In the case of drug addiction is almost the same ... but only few people realize that they need at least a year ... so that the past could be defined as something that they are detached from.
The alcohol, the drugs or any other kind of addiction are in fact illusions that we somehow enjoy at the time we “consume” them .... but they just somehow ... ruins us.
There are hundreds of ways of being addicted in the modern society ... from using the phone in an exaggerated way, being an workaholic etc etc ... even the wish of always trying to help the others ... but never take care of yourself.
We actually don’t know the art of keeping the right balance in life ...
at all its important aspects.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
A weird fact is that there are moments in life when we understand the power and the bad influence of that addiction on us ... and what we do is actually an illusory trick ... change the addiction with another one ... not even understanding what is going on. We somehow become addicted by addictions.
It’s a trap ... but we are blinds and can’t see it.
And the illusory power that makes us believe we can control ourselves
... just because we stoped an addition, but in fact we only replaced it with another one ... can let us draw the conclusion that we can control the addictions.
But we are just ... playing around ... and the addictions are laughing of us ... letting us feel that we control the scene ... and we end up all the time being controlled, but also defined ... by the illusions.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
72
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Don’t bother to listen to the others
... listen to your inner self
Ask for an advice and you will receive 1 million advices ... even from people that you met for the first time.
Ask at the same people ... 1 penny to implement those advices ... so that they could be co-authors on the new ideas they want you to implement and ... silence will begin.
You could also ask them to help you for real do the things they said about ... and most probably they will never have the necessary time for that.
I started to analyze the world not through the eyes of my thinking, but through the eyes of my actions.
I asked myself, one day ... have i ever did something for real to really help the people from my life?!
Well ... i did ... i had such moments.
During the time i probably had about 300 employs that worked for me.
I worked with them one to one .... and gave them lots of advices ...
thousands of advices.
I was kind of a teacher and all of them work now in very well known companies ... in important positions.
So ... i spent lots of time, energy and also money to train them ... but all the time i was co-interested into that, cause i wanted to have a very good technical team .... so that i could make good money with them.
In the end ... i realized that all i did was because i also had a big interest regarding their growth in the area we worked.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
73
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Later on ... i could do similar things only for some family members ...
but never for strangers.
But i gave one million advices in my life.
Not one thousands ... not ten thousands .... but one million.
Today ... i changed a little bit.
Even before i try to think about giving an advice, i ask myself if i have an interest in doing that ... or if i ... really care about that person. The simple fact of caring ... gives a good energy to the advice itself. But i learnt to do something better ... instead of coming with my theories trying to illuminate someone i don’t even know so well ... i ask the following question ... “what your inner self tells you to do?!” And i see people that looks so weird at me.
Is almost like explaining them a theory about ufos, but it was just a simple spiritual talk, about connecting and talking to the inner self. But i continue wondering myself why we need as people to advice
us ... when actually the answer can be found just by asking ourselves. Well ... even if we believe in the theory that inside of us ... there is a soul ... we don’t really trust in this connection. The connection of you ... with your inner ... you.
Someone from the outside world needs to confirm you ... something that you already know.
But we are too silly to see that.
Is probably the most important thing that we should be taught in life ... to connect to our souls ... and trust what it whispers us. You should not bother to listen to the others ... but you should also not bother to advice the others.
Just ... learn and teach ... the art of connecting to the inner self.
Is a much better way of practicing the art of influencing ... no matter if is about influencing or being influenced.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
74
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Practicing the non sense
I’ve been walking on the streets, in the middle of the night.
It was Saturday night and a very beautiful weather.
While being right in the city center ... i saw at the entrance of Grand Hotel Continental a homeless person about my age.
I smiled a little bit, but somehow with curiosity ... then i was wondering myself ... why is this guy sleeping at the entrance of such a luxurious hotel ... and no one is noticing him?! It was ... a non sense.
The guy had nothing ... and was sleeping at one of the most expensive hotels from the city.
Maybe, long time ago ... he’s been a rich person and wants, in the only possible way ... to taste again that richness from the past. Yes ... it really was a non sense ... but i then realized he is not the only guy that is staying at the hotel ... that has nothing.
