Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Can you allow this?! ... if yes for how long and if not ...why you think that destroying the relationship is the only solution? But you do it ... and something strange happens.
You have a huge fight ... you see this as the final end ... but after few days with a broken heart on both sides, you meet again. And you see that ... it didn’t worked.
You realise you love that person a lot and you are loved too, but the break up cannot be into the script of your story.
An infinite connection cannot be broken ... not even by cheating.
We have a beautiful side, but also a dark side in us ... but in a real love story, the partner will love both of your sides.
And in the end .... NOTHING can destroy a fairy tale... not even your stupid
actions .... and yeeesss ... not even if it is about cheating.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
The emotional earthquakes into a love story can ruin or just redefine everything.
Are u afraid of earthquakes?!
What about emotional earthquakes?!
What if one day, just over night, something happens and even if you had the illusion that everything was perfect into your love story ...suddenly it all becomes a mess.
Is like you jump from happiness to unhappiness not even realising what and why it happened.
But you feel a mix of totally different emotions and everything is so powerful that you can’t even define in which position you are. And it all happens very fast.
Hoping to survive ... don’t know what to say and do, but just wait as everything to end soon.
You know ... sometimes ... when we think that everything is perfect, we just ignore simple or bigger problems and we hide them till one day ... when the emotional earthquake is coming.
And we speak about absence of trust and many other things that we cannot believe were there, but we did not saw.
Everything looks like a total bankruptcy and the end is quite clear ... cause revealing all the unspoken and unwanted elements of the relationship, we are shocked of seeing everything displayed just one by one.
Being in love can make you become blinded at many important aspects, but an emotional earthquake can have the power of an awakening.
Seeing things that were always there, but you could not see, understanding situations with a new meaning ... you suddenly see the whole story ruined or completely redefined.
Being afraid of this is NOTHING but running away from the truth, which in time will only close the connection between you and your partner.
So ... just let the dynamic of the relationship go in which direction it needs to go,
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
even if is done by a forced emotional earthquakes.
Is better to see unwanted truths, than hiding them till one day when you just see you cannot continue anymore.
Let the emotional earthquake run the relationship for a short while.
It can fix the things ... but also brake everything.
But probably it will do ... what is best to be done.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Betrayal is just part of the script.
It beautifully reveals the illusion and makes
the passion even stronger.
Being in love means being happy and unhappy in the same time, accepting the things just as they are ... but only seeing everything in a magical way. And suddenly ... one day ... betrayal comes into the story.
You thought you have the perfect story .... but the betrayal reveals the illusion of
something you saw as perfect.
You understand then, that only the story was perfect, not the 2 of you, cause you met togheter to become perfect.
And ... you got lost, instead of being forever into the fairy tale.
It says that inside of us .... all of us ... we have demons ... of different kinds, that
somehow destroy all the beautiful things from our lives.
Having a perfect story, that is running for a very long time in a beautiful way ... and later on seeing that behind the story there is a huge betrayal, that just cancel everything you lived togheter, all the beautiful memories and all you actually had as a couple... takes the 2 of you to sign the papers of your emotional bankruptcy process.
But what should make us want to bring the betrayal into a beautiful love story? It makes NO sense.
There is NOTHING to say ... to explain the stupidity of one of the partners ... that does this.
But the demons, that we thought were defeated long time ago ... we pulled them out to freedom ... and now we see them under the mask of the betrayal.
Is difficult to understand the concept, but accepting the dark side from us, which we name “demons”, is a process we need to follow ... just as part of the script of our story.
In the end, if we succeed to accept into our souls, the things ... just the way they are, betrayal beautifully reveals the illusion, but makes the passion even stronger, cause we saw both sides of the story ... the beautiful one and the dark one. Betrayal helps us in an abstract way, but only if we are strong enough.
And there will be NOTHING else to be afraid of.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Having everything and then loosing everything ... is the meeting we have, as a
couple, with the infinite.
Embrace the illusion and smile.
There is NOTHING that can stop the connection between of you.
And let the music play again .... no matter what what happens, cause life itself is
just an illusion ... even if today you really feel in love and happy.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Blonde or brunette?!
One looks as a saint and one as a bitch.
Which one do you prefer?! ... cause both are the same.
Once upon a time, there were 2 beautiful sisters.
I met them hundreds of years ago and i loved both of them.
Used to call them the siamese sisters, cause they acted preaty funny on the stages of their lives.
They were copying each other everytime, even if it was silly what they were doing.
One day, the blonde said “I had enough!
She is just copying me all the time and can’t stand it anymore. I think is time for a trap for my dear sister”.
She started to speak her daily about a married man, presenting him as a prince.
Everyday she told her something new, but always something positive.
He was a close friend of her and the guy was looking for a mistress by a long time.
She was sure that he will just love to have a love affair with the brunette.
Was his style, the kind of person that dreams about fairy tales.
It was the perfect trap and meanwhile the blonde could steal the husband of the brunette.
But the funny thing is that the strange guy falls in love with the brunette... and even if she thought that is going to be just a love affair, she falls in love also. She could not believe what is going on.
