towards him”
(Annie David)
What is the difference between what we feel now and what we remember that it was in our soul?!
Why it hurts to remember about that great love story?!
Well ... maybe first of all cause it was a great one and second .... we regret that
we lost that person.
We believed a lot in that partner and in the connection we had togheter.
Today ... we think with nostalgia about those beautiful moments and even if we don’t feel the same ... we still remember the feelings we had towards that person.
We actually mix the energies from the past with the ones from today.
We are too anchored into the past ...and we can’t connect for real to the actual reality.
But mixing those feelings ... is just ruining your actual life ... and will actually don’t let you continue life in the way it should continue.
We should understand that the actual life is about the present moment ... about what we feel today when we connect to reality, not about all those feelings from the past.
A dear friend of mine tells me all the time that she accepted that the love story of her life finished ... but when we start chatting ... i realise that she still loves him a lot and she is the prisoner of that love story ...even if the story ended.
Staying connected to the past, when you have in front of you the present, but also the future ... cause you are still alive ... is not accepting that your life has the right to continue ... even if it is on a new path. And maybe a much better one.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
23
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Being in love ... means losing yourself
“Did you know??
When a woman loves someone ...
She loses ....
Her enriches ...
Her awareness ...
Her stimulates ...
Her self esteem .... also her concentration....
Her ... everything ....”
(Arij Emaan)
Have you ever wondered how do you know that she is in love?!
Have you ever noticed all those signs that reveals she is lost ... in your arms?!
Well ... being a man ... usually means being blind to all the signs a woman can
show ... but the good part is that, if she really loves you ... she will be patient.
She will let herself .... feel lost ... on a path that most probably she does not
know.
But she will not be afraid being in there with you.
Everything she will ask .. will be only to know that you are on her side ... and that you care of the fact that you are togheter.
A woman can totally accept that being in love ... means to lose herself and will not care of anything at all.
She will just wait for you ... to lose your blindness and pay attentions to everything she can be for you.
It’s quite important to see when she is really in love ... or if she will never be.
Seeing that ... means seeing the path of being or not being togheter ... for real.
So ... how can you see that?!
How can you get rid of your blindness?!
Well ... just connect to her ... if you really care.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
24
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Just a cheap love
“I say .... you are just a cheap lover.
I would not stay with you ... if i would be her”
Women has the ability to define things and situations in a much precise way.
They just feel everything.
Have a better intuition.
Instead of talking to a man about your love story ... you should find a woman that can be your friend and just ask her how she sees everything.
But the problem will be that, most probably, you will dislike how she sees your position .... cause she will say everything straight.
What if she is going to define you as a cheap lover and that she would not stay
with you if she would be her?!
Would you like hearing this?!
Certainly ... no, but still ... you should pay attention cause the problem itself exists.
You see ... a cheap lover is a person who easily falls in love with someone they meet for the first time. (Usually over minor stuff)
And women are usually looking for more profound stuffs.
They need someone that understand, but also accept the complexity of what being in a love story means.
Just saying beautiful words ... will work ... but only for a short time ... cause everything you will say ... they need to see for real.
They want proofs that love exists ... and that will be an exercise that you will need to practice all the time.
But ... you are where you are ... on a path that only the Universe really knows what sense it makes ... and you can also consider that it is your life ... and your rules.
Probably you should be happy cause a friend helped you to understand how your partner, as a woman, sees what is going on between the 2 of you.
If you care about her ... you will pay attention at what your lady friend told you ... and if you just like her, as you also liked many other ladies from your past ... in one point you would just let her find her path ... the real one.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
25
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
How long do you think that
the “waiting era” should take?!
Or maybe is time to reconnect to the reality again.
So ... the philosophical question should be .. does the optimism should exist into a love story?!
Long time ago, had been reading a book, written by a russian academician, that was trying to explain in 1980, in the communist era ... but also convince people that the religion is not sending the right message telling us that everything we see in an illusion.
He was asking ... if the optimism is looking like an illusion, how should be our lives without illusions?
Coming back to our love stories ... sometimes things goes to an end ... but we still remain optimistic, hoping that we will be again togeter in the near future.