I’ve been walking few meters more and at the restaurant i saw a beautiful lady ... staying at the same table with a guy that looked like a very wealthy person.
They were not even looking to each other ...not speaking ... and showed no any sign of connectivity at all.
Everything was so ... evident ... that my mind came back in the next second to the homeless person from the entrance.
There were 3 persons in the scene ... that had nothing at all on this world.
Maybe 4 ... if i should include myself.
So ... it was the night of the non sense show ... letting me understand what “nothing” really means ... which in my opinion was actually the study of ... emptiness.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
75
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
One of the best hotels ... a homeless person ... 2 wealthy person ...
and me.
A weird philosophical equation.
I started to believe that ... the NOTHING ... can influence our lives in such a powerful way ... and ... i was remembering that i knew for such a long time that you could have everything and actually have nothing ... but also have nothing and actually have everything. Was the homeless person happy that night at the luxurious hotel?!
But ... what about the wealthy guy?!
I was just walking ... like a lost person ... on streets ... having no purpose at all ... or maybe just to purpose of clearing my mind of silly thoughts ... and the meeting with the “nothing” ... became a tasty amusing non sense.
... and i continued walking.
There was nothing better that i could do.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
The curse.
Mud can’t be
metamorphosed into gold
Sometimes we believe ... in change.
Sometimes the change looks ... illusory ... but we still continue to believe that we can make a magic trick ... and that glamour of the life might appear.
We become some kind of alchemist and we really think reality will be soon different.
Well ... alchemy, was a form of speculative thought that, among other aims, tried to transform base metals such as lead or copper into silver or gold.
But ... we practice alchemy in a spiritual way.
We have the belief we can influence reality in such a way ... that even if everything looks grey today ... the next day will be repainted into pink.
All negative things, situations, believes ... will be positive ...
tomorrow.
We hope that the art of spiritual alchemy is real.
We need that and we cannot afford to be so pessimistic ... to not trust in this new science that we discovered.
But the next day ... we wake up and see that grey is again everywhere.
No one bothered to paint into pink ... not even one element from the scene.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
77
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
In fact pink is so unused that you don’t even find it in the bricolage shops.
But the hope does not disappears.
You just know that tomorrow is a new day ... and a new chance.
You look around ... and you only see ... mud.
You actually want everything metamorphosed into gold ... but maybe a curse stops this alchemistic process.
Time is passing.
You don’t become pessimistic ... but still you realize you need to be realistic.
What looks like a curse is maybe just a message from the Universe ...
that the gold exists ... but is not in there.
All you need to do ... is just take the decision on finding gold somewhere else.
Alchemy is just a fake science.
It existed ... but no one really proved they could transform any cheap metal into gold.
You failed ... like the alchemists.
But still ... the gold exists.
... just look somewhere else ... and you might find it!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
78
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Spoiling opportunities ... a real “art”
that we practice so, so welll
Years ago i’ve met a guy that looked very wealthy.
He just bought at that time a gorgeous mediterranean house, had fabulous cars .... and the attitude of a very important person.
He looked like a very powerful man and probably he really was.
I heard lots of stories about him ... that he used to be a pimp and a drug dealer in UK ... but i ignored all of these because did not knew if it was true or not.
I interacted very little with him at that time ... but the main attributes i could see at him were ... a powerful attitude and wealth.
He was about 10 years older than me ... but no matter what people
said about him ... i liked the fact that he inspired me that he is in
control of everything around.
But ... life is really strange.
Few days ago i’ve meet him again.
He was a taxi driver.
He was a little bit ashamed that i see him in this position, but i just smiled to him.
We spoke few things and then i asked ... “what happened?!” “Well ... money had a bad influence over us. We spent them in the most silliest way.
We bought an expensive house ... expensive cars ... in fact everything we bought ... was expensive.
We also spent huge amounts of money on parties ... just to show to the others that we are really wealthy.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
79
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
We invested too much in marketing ... till one day when we understood that we spoiled the opportunity of being in a good financial position, without even bothering what the others think about us.”
We haven’t seen each other for about 10 years and the script of his life was totally changed.
