Usually 2 people that connected into the past, even if they somehow disconnected at one moment ... they could reconnect but only and only if they need to be togheter.
The appearance of the connection means that you are meant to be togheter ...
and usually the fact that you lost the connection is that they need to follow different paths in life.
But sometimes there is also a test that you need to pass so that you understand better what love is about and that you should appreciate more your partner. Whatever it is ... continuing to love her is a beautiful scenario anyway. I am sure she will like it!
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Love or Story?!
Or maybe ... love story?!
She was very confused.
She asked to be happy ... and actually he made her extremely happy ... living the story of her life.
She was praying for years for happiness and she could not believe he appeared in her life ... but he was real, even if it looked like an illusion.
The concept of happiness in her mind ... was meeting that magic person that could love her just as she is, care about her and her dreams and desires, whisper her beautiful words all the time, give her all his attention ... but also think of her as the love of his life.
And he was doing all those things, just as she asked ... in a perfect way, but everything was happening only in that parallel universe where they were living the fairy tale.
It was the perfect love story ... but only when they met and entered into that world where only the 2 of them existed.
The fairy tale was only a beautiful illusion that made her happy from time to time ... but soon after she became unhappy again.
She started to think a lot of what is going on and one day just explained him that she is refusing to continue living in the story.
She decided that she needed love in the real life ... not only in the story.
It was actually the decision of choosing between love and the story.
He loved the story.
Needed love also ... just as her ... but he decided long time ago that will accept the love in his heart only when he is safe ... in that perfect story, which was the fairy tale.
She needed love ... but she believed she was brave enough to live the love story into the real world and she decided to do anything was in her power as the story itself to be real.
But what is real and what is an illusion?
Can we allow ourselves just to enjoy the love? ... or just the story?! ... or maybe choose the love story?!
She was a determined woman ... he was a dreamer ... but how can see a determined woman ... a dreamer?!
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Just like a lost human being ... but the funny thing was that he was the only one in the whole world that made her so happy.
A determined person and a dreamer ... a strange sentimental cocktail ... so she remained confused forever.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
The prelude of the end
I believe you don’t need 21 days to say “Good bye ... forever!”
You just need to do it if this is what you feel you need to do ... and end the story!
Maybe other people are waiting for you already!
The theory that we need 21 days to delete a habit from our behavior is true, but not when it comes about complicated addictions. And being in love is an addiction.
But the question is ... are we addicted by someone or by the story?!
In many cases we believe that we love a lot that person, that we can’t live without continuing that relationship, but in the end, if should have the power to look on the timeline of our own life and define other love stories we had into the past ... we would be surprised ... and probably we will not admit the truth, that we are having a special addiction not to a specific person, but to the love story itself.
Defining love as beginning, the story itself and the end it will be difficult, but it will help a lot.
The prelude is very beautiful at the beginning of the story, but having a prelude for the end should be just silly.
If you want to do it, you just need to do it ... but in a real mode ... not believing that this is something you need to do a slow motion way.
Most probably, from what i read if you have a drug addiction, believing you can get rid of drugs just by taking smaller doses till one day when you can just stop ... is just naive.
There is no prelude for the end.
The end means ... STOP.
But all the time after the end .... a new beginning is coming.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
How can you change the scenario of your life?!
Well ... just change the muse
A dear friend of mine, a beautiful blonde lady, just wrote me few days ago that maybe it’s time for me to change the muse of my life.
You see, you cannot be a writer without a muse ... and in fact you cannot be a successful person without a muse.
But it comes a moment when you feel that you want a change in your life and the need of that vibe of a new beginning is huge.
Is the need of something else, that makes you wake up with joy everyday ... and forget about those days when you have the head aches in the morning just because the love story in not running on perfect mode anymore.
It was obvious from what i was writing that my fairy tale became just a movie from Cartoon Network and all i could do was choose between leaving the story and laughing of what was going on between me and her.
I wanted to change the whole scenario, cause i was not enjoying the story anymore.
It was the day of choosing between a beautiful story, that became an annoying chapter of my life and hope that new beautiful things will come for me in the near future.
I was not knowing what to do ... but still the blonde girl was right and she knew me very well.
Truth be told is that everything has a beginning and even if it is a very beautiful chapter of your life, it also has an end ... and you need to accept that. Nothing last forever.
The blonde was reminding me all the time about the beauty of a new beginning ... but still i could not forget that silly girl that had stolen my heart. But one day ... the Universe showed me that still loves me ... and you know what happened?!
Well ... just sent another muse in my life ... a much better person ... and i was loving how i was enjoying the beauty of the first moments spent togheter.
Just open your mind and also your soul, accept the end but also a new beginning.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Talking with a life coach about the meaning of a love story ....
and how it can brainwash us in a positive way.
Days ago, i had a very long and beautiful discussion with a dear friend of mine from Paris, that happens to be a great life coach.
She is the most organized lady i even met and knows a lot about management, marketing and everything you need to learn so that you can become a successful person.
I think she read all great books about this subject and she could be a great help to anyone is interested in coaching and personal development.
