Can it exists?! Or is just a theoretical concept?!
I believe that in the real world we can practice love without expectations, but only if it’s kind of platonic love.
Imagine you meet on social media .. someone that lives 5000 km away ... you speak everyday, but maybe there is only 0.01% chances as you meet that person in the real life.
Can you love that person?!
If that person represent the ideal you have in mind when it comes about love story ... maybe the answear is yes.
But when you understand that you will probably never meet ... you will be able to practice love .... maybe we should define it as platonic love ... with no expectation.
In the real life ... we give a piece of our soul ... or maybe the whole soul and we expect to receive something back.
And we don’t expect to see only love in return ... we expect to see love translated throw different things or actions.
Living without expectations means to live your life, and let the Universe decides what should be offered to you.
Never ask, never expect anything, but hope it will be the love story of your life.
You might loose your mind, your soul ... your everything ... but in the end ...
playing all in the fairy tale ... you might find the path to supreme happiness.
Just be honest and love with an opened heart.
Good things will happen.
Adrian G Dumitru
45
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
“We said lots of things ... but it’s important only what we feel inside of us”
I met her again today.
Maybe it was for the last time.
Who knows?!
It was the first time when silence appeared in the time spent togheter.
Yes ... indeed ... we said lots of things, but maybe today ... it’s important only what we feel inside of us.
She was watching me ... saying everything with her eyes.
Kissing her again, i remembered me all the sensations i was feeling near her.
It was the 2 of us and the silence between ... but still, looking into her eyes, i was amazed how beautiful she was.
The moment she said is important only what we feel inside of us, i understood
that we will not bother to count all the mistakes we’ve done ... and maybe there
is still a chance of being togheter.
But we knew it was too late.
Everything was ruined ... and all we could do was to look one at another ... and accept that is time to say good bye.
Saying lots of things, promising all the time when we speak about the future ... is useless.
Will miss her ... but i still dream as the next chapter of my life to be ... her ...
again.
Adrian G Dumitru
46
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
The meaning of a love affair
Why someone should need 2 persons to feel loved?!
You know, nobody is perfect.
Not even me or you.
But when we think of what we want, we always have the image of the perfect partner and one day it just happens and we fall in love.
It says that when we fall in love, we see about 80% of the image of that perfect love story.
Usually we like other people too, but falling in love is something different as when we like someone.
Falling in love means to be blind enough to see only the 80%, so that everything should look as perfect.
But later on, the blindness disappear and we start to see the other 20% also. And this is the day the love story becomes just a story and it is not a fairy tale anymore.
We like what we have, but we are still looking for the other 20% to see in someone else.
We continue searching, not thinking about it, but being opened to interact with other people also and we start the story of micro cheating.
The absence of the 20% that should make the story perfect, makes us search and still dream of the perfect partner.
And one day, the illusion of the perfect partner appears again and we just jump from one partner to the other, thinking that this time it is the perfect love story.
... but, later on, the blindness disappears again and we see that what we thought
is 100%, is actually 80% or even less.
Truth be told, nobody is perfect.
No one of us.
Dreaming at the perfect partner, it ‘s just an illusion and be aware as one day,
just because you dream too much, to not start a love affair ... or love affairs, not
because you need to be loved by 2 persons, but because you are looking for the
illusion of the perfect partner.
But there is no perfection.
The meaning of love affairs, is just the searching for a fairy tale with a prince or a princess, the searching for a beautiful love story, the perfect case scenario.
Adrian G Dumitru
47
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Is like we dream to be in a relationship with a god.
A person, that knows is not perfect, is searching for the perfect being. Maybe is nothing wrong to do this for a while ... but maybe when we start to understand what blindness is and maybe we should analyze ourselves also. You don’t need 2, 3, 4 or 5 partners to be loved.
You only need one partner, that is honest enough ... and also wise enough to accept togheter the beautiful, but also the dark side from the 2 of you.
Adrian G Dumitru
48
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Thank you for loving me
“I love the morning light,
Moon lit sky,
Your arms around me,
Seeing you look at me,
Your beautiful brown eyes,
What a delight to see
Your smile shine so bright,
What a delight to see
Thank you for loving me”
P.S.
In all the books about personal development and especially in the ones about the law of attraction, it explains, in details, the importance of gratitude for what you have in your life.
And the meaning of “Thank you!” is essential also in a love story.