Or maybe 20 years ago he was a taxi driver ... then a wealthy guy ...
then again a taxi driver.
Jim Rohn used to say that if you want to study success you will need to spend time with successful people ... but also with people that failed in life ... and failed big.
The last category could actually tell you all the mistakes they did ...
so that they spoiled the big opportunity ... cause this is a real “art” that we do practice so, so well.
We want success ... but under the pressure of that success ... we get scared ... and instead of really keeping the success ... we pay too much attention on keeping the image of that success.
So ... before starting on the path of success ... just think for a while at the whole story ... and all the factors that can influence you on this journey.
... and study successful people ... but also ... the unsuccessful people.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
80
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Controlling everything around us ... masked under the need of influencing the world
Truth be told ... we’d love as reality to be according to a scenario
written by us in a certain way.
We know all the details.
We want as the wife to act in a certain way, the kids also ... the parents ... the friends ... even the strangers we meet only for 3-4 seconds on the street ... while walking on the way to work.
Having an egocentric view about life itself ... we cannot understand that we are not the sun and the rest of the people from our lives should only gravitate towards ... our ego.
We even start to define all what we do ... as a tendency of influencing the world in a positive way ... but actually ... all we do is accomplish our silly desire of controlling everything around us. Is it good?!
Is it bad?!
Well ... at one point the friends will get annoyed by your advices, the wife also ... by all your requests ... and even the kids will ignore you. It’s already clear for everyone that you try to control reality ... and you hide this under the mask of the positive influence that you would love to offer.
And i admit it ... i did this too ... many, many times.
I don’t ask you ... if this is actually a habit for you ... but maybe at the right time you will meditate over the subject. The solution?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
81
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Well ... today in my case ... in the moments when i believe i can influence the world ... i just try to connect with ... strangers ... people that i don’t know at all.
They might never appear in my life ... so if i do something for them ...
even make them smile for a second ... i will do it for no interest ... not even for the one of satisfying my ego that i did something positive. Controlling the world around us ... is a disease, but on the other hand
... the world needs indeed positive influence all the time.
Just think about it ... and don’t mix the concept of controlling ... with the one of the positive influence.
The alcohol, the drugs or any other kind of addiction are in fact illusions that we somehow enjoy at the time we “consume” them .... but they just somehow ... ruins us.
There are hundreds of ways of being addicted in the modern society ... from using the phone in an exaggerated way, being an workaholic etc etc ... even the wish of always trying to help the others ... but never take care of yourself.
We actually don’t know the art of keeping the right balance in life ...
at all its important aspects.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
A weird fact is that there are moments in life when we understand the power and the bad influence of that addiction on us ... and what we do is actually an illusory trick ... change the addiction with another one ... not even understanding what is going on. We somehow become addicted by addictions.
It’s a trap ... but we are blinds and can’t see it.
And the illusory power that makes us believe we can control ourselves
... just because we stoped an addition, but in fact we only replaced it with another one ... can let us draw the conclusion that we can control the addictions.
But we are just ... playing around ... and the addictions are laughing of us ... letting us feel that we control the scene ... and we end up all the time being controlled, but also defined ... by the illusions.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
72
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Don’t bother to listen to the others
... listen to your inner self
Ask for an advice and you will receive 1 million advices ... even from people that you met for the first time.
Ask at the same people ... 1 penny to implement those advices ... so that they could be co-authors on the new ideas they want you to implement and ... silence will begin.
You could also ask them to help you for real do the things they said about ... and most probably they will never have the necessary time for that.
I started to analyze the world not through the eyes of my thinking, but through the eyes of my actions.
I asked myself, one day ... have i ever did something for real to really help the people from my life?!
Well ... i did ... i had such moments.
During the time i probably had about 300 employs that worked for me.
I worked with them one to one .... and gave them lots of advices ...
thousands of advices.
I was kind of a teacher and all of them work now in very well known companies ... in important positions.
So ... i spent lots of time, energy and also money to train them ... but all the time i was co-interested into that, cause i wanted to have a very good technical team .... so that i could make good money with them.
In the end ... i realized that all i did was because i also had a big interest regarding their growth in the area we worked.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
73
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Later on ... i could do similar things only for some family members ...
but never for strangers.