But after talking with her for hours, i saw that she was missing one very important detail from her teachings ... the importance of the love stories. During my life time, i met all kinds of business men that had never read a book about management, marketing or business in general, but they had excellent businesses.
And my question for my dear friend, that is a real great life coach, was ... how is it posible something as that?!
Well ... in my opinion, after reading probably more than 100 books about management, marketing, business and success, is that all those informations are useless if you are not living a great love story.
That beautiful soul can make you see life a in a very beautiful way and every idea you should have ... could be posible.
Working with a good life coach, as you want to change your life, to become a better performer, no matter what you do in life is a very important step you need to do, but later on, to see that path of great success, you need to have near your soul, a person that knows to whisper you from time to time that “You are the greatest!”.
The love story itself can somehow brainwash yourself ... and see everything posible.
All knowledge combined with that mix of energy generated by the connection from the story ... can open you doors that you never thought that exist.
The life coach was seeing me almost as a patient when i was telling her about my love stories, but in the end i think she understood the meaning of what i was trying to explain her and she was totally surprised.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
I am not a life coach and i will never be, but i asked her to teach her students about love stories no matter what the risks are.
Life coaching can make you better, love stories can make you the greatest.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
In love with a silly girl, that is doing only stupid things ...
driving me crazy all the time.
The problem is ... i can’t stop loving her
I recently received this lovely letter from a gentleman that was asking me what i think about his love story, but i will let you decide what you think this is about. “Well ... all ladies i met during my lifetime ... after a while ... drove me crazy, but i am sure it was me the problem.
And it took me years to understand that, but each time i understood what is going on ... i was leaving the story.
I was not anymore inspired by that story and the story itself was only showing the dark side of me.
I wanted a change for better all the time, but instead of going on a positive path, i was only following a negative direction.
You see, is not the way the things are, but the way you react to certain things and situations ... and she was driving me crazy all the time.
Analyzing what we had togheter ... it was 10% pure happiness and the rest a total mess with all kinds of unfulfilled expectations, that were giving us bad vibes all the time.
We were basically 10% happy and 90% unhappy, and we had no clue why we continued the story ... cause it almost made no sense at all. But in a love story, things are not the way they look like.
I had been started at that time to see her as a silly girl, that was doing only stupid things .... and in the end she was driving me crazy ... in a way nobody succeded before.
She was totally connected to me, cause i was loving her a lot and she could do absolutely everything wanted to do with him.
I could become right away the king of the world ... or a robbed slave ...but my escape was that i wanted to be happy with her for 100% and everytime was seeing this balance of 10 -100% i was just leaving the story. And most probably i was doing the right thing.
It was the decision of accepting that i have a dark side and also a beautiful side ... but i only want to see in my daily life the beauty from my soul. Defining her as silly, as acting stupid ... was also seeing that dark side from her and i was disliking this a lot.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
But i was loving her ... and after a while i was coming back in her arms all the time.
I was connected to her forever!”
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
One was a honest person, one was a liar ... but only one was loving him
Once upon a time, in a unknown village, there was a man that had 2 women in his life.
Few times he even wanted to choose one of them, but he was a wise man ... and just waited to see how things continue in time.
His wife was a very honest person, was always near him when he had difficulties ... and she was actually the perfect wife, but she was not loving him. The other woman, started the relationship with him only as a revenge, cause she was mad on her husband ... but without realising she fell in love with the guy. She was not a honest person and actually was lying a lot ... but somehow, being in love, she changed ... and she was infinitely loving him.
She could not live without him, but the wise man was still doing nothing to
choose her and leave his wife.
Waited for a long, long time.
Every time she was loosing her minds waiting, she was starting to lie again with different things, so that she wins the competition.
She was not understanding that a man can not love 2 women in the same time and if they meant to be togheter she just needed to wait as the Universe to arrange things in the way they need to be arranged. Love is beautiful ... but it also means honesty.
If you want to gain the love ... lying all the time just to present reality in a much better way is a silly way of acting.
But when you use to lie all the time ... maybe lying is the best thing you know to do.
The story continued for a very long time and not because the man didn’t know what to choose.
He just preferred as in the real world to have near him a honest person, even if he knew very well that she did not loved him.
On the other hand, he was enjoying the love story with the other beautiful woman from his life.
He knew that there were lots of moments when she was lying him and his intuition told this to him many, many times ... but in an illusory world ... in that fairy tale that they had togheter ... everything was the most beautiful illusion he
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
ever lived.
Could not live only in the illusion ... but could not live without the illusion either. And truth be told .. when we regret that reality is the way it is ... there is a huge need of beautiful lies so that we feel good again, at least for a short time.
Maybe we should read Louise Hay, understand the theory of affirmations and see how they can change our lives.
But i am sure is much easier and also interesting having in your life a beautiful lady that is whispering you beautiful lies all the time.
And one day you even start to believe her ... that you are beautiful, you are smart ... you are a champion ... and others bla bla bla.
But ... that’s only till you come back home ... and your beautiful, wise ... but honest wife ... is waking you up ... and tells you the truth again.
But there is no truth ... only what you believe at that moment ... is the real truth,