You see ... you love everything about that person, that you fall in love with, but you never find the courage to say ... “Thank you for existing into my life” Gratitude is one of the keys for supreme happiness.
When you will practice gratitude ... you will find the path for feeling the joy of being togheter.
You will totally accept the relationship, just as it is ... with good and bad things ...
and dare to love unconditionally that person.
Saying “Thank you for loving me!” ... means to embrace with love the soul of your partner.
You love embracing the love of your life ...for real ... but also accepting the love that comes to you ... saying “Thank you!” ... means practicing gratitude for the love story itself.
You thank to the Universe for having a fairy tale in your life.
You don’t need to find silly to say ... “Thank you for loving me!”.
It might be the key to make her feel ... special.
... and she deserves that!
Adrian G Dumitru
49
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
“Because i love you, it does not mean i give you the right to be selfish”
How do you combine love with selfishness?!
Can they coexists in a love story?!
But what if selfishness is your main characteristic and one day you fall in love?!
Can you forget about selfishness?!
I believe it all depends of how much you love that person ... and your real intension with that person.
The transition between selfishness ... which sometimes also means self love ... to love ... real love ... means jumping from your own universe to the world created by the love between you and your partner.
Many, many years ago, i heard this ... “Because i love you, it does not mean i give you the right to be selfish”
I had no clue why someone should tell me this ... because i was not considering myself selfish.
But most probably i was very, very, very selfish.
You see, we love to be loved ... and even if love itself is not a business, like to give something and receive something ... love is not only about receiving ... but most probably is about giving ... giving your love and affection.
To be in love ... means to connect with that person ... and express your love in a real way.
Expressing your selfishness, which will be there all the time, as a part of you ... will mean only that you still want to be alone, even if you like being in the love story.
To be in the story ... you need to act in a different way as you used to act. Self love and even selfishness are ok ... but in a fairy tale, to be that character that is on the stage of the love story ... you just need to think more of the 2 of you ... as a couple.
Most probably, the partner will accept you just as you are ... but only till one day when ... will say “Enough!”
Don’t be a selfish person ... just be a loving one.
Adrian G Dumitru
50
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
It’s difficult to understand a woman.
Finding a stupid reason ... just to speak again ... she decides soon after to block him again.
Truth be told, as a man ... is difficult to understand a woman.
The problem is that if you love her ... you are in trouble if you can’t find a way to connect at her and see what she really wants.
What men can’t understand is that the psychology behind a woman is the opposite of the way men think and act.
If a woman likes you, most probably will never tell you with those words, but will act in a way that should let you understand the message.
Unless you have no clue about how a woman act ... or you are just an idiot ... at least you should see the signs even if you don’t understand so clear what is going on.
A friend of mine told me few days ago that he broke up with his girl friend, then she contacted him for a stupid reason ... as in the end to block him again. He did not knew what to say ... or how to define this situation.
I my opinion she even loves him ... or hates him.
Both scenarios have 50% chances to be real.
Defining what is going on only from a psychological point of view should be wrong.
A woman expect to connect at her and see what she really feels.
She does not want to reveal her feelings in a classical way.
Maybe it’s just about vanity ... but seeing from all that is going on ... just the fact that she contacted you again, even if she acts in a stupid way ... might be the key.
Is like she opens the door of her soul and says “What do you want?!”
.... and you replyed
“I missed you!”
“Ahhh ... you missed me. Ok. I think i missed you too idiot”.
Treat her with love till the moment when you totally reconnect with her ... and she will love to see you again in her arms.
Understanding her means ... to accept just the way she is, even if she does not
Adrian G Dumitru
51
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
express with clear words or actions ... what she really feels.
A love story is mainly about connection ... not words or certain actions.
The message behind the message is what she really wants as you to see.
Adrian G Dumitru
52
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
A virgin or a hooker?!
What do you choose to avoid cheating?
Years ago, when i was a young boy, maybe about 10 years old, i used to spend lots of time with a dear friend.
Sometimes we went to his grandma, a very interesting lady ... who was the first person that talked to us about women.
Imagine our faces, boys of 10 years old, when she asked us ... “My boys .. when you will get married, what should you choose between a virgin and a hooker?! Which one will be a better wife for you?!”
Honestly ... i could not believe she is asking this ... and to be honest i don’t think we knew to define very well the difference between a virgin and a hooker. But ... we understood the question even if we were so young.