But i gave one million advices in my life.
Not one thousands ... not ten thousands .... but one million.
Today ... i changed a little bit.
Even before i try to think about giving an advice, i ask myself if i have an interest in doing that ... or if i ... really care about that person. The simple fact of caring ... gives a good energy to the advice itself. But i learnt to do something better ... instead of coming with my theories trying to illuminate someone i don’t even know so well ... i ask the following question ... “what your inner self tells you to do?!” And i see people that looks so weird at me.
Is almost like explaining them a theory about ufos, but it was just a simple spiritual talk, about connecting and talking to the inner self. But i continue wondering myself why we need as people to advice
us ... when actually the answer can be found just by asking ourselves. Well ... even if we believe in the theory that inside of us ... there is a soul ... we don’t really trust in this connection. The connection of you ... with your inner ... you.
Someone from the outside world needs to confirm you ... something that you already know.
But we are too silly to see that.
Is probably the most important thing that we should be taught in life ... to connect to our souls ... and trust what it whispers us. You should not bother to listen to the others ... but you should also not bother to advice the others.
Just ... learn and teach ... the art of connecting to the inner self.
Is a much better way of practicing the art of influencing ... no matter if is about influencing or being influenced.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
74
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Practicing the non sense
I’ve been walking on the streets, in the middle of the night.
It was Saturday night and a very beautiful weather.
While being right in the city center ... i saw at the entrance of Grand Hotel Continental a homeless person about my age.
I smiled a little bit, but somehow with curiosity ... then i was wondering myself ... why is this guy sleeping at the entrance of such a luxurious hotel ... and no one is noticing him?! It was ... a non sense.
The guy had nothing ... and was sleeping at one of the most expensive hotels from the city.
Maybe, long time ago ... he’s been a rich person and wants, in the only possible way ... to taste again that richness from the past. Yes ... it really was a non sense ... but i then realized he is not the only guy that is staying at the hotel ... that has nothing.
I’ve been walking few meters more and at the restaurant i saw a beautiful lady ... staying at the same table with a guy that looked like a very wealthy person.
They were not even looking to each other ...not speaking ... and showed no any sign of connectivity at all.
Everything was so ... evident ... that my mind came back in the next second to the homeless person from the entrance.
There were 3 persons in the scene ... that had nothing at all on this world.
Maybe 4 ... if i should include myself.
So ... it was the night of the non sense show ... letting me understand what “nothing” really means ... which in my opinion was actually the study of ... emptiness.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
75
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
One of the best hotels ... a homeless person ... 2 wealthy person ...
and me.
A weird philosophical equation.
I started to believe that ... the NOTHING ... can influence our lives in such a powerful way ... and ... i was remembering that i knew for such a long time that you could have everything and actually have nothing ... but also have nothing and actually have everything. Was the homeless person happy that night at the luxurious hotel?!
But ... what about the wealthy guy?!
I was just walking ... like a lost person ... on streets ... having no purpose at all ... or maybe just to purpose of clearing my mind of silly thoughts ... and the meeting with the “nothing” ... became a tasty amusing non sense.
... and i continued walking.
There was nothing better that i could do.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
The curse.
Mud can’t be
metamorphosed into gold
Sometimes we believe ... in change.
Sometimes the change looks ... illusory ... but we still continue to believe that we can make a magic trick ... and that glamour of the life might appear.
We become some kind of alchemist and we really think reality will be soon different.
Well ... alchemy, was a form of speculative thought that, among other aims, tried to transform base metals such as lead or copper into silver or gold.
But ... we practice alchemy in a spiritual way.
We have the belief we can influence reality in such a way ... that even if everything looks grey today ... the next day will be repainted into pink.
All negative things, situations, believes ... will be positive ...
tomorrow.
We hope that the art of spiritual alchemy is real.
We need that and we cannot afford to be so pessimistic ... to not trust in this new science that we discovered.
But the next day ... we wake up and see that grey is again everywhere.
No one bothered to paint into pink ... not even one element from the scene.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
77
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
In fact pink is so unused that you don’t even find it in the bricolage shops.