It all looks like an illusion, but we are too afraid to see life without that person in the story.
And we go in what we should call ... “ a waiting era”.
I have a dear friend that is in this position by almost 2 years ... and she is still thinking of him.
He recently divorced ... but still they did not reconnected one with another ...
even if there are feelings on the both sides.
You see maybe the Universe did not created a common path for them.
They had the perfect love story ... but it was just for a while ... then everything just ended.
But, maybe what my friend is not seeing today is that us, as human beings ... we are allowed to meet the perfection, the infinite ... just for a short time ... only to understand that it exists.
Today she thinks that she has a depression, but i believe she is just too optimistic and this is the reason why she still remain stuck in that waiting era.
We should let the Universe decide for us and also accept ... all what is going on. Being positive ... being optimistic is perfect ... but we should also let everything flow.
So ... what should be life without illusions?!
What is the meaning of optimism?!
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
26
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Does optimism has the right to exist in a love story?!
Well ... as long as you don’t force anything and let everything come by itself ...
and if that path of life is for you ... then it will happen ... at the right time.
But, maybe it is also the time to reconnect to the reality again ... whatever reality means.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
27
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The art of disconnecting
... knowing how to have the dignity of leaving, when the love story is not anymore what it used to be
People know about the connection between souls ... about what they call “chemistry” ... but not so many really know how to disconnect from the partner when the story goes to the end.
Well maybe the start of understanding everything is going on, is to look back into our past .... analyze more what the concept of timeline means and then see that
your life was splitted into different chapters ... you was to the kindergarten, then school, high school, got a job, had different friends and even fell in love few times during all those years.
And every time you’ve been on love ... you felt is special ... and that you met your soul mate.
But it was just a chapter.
You see ...some people have a simple destiny ... get married and stay in the same relationship till they die ... even if they are happy or not. But for others ... the dynamic of their destiny is totally different.
The Universe is giving us all kinds of lessons of life ... and until we see the message ... the lessons and tests will continue.
Some of them ... for some of us ... with the same persons ... but for some ... with different partners ... which actually can be just sub chapters of the chapter called “ What is love about?!”.
During my life time i had the chance to meet men and women also ... that had tens or even hundreds of relationships.
The only thing i saw in common, was that no one, from all the partners they met, was special enough to make them consider of continuing life togheter.
But even if they looked like not having a moral life ... i loved seeing that they had the dignity of leaving the story right away after seeing that the beauty of the connection with the other soul was not in there anymore.
They mastered the art of connecting, but also of disconnecting to the souls they met.
All those relationship were from the book “Looking for the love story of my life” ... and every time they saw is not that perfect story, the fairy tale ... they were just leaving.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
28
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Too many people are stuck in relationships they actually don’t like ... but they forget that life is beautiful and should continue ...even with other persons.
The art of disconnecting is the opposite of connecting ... and you should practice it ... if you are looking for a happy life.
See everything as an experience of life ... but always expect beautiful things to happen ... and let the show continue.
If you love life ... good things will expect you in the future.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
29
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The trick ...
The trick ... of how you can understand a woman ... even if everything is gone. Just practice the exercise of connecting to all women you know ... then you will learn about the path of reconnecting to your love story. Truth be told is that we, all men, are idiots.
We don’t know anything about women and expect to have a great love story each time when we start a new relationship.
Anyone that should start a new business, a coffee shop for example, will first study what a coffee shop means and go to study other coffee shops.
Just staying in there, drinking a coffee and asking yourself if that is a great coffee shop, with a good vibe, or just a place to drink a coffee.
What does it make the difference between a great and just a simple coffee shop?! Let me ask you something else.
Would you open a car service without knowing anything about cars?!
Then my dear idiot friend, why you keep looking for other ladies if you don’t accept that actually you don’t know anything about ladies or love?!
Had you ever considered to pay attention to all the ladies you know, to connect with them, to understand why they act, feel and do the things they do?!
If you would have problems with alcohol and you would decide to go to an AA meeting, first you should present yourself as ... “Hey! My name is Bill and i am an alcoholic” .
You accept reality just as it is.
But the vanity from you doesn’t let you accept that even if you look like a smart guy, even a successful one, you have no idea about what a woman means.
