THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
1
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
ADRIAN DUMITRU
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
Year: 2020
Author: Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
2
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
IS LOVE AN ILLUSION?!
“i SAW THAT YOU WERE PERFECT AND SO I LOVED YOU. THEN I SAW THAT YOU WERE NOT PERFECT AND I LOVED YOU EVEN MORE”
Adrian G Dumitru
3
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
INTRODUCTION
The book “The beautiful illusion of being in love” is a collection of writings with what is love about.
Starting from the philosophical idea that everything we see in life is just an illusion, the book is defining the concept of love in the same way. But the illusion itself is also named “beautiful”.
Falling in love is an experience, that any human being must see, with it’s own soul.
It can be a beautiful experience, an illusion or a beautiful illusion.
The book is more like a collection of poems, but the writer is not knowing to write poetry, but only essays.
Trying to define love in many ways, the essays speak about the beautiful illusion as part of the life ... maybe the most important part.
Defining is done in a micro and macro way, but the love is always seen as something very beautiful.
The book could be a very nice reading for the ones that are in the dreaming period of a love story, or the ones that wants to understand love from a philosophical point of view.
Enjoy it!
Adrian G Dumitru
4
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
IT'S ALL AN ILLUSION
… SO ENJOY THE SHOW
All religions say about life that is an illusion.
All great philosophers tell the same.
Basiclly ... the short story is that everything you own, you see, you love, you smell, you touch ... you feel .. it’s an illusion. Just everything ...
I mean you go to the church you hear that, you speak with a professor of philosophy and you hear the same ... and you dont understand a thing.
You drive your expensive car ... you see a beggar at a street corner ... and you
realise that probably there is no difference between the 2 of you ... cause
everything is just an illusion.
But is difficult to accept that.
And one day a greater illusion appears in your life.
You fall in love.
And you just love it.
And you wonder again ... is that an illusion also?! You know the answear ... but you avoid to answear.
But what if ... i just say what if ... you just admit it’s an illusion and you enjoy the illusion?
What if you enjoy the show?!
It’s difficult to understand life throw the philosophy of illusions ... but being redefined as a show ... which sounds better ... you can even get better results. A zen proverb says “Chop wood, carry water”.
Before the awakening the monk was choping wood and carried water ... after the enlightenment he was doing the same.
The monk was living in the present moment, no matter what he was doing ... so he was probably just enjoying the show. We can do the same.
But we are luckier ... we should just enjoy the love story ... and life should be beautiful.
Cause love stories ... are beautiful.
Adrian G Dumitru
5
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
STATISTICS SHOWS THAT WE ARE
UNHAPPY … BUT WE COULD BE
Yes, the truth about the modern society is that lots of people are unhappy. And most of them are people involved into relationships, even long time relationships.
You see ... people fall in love, start a relationship and end up being unhappy ...
which is weird.
It’s like starting a business and know that not after a long time, you will fail ...
and be bankrupt.
But you know, even small businessmen are studying what business is about, get involved a lot, make smaller or bigger business plans and try to apply all those things into the business they have.
But almost all the unhappy people, if you ask themselves to define why they are unhappy, or if they ever tryed to just redefine their relationship so that could be again a love story ... will give almost no answear, or if they answear they will explain to you for hours why the partner is not bringing the happiness inside their relationship.
Unhappy people don’t even read articles over internet about what is the unhappiness, or how to save a relationship. They just live the unhappiness.
Real love is about connecting the partner’s energies, and form a new entity called ... the couple.
That new energy is the one that brings the happiness, the unhappiness and everything else comes from there.
To be happy while being involved into a relationship, is like wanting to be in good physical condition all the time.
You will need to be aware of what you eat, what you drink, go to the gym and respect a clear schedule for that all the time.
And after few months you can easily see the results.
The same in a relationship.
You will need to care, love, smile, spend quality time togheter and even keep a statistics of what happens everyday ... defining if was bad, ok, good or excelent. Defining all the time, once a day what is happening and if you don’t like what you see just redefine ... is a simple first step.
Adrian G Dumitru
6
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
Because being happy is a choice ... but most probably you need a plan for that ...
especially when you are into a relationship.
Dare to redefine everything as a love story.
Adrian G Dumitru
7
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LIFE IS SIMPLE … WE JUST
DON'T KNOW TO ENJOY IT
It says that life is simple.
If you are happy, you should keep dancing and if not ... start dacing.
And the question is ... do you have a partener for dancing?! I mean ... a real one. But that kind of partner that knows to dance in any situation that life brings you. Living beautifully our lives ... smiling, dancing, being happy could be a nice scenario to follow.
But if it is that simple, why we have so many unhappy people on the planet?! Well ... i think that smiling is just a simple choice and after you smile to her ...
then you can ask her to dance ... then while dancing you will feel joy inside your soul ... and when joy in there ... you are happy.
So, quite a simple equation ... and you jump from a smile to being happy.
You should try this exercise.
But the parter is important.
Choosing that person is not easy ... or maybe you don’t even need to choose or search for one ... cause at the right time, that magic person will suddenly appear in your life.
So ... just pay attention not to loose that lovely person from your life. Will be difficult to be replaced!
Adrian G Dumitru
8
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
“DON'T WORRY! EVERYTHING
IS GOING TO GE AMAZING!”
It’s quite important to have near you a lovely person that ... no matter what is happening in life ... can just say to you “Don’t worry!”.
If you also hear “Everything is going to be amazing!” ... you are one of the
luckiest person from the world.
And i am not joking on you.
The words that comes from your lover are of huge impact on how you will feel and also act in difficult, strange or important moments from your life. Just to hear an encouragement is fantastic.
To know that the loved person is on your side all the time, is the only thing you will need.
That’s going to be real fuel for your spirit.
