They are treated like in luxury hotels ... but is just that the hotel itself is not designed in an expensive way. People changed a lot.
Everybody wants to be treated as a king, but nobody wants to reply in the same way back, cause a king is a king ... and can afford to act however he wants.
And the funny thing is that being nice to people will create the illusion that you are a weak person.
But what is the right balance between being nice and act tough?!
Do people resist for more that an episode ... acting in a tough way to them?!
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During the years, i had the surprise to see that i ended relationships that i had by a very long, long time .... just because one day i acted tough.
I understood that it’s not only that people want to be treated ... not only nice ... but in an excellence way ... but they love to dominate any kind of relationship they would have.
Being tough to them, even one time ... they will also feel dominated ... and will hurt their egos.
A pain at the ego ... is bigger than a cancer ... even if the ego itself is kind of a cancer.
You will destroy the illusion that sometimes they feel as a king or a queen.
So ... is there any way in how this problem can be solved?! Well ... there is probably only one way ... and that should be
...explaining them that you will leave, cause can’t understand their nonsense attitude after you treated them so well.
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How to argue with love ... an art for surviving in the actual era
Life isn’t easy.
It never was ... and will never be.
And truth be told ... we are many times in trouble because of that. And we don’t find enough energy inside of ourselves to fight with the situations or the people that create those situations. But why we should fight?!
... we could just argue with love.
And it’s quite funny, cause if you follow the statistics of the fights or situations you had to argue, you will be amazed to see that most of those events are related with your partner.
So ... arguing with love is a concept that should make sense.
It’s actually an art that would help us to survive ... and live better lives.
But don’t really know to act in this way.
Imagine we could understand the art of treating with love all the people from our lives ... the ones that serves us in restaurants, the ones from school, the ones from the bus, the ones from work ... and the ones from home.
Saying everything you want ... but smiling ... even if usually, in the past, that should had been transformed, in most of the cases, in a big fight .... having no real reason to happen.
You see ... sometimes the words are not enough.
The way we say it is the most important.
Adding a little bit of love ... and understanding that not everybody is your worst energy and that you don’t need to start a world war III
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because of that .... but also knowing how to send the love vibes with
the power of your words ... is probably the key.
... just think about!
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Divorce and marry again with the same person ... is this a non sense ... or not?!
It says that falling in love is easy ... but staying in love is hard.
The paradox is that the same person that you said years ago ... that you will love for an eternity ... in many of the love stories ... is the same person that today you find toxic and difficult to deal with.
The person that you declared you love the most ... is the same person that today is actually your worst enemy ... but you just don’t have the guts to say it.
It all becomes a nonsense.
You stay in a story ... and maybe in the same house ... with an enemy
... that you used to see as a God.
A total nonsense ... but i smiled today when i spoke with a lady that is marrying after 3 years of being a divorced person ... with her ex husband.
I met her, as being the girlfriend of one of my clients, a consul of a foreign country to the city where i live.
The guy is a Don Juan and i asked the lady who she is going to marry with ... just to amuse myself, cause i was sure it was not about my friend.
I spoke with her for about half an hour, telling me all the story with her ex but also new husband.
Their girl is extremely happy and i’m sorry i am not a great story
teller, as she is, but bottom line ... the whole story with them sounds
as a hollywoodian movie.
She was extremely happy.
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They stayed 3 years away one from another, they both had other relationships also ... but concluded that what they had togheter ... will not meet again during this life time.
Did not wanted to wait till they will be 70 years old ... discussed with their daughter also ... and decided to restart everything.
One more shot ... and they both are optimist that this time .... they
will be wise enough to forget about their nonsense behavior from the past.
... so you see?!
Happy endings exists ... but depends where you stop telling the story!
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The obsession of being someone important
... should be totally replaced with the intention
of helping everyone. That’s ... a better path even if it looks as a non sense!
I’ve been involved for a very long time into the internet business ...
and few years ago i published 2 books about how you can make online money, especially with an e shop.
The book had also a dvd, but i believe the price was huge ... about 50 usd.
It could help you start an online business right away if you had some technical knowledge.
Today i think i wrote the book only to make money for myself ... not to really help people to make online money.
But i’ve been so busy that i did not spent such a long time to sell the books ... and even if we had some sales ... it was not what i expected to happen.
Nowadays, the book has already few years and inside of it you can find informations that are not interesting anymore so i decided is time to get rid of the books.
I called a shop that sells old books, i told them that i want to give them the books for free and they refused me. I could not believed it.
How could they refuse me to give them the books for free?!
Are my books of no value at all?!
Well ... i bought over the years from that shop lots of good books, written by important writers and maybe i’ve been seen as a nobody ... and my books have no place in there.
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I saw lots of questions in my mind ... but few hours later i arranged with someone else to give him the books for free. It was a guy i knew.
He was in the city center ... having also a shop with old books ... and he loved i gave him the books for free.
We talked that he should present the book to students and explain to them that the meaning of the book is to help them start an online business with very little money.
We also agree that he will give them the books for a very low price so that they can afford to buy it.