An interesting exercise should be to become friends with as many ladies as posible, interact with them, find out why they think in a specific way, listen to them, but also show your respect and care at everything they have to say and maybe in time you will understand the secret behind their philosophy.
Most probably the interaction itself is the key to see what is really going on. Women are more basic instinct and men always try to follow a logical path in life. A woman wants something cause this is what her heart is telling her, but a man will want that something only if his mind is asking this. We want the same things, but in totally different ways.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
30
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The art of understanding a woman is a secret that most probably not so many men finds out during their life time, but at least seeing you that you try, will let her be more patience with you.
The fact that you care, tells her heart to wait for you even if you are so, so slowly but also idiot.
Remember ... loving her is not enough ... if you don’t know to connect to her soul and find out what she is whispering you ... you gonna lose the game.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
31
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Shine on ...
“No, you cannot dim my light,
I will shine on...
Even if you are out of my sight,
will still shine on...!!” (Shahara Pereira)
Here’s a philosophical question for you ... and even a very pragmatical one ...
what you do if the love story is not continuing on the path you thought it will continue?!
In your dreams it all was ... the love story of your life ... and it started like a great one ... but just continued in a silly way, cause you did not know to synchronize your thoughts and your actions.
You had a huge connection between your souls ... but your Egos were more powerful and could not settle a common path for the relationship you had.
Is like you dance ... but one is saying .. go to the right and the other is saying go to the left ... and you realise you don’t care so much about the dance ... but about being the one that is forcing everything just in the direction you want. And the dance ... that should be a pleasure of being one near another, enjoying the lovely music ... becomes the dance of domination.
For a moment ... you stop shining like you used to do when you first met ... but then you ask yourself ... why?!
Why should i stop continuing to shine?!
As my dear friend Shahara Pereira is saying in her poem ... but also in her philosophy ... as a lady ...” it goes like... whatever the circumstances a partner may put me through, or how much he'd hurt me or neglect me, It cannot take away my happiness or make me sad ... it cannot take away my happiness or make me sad ... with enough love to see me through”.
(Annie David)
What is the difference between what we feel now and what we remember that it was in our soul?!
Why it hurts to remember about that great love story?!
Well ... maybe first of all cause it was a great one and second .... we regret that
we lost that person.
We believed a lot in that partner and in the connection we had togheter.
Today ... we think with nostalgia about those beautiful moments and even if we don’t feel the same ... we still remember the feelings we had towards that person.
We actually mix the energies from the past with the ones from today.
We are too anchored into the past ...and we can’t connect for real to the actual reality.
But mixing those feelings ... is just ruining your actual life ... and will actually don’t let you continue life in the way it should continue.
We should understand that the actual life is about the present moment ... about what we feel today when we connect to reality, not about all those feelings from the past.
A dear friend of mine tells me all the time that she accepted that the love story of her life finished ... but when we start chatting ... i realise that she still loves him a lot and she is the prisoner of that love story ...even if the story ended.
Staying connected to the past, when you have in front of you the present, but also the future ... cause you are still alive ... is not accepting that your life has the right to continue ... even if it is on a new path. And maybe a much better one.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
23
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Being in love ... means losing yourself
“Did you know??
When a woman loves someone ...
She loses ....
Her enriches ...
Her awareness ...
Her stimulates ...
Her self esteem .... also her concentration....
Her ... everything ....”
(Arij Emaan)
Have you ever wondered how do you know that she is in love?!
Have you ever noticed all those signs that reveals she is lost ... in your arms?!
Well ... being a man ... usually means being blind to all the signs a woman can
show ... but the good part is that, if she really loves you ... she will be patient.
She will let herself .... feel lost ... on a path that most probably she does not
know.
But she will not be afraid being in there with you.
Everything she will ask .. will be only to know that you are on her side ... and that you care of the fact that you are togheter.
A woman can totally accept that being in love ... means to lose herself and will not care of anything at all.
She will just wait for you ... to lose your blindness and pay attentions to everything she can be for you.
It’s quite important to see when she is really in love ... or if she will never be.
Seeing that ... means seeing the path of being or not being togheter ... for real.
