like a nonsense experiment for you ... but i should name it ... the experiment of daring to taste what he actually wanted. Instead of playing a video game ... with the art of going out with ladies ... my friend totally changed his attitude ... made the switch from introvert to extroverted and dared to say ... whatever he wanted ... whatever he desired.
You see ... dear friends ... we should not spoil our lives only dreaming
... but we should also dare to act.
The story with my dear friend is real ... the experiment is real ... but you should also try your own experiments, in the real life ... with whatever you would love to have.
And remember ... life ... real life ... is not a video game!
So ... dare to act ... even if you might be in the position of desiring ...
a nonsense.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
51
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
“Nah, bigger!”
... the Universe
It’s quite difficult to understand the meaning of life, even if you look
for it ... for years.
But you know why?!
Cause you don’t really look for the meaning of what life really means ... but the meaning of your life.
You ... just you ... nothing else ... no one else.
Everything you see in this world is ... YOU.
The the confusion appears ... between the meaning of life and the actual path that you are following.
But the funny thing is that sometimes, the Universe just change the script of our lives.
It can happen that you already have everything you ever wanted ...
but still a piece from the puzzle is missing.
And then .... everything change over night.
You lose everything ... and all looks like a tsunami that just ruins your life completely.
After things calms down ... it looks like you have only 2 options ... restart your life from scratch ... or just abandon the concept of being alive.
And many people get suicide in such situations ... totally losing the hope that they can be again in the position they had before. Everything is just a big test from the Universe.
And we doubt ... and doubt for days and weeks ... and months.
We can’t see any positive scenarios that might come for us again.
Too many people ... from all around the world were ... or maybe are
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
52
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
today in such a situation.
Can’t see the hope ... and if you meditate enough you will see that all you need to do for rebooting your life is ... have hope.
But ... even if deep inside you ... you know that the Divinity created everything you see ... mountains, seas, continents, planets, stars ...
you don’t have the power to believe that the Universe can treat you also in a great way.
You know ... Budha was the son of a king.
He had everything a human being from that time could dream .... but
he was feeling that a piece from the puzzle was missing.
He abandoned everything and went to a wild territory ... into the forest ... and stayed 6 years in there to meditate and find the awakening.
Imagine the nonsense.
To have everything ... and abandon the life style offered as the son of an important king from that time ... just to find the meaning of life. Even today ... his actions ... would be defined as a nonsense ... by 99% of the people from our planet.
Imagine a study made by the Institute of Statistic ... in the whole world ... asking if what Budha did ... was a wise thing to do ... or a nonsense?!
Many will see no meaning in what he did ... but in the end between becoming a king, because he was the son of a king ... the Universe offered him something greater ... he became a spiritual King.
Today everybody knows about Budha, even if they don’t really know his teachings.
You see ... sometimes ... there are people that follow a great path, that looks in the beginning a path of nonsense ... but sometimes, for the rest of us ... the Universe sends something that looks as a tsunami ... just for changing the direction ... on a greater path.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
53
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Sometimes people have the confusion
that being a nice person, means being weak ... silly ... and without the right attitude
Being kind, in a world that can be defined as a real jungle ... looks like a non sense virtue nowadays.
People have strong personalities ... and in fact so big Egos ... bigger than the Everest mountain ... as a friend of mine use to say ... and it’s quite difficult to deal with them. Being a kind person .. is a virtue indeed.
But being a kind person with people that have strong Egos ... is a game that you going to lose.
People love to be treated well ... but don’t know that probably the only thing they should do is to reply back in a nice way also. People go today in 2 and 3 stars hotel and expect to stay like in 5 stars hotels.