But the hope does not disappears.
You just know that tomorrow is a new day ... and a new chance.
You look around ... and you only see ... mud.
You actually want everything metamorphosed into gold ... but maybe a curse stops this alchemistic process.
Time is passing.
You don’t become pessimistic ... but still you realize you need to be realistic.
What looks like a curse is maybe just a message from the Universe ...
that the gold exists ... but is not in there.
All you need to do ... is just take the decision on finding gold somewhere else.
Alchemy is just a fake science.
It existed ... but no one really proved they could transform any cheap metal into gold.
You failed ... like the alchemists.
But still ... the gold exists.
... just look somewhere else ... and you might find it!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
78
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Spoiling opportunities ... a real “art”
that we practice so, so welll
Years ago i’ve met a guy that looked very wealthy.
He just bought at that time a gorgeous mediterranean house, had fabulous cars .... and the attitude of a very important person.
He looked like a very powerful man and probably he really was.
I heard lots of stories about him ... that he used to be a pimp and a drug dealer in UK ... but i ignored all of these because did not knew if it was true or not.
I interacted very little with him at that time ... but the main attributes i could see at him were ... a powerful attitude and wealth.
He was about 10 years older than me ... but no matter what people
said about him ... i liked the fact that he inspired me that he is in
control of everything around.
But ... life is really strange.
Few days ago i’ve meet him again.
He was a taxi driver.
He was a little bit ashamed that i see him in this position, but i just smiled to him.
We spoke few things and then i asked ... “what happened?!” “Well ... money had a bad influence over us. We spent them in the most silliest way.
We bought an expensive house ... expensive cars ... in fact everything we bought ... was expensive.
We also spent huge amounts of money on parties ... just to show to the others that we are really wealthy.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
79
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
We invested too much in marketing ... till one day when we understood that we spoiled the opportunity of being in a good financial position, without even bothering what the others think about us.”
We haven’t seen each other for about 10 years and the script of his life was totally changed.
Or maybe 20 years ago he was a taxi driver ... then a wealthy guy ...
then again a taxi driver.
Jim Rohn used to say that if you want to study success you will need to spend time with successful people ... but also with people that failed in life ... and failed big.
The last category could actually tell you all the mistakes they did ...
so that they spoiled the big opportunity ... cause this is a real “art” that we do practice so, so well.
We want success ... but under the pressure of that success ... we get scared ... and instead of really keeping the success ... we pay too much attention on keeping the image of that success.
So ... before starting on the path of success ... just think for a while at the whole story ... and all the factors that can influence you on this journey.
... and study successful people ... but also ... the unsuccessful people.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
80
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Controlling everything around us ... masked under the need of influencing the world
Truth be told ... we’d love as reality to be according to a scenario
written by us in a certain way.
We know all the details.
We want as the wife to act in a certain way, the kids also ... the parents ... the friends ... even the strangers we meet only for 3-4 seconds on the street ... while walking on the way to work.
Having an egocentric view about life itself ... we cannot understand that we are not the sun and the rest of the people from our lives should only gravitate towards ... our ego.
We even start to define all what we do ... as a tendency of influencing the world in a positive way ... but actually ... all we do is accomplish our silly desire of controlling everything around us. Is it good?!
Is it bad?!
Well ... at one point the friends will get annoyed by your advices, the wife also ... by all your requests ... and even the kids will ignore you. It’s already clear for everyone that you try to control reality ... and you hide this under the mask of the positive influence that you would love to offer.
And i admit it ... i did this too ... many, many times.
I don’t ask you ... if this is actually a habit for you ... but maybe at the right time you will meditate over the subject. The solution?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
81
INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED
... a non ending story
Well ... today in my case ... in the moments when i believe i can influence the world ... i just try to connect with ... strangers ... people that i don’t know at all.
They might never appear in my life ... so if i do something for them ...
even make them smile for a second ... i will do it for no interest ... not even for the one of satisfying my ego that i did something positive. Controlling the world around us ... is a disease, but on the other hand
... the world needs indeed positive influence all the time.
Just think about it ... and don’t mix the concept of controlling ... with the one of the positive influence.