So ... how can you see that?!
How can you get rid of your blindness?!
Well ... just connect to her ... if you really care.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
24
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Just a cheap love
“I say .... you are just a cheap lover.
I would not stay with you ... if i would be her”
Women has the ability to define things and situations in a much precise way.
They just feel everything.
Have a better intuition.
Instead of talking to a man about your love story ... you should find a woman that can be your friend and just ask her how she sees everything.
But the problem will be that, most probably, you will dislike how she sees your position .... cause she will say everything straight.
What if she is going to define you as a cheap lover and that she would not stay
with you if she would be her?!
Would you like hearing this?!
Certainly ... no, but still ... you should pay attention cause the problem itself exists.
You see ... a cheap lover is a person who easily falls in love with someone they meet for the first time. (Usually over minor stuff)
And women are usually looking for more profound stuffs.
They need someone that understand, but also accept the complexity of what being in a love story means.
Just saying beautiful words ... will work ... but only for a short time ... cause everything you will say ... they need to see for real.
They want proofs that love exists ... and that will be an exercise that you will need to practice all the time.
But ... you are where you are ... on a path that only the Universe really knows what sense it makes ... and you can also consider that it is your life ... and your rules.
Probably you should be happy cause a friend helped you to understand how your partner, as a woman, sees what is going on between the 2 of you.
If you care about her ... you will pay attention at what your lady friend told you ... and if you just like her, as you also liked many other ladies from your past ... in one point you would just let her find her path ... the real one.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
25
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
How long do you think that
the “waiting era” should take?!
Or maybe is time to reconnect to the reality again.
So ... the philosophical question should be .. does the optimism should exist into a love story?!
Long time ago, had been reading a book, written by a russian academician, that was trying to explain in 1980, in the communist era ... but also convince people that the religion is not sending the right message telling us that everything we see in an illusion.
He was asking ... if the optimism is looking like an illusion, how should be our lives without illusions?
Coming back to our love stories ... sometimes things goes to an end ... but we still remain optimistic, hoping that we will be again togeter in the near future.
It all looks like an illusion, but we are too afraid to see life without that person in the story.
And we go in what we should call ... “ a waiting era”.
I have a dear friend that is in this position by almost 2 years ... and she is still thinking of him.
He recently divorced ... but still they did not reconnected one with another ...
even if there are feelings on the both sides.
You see maybe the Universe did not created a common path for them.
They had the perfect love story ... but it was just for a while ... then everything just ended.
But, maybe what my friend is not seeing today is that us, as human beings ... we are allowed to meet the perfection, the infinite ... just for a short time ... only to understand that it exists.
Today she thinks that she has a depression, but i believe she is just too optimistic and this is the reason why she still remain stuck in that waiting era.
We should let the Universe decide for us and also accept ... all what is going on. Being positive ... being optimistic is perfect ... but we should also let everything flow.
So ... what should be life without illusions?!
What is the meaning of optimism?!
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
26
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Does optimism has the right to exist in a love story?!
Well ... as long as you don’t force anything and let everything come by itself ...
and if that path of life is for you ... then it will happen ... at the right time.
But, maybe it is also the time to reconnect to the reality again ... whatever reality means.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
27
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The art of disconnecting
... knowing how to have the dignity of leaving, when the love story is not anymore what it used to be
People know about the connection between souls ... about what they call “chemistry” ... but not so many really know how to disconnect from the partner when the story goes to the end.
Well maybe the start of understanding everything is going on, is to look back into our past .... analyze more what the concept of timeline means and then see that
your life was splitted into different chapters ... you was to the kindergarten, then school, high school, got a job, had different friends and even fell in love few times during all those years.
And every time you’ve been on love ... you felt is special ... and that you met your soul mate.
But it was just a chapter.
You see ...some people have a simple destiny ... get married and stay in the same relationship till they die ... even if they are happy or not. But for others ... the dynamic of their destiny is totally different.
The Universe is giving us all kinds of lessons of life ... and until we see the message ... the lessons and tests will continue.
Some of them ... for some of us ... with the same persons ... but for some ... with different partners ... which actually can be just sub chapters of the chapter called “ What is love about?!”.
