INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
ADRIAN GABRIEL DUMITRU
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
… a non ending story
Year: 2021
Authors: Adrian Gabirel Dumitru
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EXAMPLE, WHETHER IT BE
GOOD OR BAD, HAS A
POWERFUL INFLUENCE
George Washington
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INTRODUCTION
Same story ... different results.
Re-evaluation can sometimes create miracles.
In many of the occasions in life, we see everything in a simple dogmatic way.
We are used with different kinds of results and believe that these represents the only case scenarios that can happen.
We want something else, but don’t really believe that life can bring us the ... goodies.
We predict the future, according to the past.
But you know, same story, with the same elements can also have a different result than we are used to expect.
We can influence reality ... just by expecting something totally different that we used to have.
For example ... there are cases when the Universe is sending us the same lesson on and on and on ... till the day when we understand that we need to do things differently to get a different result ... and improve everything happens.
Sometimes we are good theoreticians, sometimes we can’t even see clearly reality and understand the meaning of the events ... especially the negative ones.
But having optimistic standards can help us break any problem ... and in the end influence the energetic field of any situation, event .. or even the energetic field of other people.
And when i use the term ... energetic field ... i mean the environment itself, with all its attributes that defines everything in a certain way. I can give a simple example.
I was in a morning in my garden, reading a book.
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I was on a chair, in a specific place from my garden ... and i use to use that place by almost 10 years.
From that point, i see the beauty of my garden in a specific way, but
because it was a very hot day, and the sun came in that point, i had
to move the chair in a different place from the garden, not to stay
anymore in the sun.
I was amazed.
I almost saw a different garden from that position.
I loved it ... but everything was a totally different perspective.
This was a simple case scenario ... seeing even something beautiful, from a different angle and almost believe is something else.
But in theory, and even in practice, we can have even negative perspectives totally metamorphosized into positive one.
We can change the script of any scenario, by re-evaluate
everything ... just by expecting of getting a positive result ... the one we desire.
This is how, only by having an opened mind, ignoring the statistical datas from your past, the one that defines the probability of having a certain scenario ... we can actually influence, but also change the reality itself.
And what we define as miracle ... is in fact just changing the believe into the fact that ... life can be also the way we dare to dream.
Truth be told, the reality can be created or even re-created in any way we want it to happen.
All we need to do is to connect to that energetic field, which actually means ... be one with the present moment ... and expect as everything should happen in a specific way that you want.
Even the miracle itself is just a different result ... the one that we had in mind and wanted.
So ... realities can be defined, redefined, but also written in any specific way.
A hollywoodian movie ... has amazing scenes and all the scenes are a telling the details of the story ... so that it will have a powerful message, but also powerful impact on you.
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You connect with the reality of those scenes, but most probably the same scene was filmed by 5th - 7th ... even 15th times, till they considered they had the perfect one.
The same way, certain events could be redefined by us, just by meditating, finding the best solution for that event ... and then implemented in the real life.
And try ... and try again ... till the moment it just happens.
And the life can look like a hollywoodian movie also ... by using the power of re-evaluation, re-defining and keeping an opened mind, expecting all the time positive scenarios for our lives.
We are the creators of our reality ... by conscious or unconscious thoughts ... but in the end we should keep in our mind that what looks like a negative script, might be just a life lesson ... not finding yet the right path in life ... but every scenario can be re written in the way we want it to happen.
The key?! I mean the key of getting out of the labyrinth ... is connecting to that reality ... that energetic field ... and have great expectations from it.
So ... even if you don’t know it yet ... there is an art of influencing reality and you can learn it.
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Best case scenarios ... can be real.
It’s just a decision.
The decision of opening your heart while acting on the stage of your own life.
It happens i know a story about a couple married by more than 15 years.
The guy was trying to influence his wife in different ways so that she will act in a certain way ... as he wanted.
He had a vision, of the perfect case scenario for his wife, but no matter what he was trying ... he was not seeing that change in his house.
He knew about manipulation.
He knew about the persuasion.
He knew how to apply the law of attraction.
Basically he knew all the tricks ... but no matter what he was trying he was not getting a long term result close to what he wanted. Actually ... a guy knowing how reality can be influenced ... had no result at all.
He proved himself that he is just a theoretician ... and has no idea about practicing anything what he knew. But one day a miracle was happening.
They were expecting at their house, a close relative that was coming from a foreign country.
The wife started to clean the house, the garden, the car ... and everything related to them was looking perfect.
The wife even pretended that she loves her husband.
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She was speaking to him in such a beautiful way, that for a moment he even thought that his wife started to use drugs or lost her mind. It was totally illogical what was happening.
All he was expecting to get in all those years of marriage ... one day just happened.
“So .. he said to himself ... i was thinking for such a long time for the perfect case scenario in a marriage ... and i was right.
It can be real.
You probably .. just need to wait.
For my case took 15 years ... which might look as an eternity ... but it worth it!”