So ... basically i started with the intention of getting 50 usd for a book and ended giving them for free, cause i did not sold them, but i was happy cause ... maybe today ... i can help some people i don’t even know to really start a business with almost no money in their pocket. So ... truth be told ... we follow only the path of money ... and i do the same all the time ... not really wanting to help the others ... but take their money.
Today i still have the obsession of writing 2 best sellers books ... one about the philosophy of non sense and one about the philosophy behind the internet, which is mainly based on giving valuable informations ... for free.
I still need to work with myself ... and change my thinking ... to decide that the target should not be to listen to the ego, that wants to become an important writer ... but to really help people from all around the world ... giving them in free kindle books ... very important informations that i have gather over the years trough practice.
But it’s a fight between the Ego and the soul ... and don’t really know who is going to win.
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And the question is ....
Is this your real vibe?! ... or the fake one?!
How do we really know the real face of people that we spend time with?!
Can their vibe, when they are with us ... tell us the truth about the relationship we have with them?!
It says that vibes never lie ... but why should someone have a fake vibe ... when being with us?!
To tell you the truth, the question ... “Is this your real vibe?! ... or the fake one?!” I heard from my wife, that believes i am a man with 1000 faces.
I am still smiling, cause in fact ... i know by such a long time ... that during our lifetime we all wear 1000 faces ... at least.
A face ... a mask ... a vibe ... however you want to name it ... is how you actually feel in that moment ... and in fact is nothing wrong with that ... cause we all have the a large spectrum of emotions.
But ... being nice ... after a long time of being bad guys ... will be strange.
Might look like we are liars ... but in fact we are not.
We also have moments when we feel great ... and we dare to be nice or even act in an amazing way.
And indeed ... it might look strange.
We can pretend for a while ... but can’t really carry the mask of a fake vibe for a long time.
The real nonsense from everything is that people don’t know how to act when they see our beautiful side.
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I wonder ... what if ... they would encourage us ... saying ... “I love your vibe from today. It would be fantastic to carry it in your soul all the time!”.
But anyone knows that we have a beautiful, but also a dark side and they don’t really believe ... in change.
They know that in most of the cases we have the ugly vibe in the soul
... and give us no chance in front of a change ... for a better way of acting on the stage of life.
I believe today that it does not really exists a fake vibe ... but only our tryings to be better persons ... even if no one ever taught us how to do it.
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Speaking to the walls ... one of the best therapy for mind and soul
I have a dear friend that i’ve chat a lot in the last few days about her complicated relationship she has ... with a person that she believes that is her soulmate.
She spoke a lot with friends, but came to the conclusion that this is not a good path, cause she brings all those energies from them into the connection she has with the guy.
Finding a counsellor to speak online sounded for her as the best way to solve the problem.
She is an extraordinary person and all she really wants is a beautiful relation with everything that includes ... so that she can have a happy life.
Her mind believes that she should not comeback to the guy anymore, because even if she feels that they are soul mates, or even twin flames, he is not the right path in the real life.
The problem is that there is a strong conflict between what she believes and what she feels ... and somehow the soul is pushing her to come back all the time to his arms.
But everything i was hearing from my dear friend ... i felt myself also ... not so long time ago.
It was exactly the same pattern.
It was like ... i was hearing my own love story.
I could not believe it.
Recently i’ve been in the same position with her and the only way i found at that time was to practice kind of a non sense discussion with ... the walls.
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I’ve spoke with friends, but this ... i believe also that it does not help so much, as we should believe ... so writing ... was as a close friend told me ... the way i was “speaking to the walls”.
I was defining from all points of view everything that was going on, every day ... any major events ... and i wrote 9 books with love essays.
Maybe 1300-1400 pages.
I am still smiling when i remember that ... but it helped me a lot.
I was my own counsellor, cause no one knew better as i knew ... what i felt inside of my soul.
And in the end ... the conflict between mind and soul ... just disappeared one day.
Today ... i believe we don’t really need any counsellor ... cause all the answers we are looking for are inside of us.
Speaking to the walls ... looks like a non sense ... but is an excellent ... maybe the best therapy for the soul.
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Sometimes the change can’t be implemented because of the ones that ask you the change
People around us are usually what we define as society.
We are programed to act in a certain way, to follow all kinds of rules ... but in one point things goes out of control.
Is not that we don’t follow the rules ... but we also break the rules. And then again we are asked to follow the instructions ... and forget about our rules.
We are asked to change, but the paradox is that even if people around us are asking for that ... they don’t really believe in us ... that we can follow what is defined by them as the right path ... the dogmatic one.
For example ... we know that drinking is not a good habit, but is legal and we usually start drinking with the ones that we name our friends. They taught us to drink, but when we lose control over this habit, they ask for a change at us ... not believing that we can really do it ... and in fact influencing us both times in a negative way.
We are taught to drink ... but they also repeat us that we will not abandon this bad habit ... just by not trusting us.
We are too much influenced by everything and everybody around us.
But ... what is named as change is actually an abstract non sense ...
that takes us to nowhere.
And we don’t even know what we should do.
Is drinking ok if is legal?!
What if we drink not so much ... but too often?!
Why should we abandon this behavior ... if everyone around us is doing it?!
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