It was probably the first philosophical question i ever heard ... and certainly it was a tough one.
I am still laughing remembering this episode, but i think i still don’t have a clear answear ... not even after so many years.
But i believe the nice grandma wanted to say ... was a tricky question. Most probably you can start in life a relationship with a person that had no relationship before meeting you ... but without having a good connection togheter and not being that perfect partner that she dreamed for ... one day there is a chance as she will look for someone else.
Or, you can have a partner that have multiple relationships before meeting you ... and why not ... maybe even a hooker ( she is a human being also) and she could become the love of your life ... and you can be the love of her life.
The connection between the 2 of you ... could be something that change the 2 of you ... in a beautiful way.
On the other hand ... somehow there is only one way to avoid cheating and this is not depending on the answear at the question “which one is better ... the virgin or the hooker?!”
I believe you are the one that needs to be better ... because the right woman ...
no matter what kind of life she had before meeting you ... if she likes you and believes you are the one destined to her ... will never think of cheating.
Adrian G Dumitru
53
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
A man will cheat ... maybe when he will want more sex or a different kind of sex. A woman will never cheat if you are a good partner ... a person that knows to make her have a good vibe all the time.
So ... whatever you choose ... just be a good partner ... that is the real secret.
Adrian G Dumitru
54
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
The human being
“The human being is quite strange.
Does not ask to be born,
Does not ask to die,
But does not know either to live the life in a beautiful way”
Asking what is the meaning of a love story is most probably an existential question.
Wondering before we start the story, meanwhile we are in love, but also after the end of the story ... most probably we will get 3 different answears, because we will see us in 3 different versions.
It says that to understand life itself, first you go throw the process of learning what life is about.
Later on you need to go throw a process of unlearning all what the society told you about life ... and go to the stage when you see life only throw your eyes. It’s like ... there is nothing else in the Universe than you and the life ... and you have the privilege of defining everything just as you want.
The process of learning about life from society can’t be missed and it will come to you sooner or later.
Maybe if you live alone in jungle ... the influence will not be so huge, but even if you live in a tribe ... the influence will exist.
Everything means ... you are told what life is about and you need to accept it in a dogmatic way.
I believe that in the real world we can practice love without expectations, but only if it’s kind of platonic love.
Imagine you meet on social media .. someone that lives 5000 km away ... you speak everyday, but maybe there is only 0.01% chances as you meet that person in the real life.
Can you love that person?!
If that person represent the ideal you have in mind when it comes about love story ... maybe the answear is yes.
But when you understand that you will probably never meet ... you will be able to practice love .... maybe we should define it as platonic love ... with no expectation.
In the real life ... we give a piece of our soul ... or maybe the whole soul and we expect to receive something back.
And we don’t expect to see only love in return ... we expect to see love translated throw different things or actions.
Living without expectations means to live your life, and let the Universe decides what should be offered to you.
Never ask, never expect anything, but hope it will be the love story of your life.
You might loose your mind, your soul ... your everything ... but in the end ...
playing all in the fairy tale ... you might find the path to supreme happiness.
Just be honest and love with an opened heart.
Good things will happen.
Adrian G Dumitru
45
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
“We said lots of things ... but it’s important only what we feel inside of us”
I met her again today.
Maybe it was for the last time.
Who knows?!
It was the first time when silence appeared in the time spent togheter.
Yes ... indeed ... we said lots of things, but maybe today ... it’s important only what we feel inside of us.
She was watching me ... saying everything with her eyes.
Kissing her again, i remembered me all the sensations i was feeling near her.
It was the 2 of us and the silence between ... but still, looking into her eyes, i was amazed how beautiful she was.
The moment she said is important only what we feel inside of us, i understood
that we will not bother to count all the mistakes we’ve done ... and maybe there
is still a chance of being togheter.
But we knew it was too late.
Everything was ruined ... and all we could do was to look one at another ... and accept that is time to say good bye.
Saying lots of things, promising all the time when we speak about the future ... is useless.
Will miss her ... but i still dream as the next chapter of my life to be ... her ...
again.
Adrian G Dumitru
46
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
The meaning of a love affair
Why someone should need 2 persons to feel loved?!
You know, nobody is perfect.
Not even me or you.
But when we think of what we want, we always have the image of the perfect partner and one day it just happens and we fall in love.