But ... the guy was so, so naive.
He was the kind of profile that was reading thousands of books and was living in that imaginary world of books.
His wife did not changed.
She did not care about her husband at all ... and neither about his intentions of living the ... perfect life ... which she actually believed that is only an illusion.
The lady was obsessed about ... what the world .... in that case her
relative that came and stayed for a while at her house ... what is going to think about her.
She was obsessed of creating the illusory perfect scenario ... as her aunt to believe that she is living the perfect life.
More than 2000 years ago, Seneca was telling us about the unseen strange energy of ... what we think that others think of us and its importance.
The same importance ... maybe even more powerful ... you can see it nowadays anywhere in the world.
You will find people that try to influence reality in different ways ...
only as one day they will be in the position of living the perfect case scenario ... which is the actually the perfect life they dream about. But you will also see people obsessed of how the others are perceiving them, their lives and everything related to them. The obsession itself is to create kind of a personal brand that is
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defined ... by perfection.
Has the perfect look.
Has the perfect partner.
... the perfect job.
... the perfect kid.
... the perfect house.
... the perfect vacation.
Etc etc.
Everything runs around the word ... perfect.
But this illusory perfection ... is not just part of a scenario that we present to the world.
... and social media helps a lot for that.
So ... in the end i could say that we just live, like the 2 partners from the story, between the desire of having the perfect life and making the others believe we live the perfect life.
But we always forget, even if we try in so many ways to influence reality ... that life should not be perfect ... or look perfect ... but be ... real.
And if it is something real ... that comes from deep of our hearts ...
one day we could realize that we actually live the perfect case scenario.
It’s just a decision ... the decision of acting in life with the opened heart.
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Don’t follow the rules!
... just follow the heart!
I wondered myself many times why the Universe ... God ... Allah ..
the Supreme Intelligence ... just choose the name that you prefer ...
let the human being have this balance between thoughts and feelings ... brain and heart.
Sometimes is much too complicated and many times we actually don’t know what to choose.
Or maybe there is nothing to choose at all.
Following rules ... certain paths ... is the way the human being is living life.
But between the rules ... the dogmatic way of being ... we have certain moments when we let the heart influence our lives.
Let’s say we let the heart ... sing ... and do whatever wants to do.
But it’s a circle.
After the courage of following the heart, we just come back to the dogmatism ... and choose again the things we need to choose.
No one told us that the rules are made to be broken and we prefer to play on the scene of life just as the others are doing.
We align ourselves to the standards ... forgetting that the only true rule in life should be to connect to the inner self and let it influence the decision we take.
The inner self will be maybe in total conflict with the outer self ... the Ego ... but will send the right sign through the heart.
Call it intuition, connection .... whatever ... but the answer will be
there.
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If you ignore it ... if you prefer to stay blind ... this might be also a decision ... but don’t really know it a good one. Life is beautiful!
We should decide only what is the best for us ... the perfect scenarios, and let the heart influence our decision.
Think with the brain ... but always let the heart decide.
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Introvert + extrovert = a total mess?!
... or maybe just a different
reaction than we thought?!
An introvert is a person that believes is not able to influence the curent reality.
The extrovert is a person that is doing exactly the opposite, trying to dominate reality.
The extrovert ... use the term ... influence ... to sound better, but actually love the word ... dominate.
But what really happens when an extrovert meets with the introvert?!
Who is controlling the scene?!
Well ... of course that the extrovert will start the chapter, will try to run the show ... but after a short time he understand that the introvert, especially if is a lady will not be in there anyway.
She is present physically, but not in connection with the extrovert.
On the other hand ... the funny thing is that the extrovert realize after a while that all what he controls is actually ... nothing.
A scene ... with the extrovert acting in a certain way, specific to his style, but the introvert ... is not a spectator.
The reaction between the 2 styles is a strange one ... difficult to be described.
A total mess?!
Or just a different reaction than we thought about till now?!
I somehow believe that the introvert and the extrovert could be teachers one for another.
One is trying to influence reality too much, the other one is doing nothing in that direction.
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One is trying to over connect and dominate everything in the present moment ... the other one is not connecting at all with the scene of life, ignoring everything happens around.
You see ... sometimes the Universe is sending into our lives ...
different kinds of people, even the ones having opposite styles than we have ... just to see other kinds of acting, to keep the right balance about how we feel and act on the timeline of our lives.
So ... in the end i should say that the reaction between an extrovert and an introvert will always be a strange one ... probably no one of them will understand the real lesson ... the message behind the message.
This need of influencing or not influencing an energy field where we activate ... should be kept at a certain level, but maybe this is an art and not everybody is an artist ... not even an introvert or an extrovert.
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Controlling reality
.... our main obsession
Karl Pillemer, professor at the Cornel University, tried to find an answer for the meaning of life, by talking to 1200 seniors about what they could say about the subject after living so many years in this world.