During my life time i had the chance to meet men and women also ... that had tens or even hundreds of relationships.
The only thing i saw in common, was that no one, from all the partners they met, was special enough to make them consider of continuing life togheter.
But even if they looked like not having a moral life ... i loved seeing that they had the dignity of leaving the story right away after seeing that the beauty of the connection with the other soul was not in there anymore.
They mastered the art of connecting, but also of disconnecting to the souls they met.
All those relationship were from the book “Looking for the love story of my life” ... and every time they saw is not that perfect story, the fairy tale ... they were just leaving.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
28
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Too many people are stuck in relationships they actually don’t like ... but they forget that life is beautiful and should continue ...even with other persons.
The art of disconnecting is the opposite of connecting ... and you should practice it ... if you are looking for a happy life.
See everything as an experience of life ... but always expect beautiful things to happen ... and let the show continue.
If you love life ... good things will expect you in the future.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
29
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The trick ...
The trick ... of how you can understand a woman ... even if everything is gone. Just practice the exercise of connecting to all women you know ... then you will learn about the path of reconnecting to your love story. Truth be told is that we, all men, are idiots.
We don’t know anything about women and expect to have a great love story each time when we start a new relationship.
Anyone that should start a new business, a coffee shop for example, will first study what a coffee shop means and go to study other coffee shops.
Just staying in there, drinking a coffee and asking yourself if that is a great coffee shop, with a good vibe, or just a place to drink a coffee.
What does it make the difference between a great and just a simple coffee shop?! Let me ask you something else.
Would you open a car service without knowing anything about cars?!
Then my dear idiot friend, why you keep looking for other ladies if you don’t accept that actually you don’t know anything about ladies or love?!
Had you ever considered to pay attention to all the ladies you know, to connect with them, to understand why they act, feel and do the things they do?!
If you would have problems with alcohol and you would decide to go to an AA meeting, first you should present yourself as ... “Hey! My name is Bill and i am an alcoholic” .
You accept reality just as it is.
But the vanity from you doesn’t let you accept that even if you look like a smart guy, even a successful one, you have no idea about what a woman means.
An interesting exercise should be to become friends with as many ladies as posible, interact with them, find out why they think in a specific way, listen to them, but also show your respect and care at everything they have to say and maybe in time you will understand the secret behind their philosophy.
Most probably the interaction itself is the key to see what is really going on. Women are more basic instinct and men always try to follow a logical path in life. A woman wants something cause this is what her heart is telling her, but a man will want that something only if his mind is asking this. We want the same things, but in totally different ways.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
30
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The art of understanding a woman is a secret that most probably not so many men finds out during their life time, but at least seeing you that you try, will let her be more patience with you.
The fact that you care, tells her heart to wait for you even if you are so, so slowly but also idiot.
Remember ... loving her is not enough ... if you don’t know to connect to her soul and find out what she is whispering you ... you gonna lose the game.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
31
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Shine on ...
“No, you cannot dim my light,
I will shine on...
Even if you are out of my sight,
will still shine on...!!” (Shahara Pereira)
Here’s a philosophical question for you ... and even a very pragmatical one ...
what you do if the love story is not continuing on the path you thought it will continue?!
In your dreams it all was ... the love story of your life ... and it started like a great one ... but just continued in a silly way, cause you did not know to synchronize your thoughts and your actions.
You had a huge connection between your souls ... but your Egos were more powerful and could not settle a common path for the relationship you had.
Is like you dance ... but one is saying .. go to the right and the other is saying go to the left ... and you realise you don’t care so much about the dance ... but about being the one that is forcing everything just in the direction you want. And the dance ... that should be a pleasure of being one near another, enjoying the lovely music ... becomes the dance of domination.
For a moment ... you stop shining like you used to do when you first met ... but then you ask yourself ... why?!
Why should i stop continuing to shine?!
As my dear friend Shahara Pereira is saying in her poem ... but also in her philosophy ... as a lady ...” it goes like... whatever the circumstances a partner may put me through, or how much he'd hurt me or neglect me, It cannot take away my happiness or make me sad ... it cannot take away my happiness or make me sad ... with enough love to see me through”.
