It was funny that all of them mentioned that they regret that they spent so much time worrying too much for many things that in fact never happened, or if they happened, it was just a light version of those apocalyptic scenarios.
The problem for us, the ones that are not seniors yet, the ones that we still act on the stage of life in a very active way ... is that we do the same as them.
We worry about the fact that reality is so strange that we actually don’t even know what could happen ... in a negative direction. But we expect as bad things to happen.
In fact we worry so much ... that even when reality is just the way we dreamed to be ... we have the belief that something could appear right away and ruin all the beauty of that dreamed life.
We are obsessed that we can’t control reality.
But reality can’t be controlled.
The reality ... our own reality in fact ... is the scene where we’ve been placed by the Universe.
Sometimes i even believe that after the Universe sent us in a specific place and scenario ... smiled and said ... “To understand the meaning of life, you just need to ... survive where i placed you!”
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But instead of seeing in everything happens, only life lessonswe
are trapped by negativity....
The opposite, the positive thinking ... is the way out of the labyrinth of the illusions.
There are moments when inside of us there is a fight of the positive and negative elements of our being, but we can’t understand that we just don’t need to control reality.
If something bad needs to happen, it will just happen.
We can call this ... destiny ... but in the end is kind of a forced path for making us understand the real meaning of life.
A person having cancer, for example ... is somehow forced to stop from anything is involved in ... and forget about the illusory life.
A doctor can save the person that has cancer, but will not be able to say to that person ... you are totally healed and cancer will not appear again.
Most probably that person needs to follow more paths for healing: going to the doctor, read books about spirituality, going to the church or energetic therapy, going to a nutritionist etc etc.
Follow all those paths, but having hope in the soul all the time. Without hope ... any path should be useless to follow, cause the hope is the deep desire from our souls to influence reality in a positive and beautiful way.
Somehow we must make the difference between the terms “control” and “influence” ... control reality versus influence reality.
The day when we understand that we should not lose our time forcing reality go in a certain direction ... but embrace the present moment ... just the way it is ... that is probably the day when we actually start understanding something about the path of awakening. So ... forget about your obsession of controlling life ... and start to meditate about the philosophy behind the art of influencing it, which is actually based on positive principles. ... just think about it!
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The law of attraction is not for idiots ... so be aware of the way you think and what you think about
I’ve been studying the law of attraction, its principles, the way we should apply it ... and saw it as mechanism for having the life we really wanted.
But i understood from the early beginning that not knowing how and when to really use it ... can even ruin our lives. In fact ... is even worst as that.
We actually use the law actually in our daily life ... not even knowing that the law really exists.
It happens i have a dear friend that is actually very good with the energies and even telling me the future.
Every time i am not on the right path ... she smiles and instead of saying that .... she ironically says ... “You’re an idiot!”.
I then realize that actually i am not using the law of attraction in the right way.
Naming me “idiot” ... my dear friend actually tells me to re evaluate the situation and pay more attention to my desires.
Lots of times we want to influence reality, but in fact ... we have lots of silly desires ... with no real sense or value.
It’s even a balance between wanting totally different things.
Today we want that ... and tomorrow we want the opposite.
A part of us, that part that dominates us in that moment, tells us ... “i want to divorce”.
The next day ... something inside of us is whispering, saying ... “Let
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me try one more time ... and give a new chance to my marriage”. It’s kind of a bipolarity in all of us ... in everything is really important. The list with similar examples is infinite and this balance between totally different desires ... just ruins us.
Then i understand why my friend calls me idiot ... from time to time. She sees into the future and knows i am not following a good direction.
She knows i know tricks about the law of attraction and that i am using them to influence reality in a silly way.
Yes ... the law of attraction is a very powerful and interesting mechanism for getting the life that we desire .... but before even
thinking of using it ... we should meditate if the desire itself is something positive in our lives or not.
We should visualize the whole scenario, its implications ... and in the end ask ourselves if we are really willing to pay the price for that dream.
So ... maybe i should mention that an “idiot” is not a silly person ...
but a person that is not paying attention to all the details while trying to influence reality.
The law of attraction is a very powerful tool, but maybe the first desire we should have is just to be wise enough while we are using it. So ... be aware of your desires ... and i am sure that you have lots of desires ... cause one day it might just happen.
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The Universe will first smile
... then laugh ... and say ... “So shall it be!”
... a real story about the script of
financial freedom that actually
took a guy to ... hell, even if
everything looked like the
perfect case scenario
There are so many stories about financial freedom over the internet, that you might fall in love with the idea.
People from all around the world will tell you all kinds of stories like that.
I even know a guy that is charging 10.000 usd for seminar of 3 days, telling you his story about how he succeeded to buy 1.000 houses. In fact he charges so much, because is actually telling people the secret about how can someone influence reality for getting such a huge real estate success as him.
But it happens that i also know by a very long time a guy that after 20 years of intensive work, working directly with more than 10.000 clients, losing his mind and all the energy with all those people, decided to invest all his money into real estate ... buying 30 properties and then retire.
It was a very simple plan for financial independence ... cause every day a tenant would pay him for the rent.