It says that when we fall in love, we see about 80% of the image of that perfect love story.
Usually we like other people too, but falling in love is something different as when we like someone.
Falling in love means to be blind enough to see only the 80%, so that everything should look as perfect.
But later on, the blindness disappear and we start to see the other 20% also. And this is the day the love story becomes just a story and it is not a fairy tale anymore.
We like what we have, but we are still looking for the other 20% to see in someone else.
We continue searching, not thinking about it, but being opened to interact with other people also and we start the story of micro cheating.
The absence of the 20% that should make the story perfect, makes us search and still dream of the perfect partner.
And one day, the illusion of the perfect partner appears again and we just jump from one partner to the other, thinking that this time it is the perfect love story.
... but, later on, the blindness disappears again and we see that what we thought
is 100%, is actually 80% or even less.
Truth be told, nobody is perfect.
No one of us.
Dreaming at the perfect partner, it ‘s just an illusion and be aware as one day,
just because you dream too much, to not start a love affair ... or love affairs, not
because you need to be loved by 2 persons, but because you are looking for the
illusion of the perfect partner.
But there is no perfection.
The meaning of love affairs, is just the searching for a fairy tale with a prince or a princess, the searching for a beautiful love story, the perfect case scenario.
Adrian G Dumitru
47
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Is like we dream to be in a relationship with a god.
A person, that knows is not perfect, is searching for the perfect being. Maybe is nothing wrong to do this for a while ... but maybe when we start to understand what blindness is and maybe we should analyze ourselves also. You don’t need 2, 3, 4 or 5 partners to be loved.
You only need one partner, that is honest enough ... and also wise enough to accept togheter the beautiful, but also the dark side from the 2 of you.
Adrian G Dumitru
48
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Thank you for loving me
“I love the morning light,
Moon lit sky,
Your arms around me,
Seeing you look at me,
Your beautiful brown eyes,
What a delight to see
Your smile shine so bright,
What a delight to see
Thank you for loving me”
P.S.
In all the books about personal development and especially in the ones about the law of attraction, it explains, in details, the importance of gratitude for what you have in your life.
And the meaning of “Thank you!” is essential also in a love story.
You see ... you love everything about that person, that you fall in love with, but you never find the courage to say ... “Thank you for existing into my life” Gratitude is one of the keys for supreme happiness.
When you will practice gratitude ... you will find the path for feeling the joy of being togheter.
You will totally accept the relationship, just as it is ... with good and bad things ...
and dare to love unconditionally that person.
Saying “Thank you for loving me!” ... means to embrace with love the soul of your partner.
You love embracing the love of your life ...for real ... but also accepting the love that comes to you ... saying “Thank you!” ... means practicing gratitude for the love story itself.
You thank to the Universe for having a fairy tale in your life.
You don’t need to find silly to say ... “Thank you for loving me!”.
It might be the key to make her feel ... special.
... and she deserves that!
Adrian G Dumitru
49
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
“Because i love you, it does not mean i give you the right to be selfish”
How do you combine love with selfishness?!
Can they coexists in a love story?!
But what if selfishness is your main characteristic and one day you fall in love?!
Can you forget about selfishness?!
I believe it all depends of how much you love that person ... and your real intension with that person.
The transition between selfishness ... which sometimes also means self love ... to love ... real love ... means jumping from your own universe to the world created by the love between you and your partner.
Many, many years ago, i heard this ... “Because i love you, it does not mean i give you the right to be selfish”
I had no clue why someone should tell me this ... because i was not considering myself selfish.
But most probably i was very, very, very selfish.
You see, we love to be loved ... and even if love itself is not a business, like to give something and receive something ... love is not only about receiving ... but most probably is about giving ... giving your love and affection.
To be in love ... means to connect with that person ... and express your love in a real way.
Expressing your selfishness, which will be there all the time, as a part of you ... will mean only that you still want to be alone, even if you like being in the love story.
To be in the story ... you need to act in a different way as you used to act. Self love and even selfishness are ok ... but in a fairy tale, to be that character that is on the stage of the love story ... you just need to think more of the 2 of you ... as a couple.
Most probably, the partner will accept you just as you are ... but only till one day when ... will say “Enough!”
Don’t be a selfish person ... just be a loving one.
Adrian G Dumitru
50
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
It’s difficult to understand a woman.