She was living the dream of her life ... the fairy tale.
Months ago she lost her minds because the blonde was trying to steal her husband, telling about her that she was a bitch and now she was praying every night before she went to sleep as the blonde to steal her husband forever.
She was in love and wanted to be in the real life with the love of her wife. Comparing with the blonde, the brunette was looking like a saint, but what she was doing to another woman ... was just trying to steal her husband, just as the blonde tried to do to her.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Seeing that in the end is not winning the game, the blondy girl just continued her adventures and tries other love affairs also, cause the husband of the brunette was loosing all his time, being jealous with his wife.
And the brunette ... seeing the same .... that is not succeeding to steal that guy
from his wife, remembers again of her sister.
Everytime she did not understood what to do ... she just copied the blondy girl.
She knew that she was smarter than her and that she was only a clone of her.
She had the same beauty, same charm, but not the same intelligence.
And ... the silly girl started to have other love affairs also ... with other men, not realising that the guy she loved so much is not so stupid as her husband ... and will find out.
But when truth was seen ... that was the moment she understood she is just the silly sister of the blondy girl ... and NOTHING more.
That was the day she lost her husband, but also the love of her life.
You need to know that copying the people of success is ok, but knowing where to stop ... depends only by your intelligence.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
“She is a bitch!” ... he said very angry.
His wise friend replyed to him:
“She is not a bitch. Karma is a bitch ... cause it
always hits you were you love most and in the end you will
discover that the bitch is you”
This is a story about a close friend of mine from Pakistan, that i like a lot.
He is kind of a siamese brother, cause we think and act the same in life.
We always talked about karma, but never defined it so well, till the day karma knocked on the door of my dear friend.
He was married, but deeply in love with a beautiful married lady.
He loved her a lot and she loved him a lot also.
They had plans togheter, to divorce, get marry and live 100 years togheter.
One day he asked her to marry him ... she said yes ... even if both of them were married.
They spent thousands of hours on chat or speaking on telephone, but they could not see each other so often as they wanted.
It was a love story that you can see only in the hollywoodian movies.
Bottom line ... a fairy tale.
The story continued for months even if their partners found out about them. In one point, their partners just decided to wait, hoping that one day the love story will end.
They prayed ... even went to a priest asking for advice ... and just waited and prayed again.
But my friend was waiting for a miracle to happen, cause he wanted the lady a lot, but he did not actually wanted to divorce for real. He just loved the story.
He was blinded by the story .. but he was thinking he was controlling the story. To help him, his lady friend, tried to divorce 3 times, but not seeing him so convinced, she ... each time ... stoped the divorce in the last second.
My friend knew very well what karma is, but he said that if karma will play the role needs to played, he will not care if his wife will cheat on him.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
He thought that this is the worst case scenario it could happen and even if the Universe tried to end the story with the lady many times, he just refused to say stop.
He liked her a lot.
His wife was desperate and her husband became the same, but he was not caring about that.
The lady explained to him also that she had enough waiting and she became desperate too cause he did not wanted to divorce.
But one day he finds out that his lady friend was speaking with another man also. The guy liked her and tried to conquer her, sending daily messages to her all the time.
And she replied.
But also other men were liking her.
And she replied to them also.
An old lover of her also wrote her from time to time, telling about his sexual desires and she continued to speak with him also.
Thinking she had waited enough she started to cheat him with her husband even if she always told him that he infinitely loved him.
When he finds out everything he could not believe that this is real.
He was asking himself ... how could posible be ... all of this ... just an illusion. He realised she wanted to be admired and was speaking not just with another man, but with more ... and more does not mean 2. He was very, very angry on her.
Then he calms down and had a state of awakening ... and realised he was doing the same.
She cheated on him with her husband ... he was daily cheated on her with his wife for months.
She was speaking with other men ... he was doing the same, with tens of women. He cheated on him with another man, but he was cheated on her with another lady also.
She was lying on him ... he was lying on her also.
But deep inside the ... it was naive love.
And everything became dirty ... kind of a mix of love, vanity and revenge.
He called her a bitch ... and she was a bitch.
Then he said that karma is a bitch.
He always thought that if karma will play any role in their story, most probably his wife will cheat on him, but he was not caring about his wife. Karma hits you always where you love most.
He loved her ... and this is where karma decided to hit him.
And for her it was the same.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Cheat and you will be cheated.
Lie and the partner from the love story will lie to you too.
Revenge and will see the revenge also.
Karma is a difficult exam you need to pass in life and if you don’t understand clearly the message, the story will be repeated to you on and on and on. Karma is not a bitch.
Karma is a mirror of your actions.
Was the lady from the story a bitch or my dear friend from Pakistan was a bad boy?!
There were mistakes on both sides, but in the end, even if it was a great love story ... everything was ruined by their silly actions.
When you try to win all the time ... you will probably not like the final results. In life you need to act with an opened soul ... without trying to hurt anyone, just cause you have a very strong desire of enjoying life.
Do whatever you want ... play or be played if you think that this is what life is about, but same as you will meet in life the illusion of happiness or unhappiness ... the same way, you will play or be played.