One day ... one more payment for his pocket ... which was actually the perfect case scenario for financial freedom. The guy could not even spend the money.
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He used to be very modest and sometimes being so busy, he did not even had time to eat ... so he was wondering ... “what could i do with with all those money?”
He was reaching the life of financial independence.
But believe it or not his life as a rentier was more complicated, as he thought.
One house had problems with water, one with electricity, one with the swimming pool, one with the air conditioning etc etc.
Basically ... everyday was something happening, so the big change .... was actually no change at all.
It was an exchange with a different model of business ... but it was no real change for his life to a model of being more relaxed.
The financial independence actually took the guy to ... hell, even if everything looked like the perfect case scenario for a new life.
So ... like this guy, it also happens to us that we want to change reality with one that might look like the perfect one ... but ... sometimes the Universe is just laughing of us.
There is no perfect case scenario.
Life itself can be split into different chapters ... but all of them can be the perfect ones if you really know to appreciate the fact that you are alive.
Influencing reality, following a path to a different scenario ... if is really the path for you ... it will work and will make you really happy ... but if is not the path destined to you ... will just not bring the goodies.
Perfect case scenarios are just theories.
In many cases ... the real life ... the one that you live now is actually the best script for you.
All you need to do is just connect to it and enjoy it!
If not ... the Universe will first smile ... then laugh ... and say ... “So shall it be!”
... and all you will do is just exchange a type of life with a similar one.
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Not the reality makes you unhappy
... but the way you see reality
One day ... I was on the street.
Was walking.
One dog was close to me, but also close to 2 boys.
One was saying ... “wow! Is scary! This dog can actually eat us right away!”.
The other boy, the little one, was saying ... “What a beautiful dog! I want to hug him!”.
On the street, around us, it was only one dog ... defined by the 2 boys in totally different ways.
I was watching the dog and could not know which of the 2 boys to believe.
My opinion about that scene was influenced by 2 kids ... and i was actually wondering which one was right.
Then ... i realized ... that if 2 little boys could create this balance in my mind ... about defining a dog ... how many other times in my life, i was probably influenced by the others regarding what i thought that was ... my reality.
Actually my reality ... was what other people thought ... not my real thoughts or ideas.
Depends a lot from which point of view we see the scene of life and if we have the gut to be at least neutral regarding reality.
And in many cases, we end up believing that reality can make us unhappy ... not the way we see it.
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But the way we see it ... is many times influenced by many, many people that live in the same energetic field with us.
So the unhappiness itself is actually induced by the opinions of the others, opinions that actually are not filtered so well by us.
And this is how we live with the illusion that we don’t live a beautiful
reality and even that we need to exchange it with something else.
But no one bothered to tell us that instead of trying to influence and
maybe even completely change the way we live ... we should just
change the perspective.
Redefine in fact ... our thoughts.
... and also realize the influence of the others on us ... allow them to do that ... or not ... and why not just remove them from our lives. Sometimes ... the influences could be a good one.
But in many cases ... we need to open our eyes and pay attention at everything is going on.
The game of influencing reality, but also the one of being influenced by the others ... will be a non ending story.
We should not be happy or unhappy because of the scene from the present moment.
Pay attention to all the details from life ... cause sometimes things are a little bit more complicated as they might look like.
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Zoom in - zoom out ... and then you will understand how we can actually influence reality
You might have a fabulous car, but a small scratch on it ... will really annoy you.
But the car still looks amazing.
The others will not even notice the scratch, but only remembering about it ... will just fuck your vibe, which actually means that will influence your state of being in a negative way.
So ... the whole picture with the car is great ... the car looks fabulous, but with the zoom in technique, analyzing all the details of the car ...
the scratch will be found, analyzed, dramatized ... and in the end destroy the image of the amazing car.
That was a simple example of practicing the zoom in - zoom out technique.
The huge problem when we start to define us and work with this amazing technique ... is that somehow, not really knowing all the details about how to apply those methods ... we remain blocked on the “zoom out” mode.
We see a “scratch” ... any kind of small negative element from our lives, we analyze it and we zoom it in... amplifying all the details to a level where it all might look like a disaster.
The zoom in way of analyzing can be actually used to easily find out what is not working properly in our lives.
The life itself, same as the case with the car ... can be a great one.
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Finding out the things that are not working properly, fix or totally replace them ... and then zoom out again ... that should be the path. But we became too ... hypersensitive ... and we pay too much attention to minor details.
We can’t understand anymore that if ... overall things are ok ... that is all it really matters.
We should not identify ourselves... as souls ... with all the details we see.
Defining ... analyzing ... is great.
You understand better your life, your path ... your way of being.
But identifying with any kind of detail is ... probably wrong ... cause in many cases we see only the negative elements and the influence itself can be mainly negative.
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A small little house or a mansion?! Which one will influence more your state of being?!
My question is ... the house where we live can really influence our lives so much?!
Why people are paying so much attention and spend so much money
when it comes about the house?!
Can a house make us happy?!
Is really the house ... the energetic field where we live ... or the story is a little bit more complex than that?