Finding a stupid reason ... just to speak again ... she decides soon after to block him again.
Truth be told, as a man ... is difficult to understand a woman.
The problem is that if you love her ... you are in trouble if you can’t find a way to connect at her and see what she really wants.
What men can’t understand is that the psychology behind a woman is the opposite of the way men think and act.
If a woman likes you, most probably will never tell you with those words, but will act in a way that should let you understand the message.
Unless you have no clue about how a woman act ... or you are just an idiot ... at least you should see the signs even if you don’t understand so clear what is going on.
A friend of mine told me few days ago that he broke up with his girl friend, then she contacted him for a stupid reason ... as in the end to block him again. He did not knew what to say ... or how to define this situation.
I my opinion she even loves him ... or hates him.
Both scenarios have 50% chances to be real.
Defining what is going on only from a psychological point of view should be wrong.
A woman expect to connect at her and see what she really feels.
She does not want to reveal her feelings in a classical way.
Maybe it’s just about vanity ... but seeing from all that is going on ... just the fact that she contacted you again, even if she acts in a stupid way ... might be the key.
Is like she opens the door of her soul and says “What do you want?!”
.... and you replyed
“I missed you!”
“Ahhh ... you missed me. Ok. I think i missed you too idiot”.
Treat her with love till the moment when you totally reconnect with her ... and she will love to see you again in her arms.
Understanding her means ... to accept just the way she is, even if she does not
Adrian G Dumitru
51
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
express with clear words or actions ... what she really feels.
A love story is mainly about connection ... not words or certain actions.
The message behind the message is what she really wants as you to see.
Adrian G Dumitru
52
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
A virgin or a hooker?!
What do you choose to avoid cheating?
Years ago, when i was a young boy, maybe about 10 years old, i used to spend lots of time with a dear friend.
Sometimes we went to his grandma, a very interesting lady ... who was the first person that talked to us about women.
Imagine our faces, boys of 10 years old, when she asked us ... “My boys .. when you will get married, what should you choose between a virgin and a hooker?! Which one will be a better wife for you?!”
Honestly ... i could not believe she is asking this ... and to be honest i don’t think we knew to define very well the difference between a virgin and a hooker. But ... we understood the question even if we were so young.
It was probably the first philosophical question i ever heard ... and certainly it was a tough one.
I am still laughing remembering this episode, but i think i still don’t have a clear answear ... not even after so many years.
But i believe the nice grandma wanted to say ... was a tricky question. Most probably you can start in life a relationship with a person that had no relationship before meeting you ... but without having a good connection togheter and not being that perfect partner that she dreamed for ... one day there is a chance as she will look for someone else.
Or, you can have a partner that have multiple relationships before meeting you ... and why not ... maybe even a hooker ( she is a human being also) and she could become the love of your life ... and you can be the love of her life.
The connection between the 2 of you ... could be something that change the 2 of you ... in a beautiful way.
On the other hand ... somehow there is only one way to avoid cheating and this is not depending on the answear at the question “which one is better ... the virgin or the hooker?!”
I believe you are the one that needs to be better ... because the right woman ...
no matter what kind of life she had before meeting you ... if she likes you and believes you are the one destined to her ... will never think of cheating.
Adrian G Dumitru
53
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
A man will cheat ... maybe when he will want more sex or a different kind of sex. A woman will never cheat if you are a good partner ... a person that knows to make her have a good vibe all the time.
So ... whatever you choose ... just be a good partner ... that is the real secret.
Adrian G Dumitru
54
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
The human being
“The human being is quite strange.
Does not ask to be born,
Does not ask to die,
But does not know either to live the life in a beautiful way”
Asking what is the meaning of a love story is most probably an existential question.
Wondering before we start the story, meanwhile we are in love, but also after the end of the story ... most probably we will get 3 different answears, because we will see us in 3 different versions.
It says that to understand life itself, first you go throw the process of learning what life is about.
Later on you need to go throw a process of unlearning all what the society told you about life ... and go to the stage when you see life only throw your eyes. It’s like ... there is nothing else in the Universe than you and the life ... and you have the privilege of defining everything just as you want.
The process of learning about life from society can’t be missed and it will come to you sooner or later.
Maybe if you live alone in jungle ... the influence will not be so huge, but even if you live in a tribe ... the influence will exist.
Everything means ... you are told what life is about and you need to accept it in a dogmatic way.