A real connection, a real relationship is going to follow many directions over the years, but no matter what really happens ... just being there for 100% near your partner ... will mean a lot.
Never forget of great words as: fantastic, great, amazing, magnific, gorgeous etc, etc.
Whispering them to the loved one is a way of reconnecting to a new level. And also ... everything is going to be amazing with the 2 of you, as a couple!
Adrian G Dumitru
9
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
THE BARGAINING TABLE
If we come to a bargaining table expecting to compromise in relationships, we’ll walk away a looser almost everytime.
The “bargaining table” is a way to refer to the time and place that parties come together to handle a negotiation. It doesn't need to be a physical “table”, rather it refers to the act of getting a deal done.
But can we talk about a bargaining table when it comes to a love story?!
I mean a real, real one ... a fantastic great story ... can that have something to do with compromises?!
Well ... it’s ok to totally forget about your ego when you are into a beautiful story, but never forget of the real values any person should have. What are the real values?!
You can find the real values into the Bible, but the bible is a too long story to read it ... so the short story is: don’t lie, don’t cheat and many, many others bla, bla, bla.
In fact ... in a real great relationship, just do the things that you expect as the partner to do, so that you and that person to feel great ... cause probably this is why you called the story ... a great one.
Today, i believe that when it comes to love, you can just accept for a while any compromises, even cheating ... if you love too much and can’t live without that person ... but in the end ... at least we should have the dencency not to call what we have ... a great love story.
Staying in the mud ... and imagining we are in a great resort at a beautiful spa ...
it’s only an illusion.
On the other hand, in life everything can happen at the most unexpected moment.
Ugly facts and events can appear into the story, but accepting them for on and on should just be silly ... cause if we come to a bargaining table expecting to compromise in relationships, we’ll walk away a looser almost everytime.
Life can be beautiful if we have some simple values and we follow them. Accepting that we also make mistakes is just part of the game, but in the next second it happens just define the situation and maybe redefine the whole script, so that it can still be a great love story.
Adrian G Dumitru
10
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
VIRTUAL OR FOR REAL?!
How should we enjoy our love story ... virtual or for real?!
Of course, we will answear that we would do it only into the real way.
But we spend hours on chat, even with the loved person.
So many people spend lots of time on messenger, whatsapp, sms, phone calls and many, many other ways of interconnection into a virtual way. And i now understand why video chat studios are running so well.
We are afraid of spending our life on the real scene and we hide behind the screen of the phone or of the computer.
But why we don’t define what virtual and real means?!
What is the worst it can happen if you directly play the role, with no mask, on the real scene ... the life itself ... the real one?!
Yes .... you can have a silly performance ... but at least you act in the real life.
The emotions can drive you crazy ... but don’t tell me that you are afraid of your emotions?!
Most probably, if you really like someone, just dare to interact with that person into the real world.
You will see directly if you have or not a connection, cause without a connection ... there will not be any relationship at all.
You can’t really be with someone if you hide behind the screen of the phone. Living into the real world is probably the answear ... but only if you accept you are a human being ... with everything that means.
Adrian G Dumitru
11
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
POWER OF WORDS
The words can define the whole world.
The power of our words is extremely important.
Being fallen in love, we adore to hear the beautiful words from our partners.
We just love it.
Beautiful words can make us feel like a prince ... or a princess.
Combined with a real scene ... and with real chemistry between the 2 of the partners, words have a huge power.
Only hearing the voice of the person we falled in love with ... will just raise your vibration to the highest posible level you ever been.
The power of words is explained also into the bible and is a way of connecting to deeper levels.
It can increase the connection with the partner, just by trying to define the undefined between the 2 of you.
Cause to make someone understand your mind is a different kind of intimacy.
But in the end ... words are just part of the process.
Reality ... and i mean just a simple smile ... touching the hand ... a kiss ... feeling that person is real ... will take you even closer. And combined are the magic formula.
Words can help you clearly define, but in the end just smiling ... can make the person you love ... see everything you feel inside your soul.
Keep the right balance ... but whatever you do, first of all ... let your heart love.
Then everything will come by itself.
Adrian G Dumitru
12
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LISTEN TO YOUTR EMOTIONS .. AND NOT
NECESSARY FOLLOW YOUR EMOTIONS
The most difficult thing in the world is not to control the others around you, but to master yourself.
Understanding where you are on the timeline of your life, seeing and accepting yourself just as you are is probably the first step of connecting to your soul. And no matter where you are today, is the best place you could be, cause the Universe knows better.
Following the road of discovering yourself, except of listening to your intuition, you should also listen to your emotions. Lots of people dislike that.
Find this as a weak behavior.
But you need to understand that listening doesn’t mean following.
A philosophical view over love stories
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
1
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
ADRIAN DUMITRU
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
Year: 2020
Author: Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
2
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
IS LOVE AN ILLUSION?!
“i SAW THAT YOU WERE PERFECT AND SO I LOVED YOU. THEN I SAW THAT YOU WERE NOT PERFECT AND I LOVED YOU EVEN MORE”
Adrian G Dumitru
3
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
INTRODUCTION
The book “The beautiful illusion of being in love” is a collection of writings with what is love about.
Starting from the philosophical idea that everything we see in life is just an illusion, the book is defining the concept of love in the same way. But the illusion itself is also named “beautiful”.
Falling in love is an experience, that any human being must see, with it’s own soul.
It can be a beautiful experience, an illusion or a beautiful illusion.
The book is more like a collection of poems, but the writer is not knowing to write poetry, but only essays.
Trying to define love in many ways, the essays speak about the beautiful illusion as part of the life ... maybe the most important part.
Defining is done in a micro and macro way, but the love is always seen as something very beautiful.
The book could be a very nice reading for the ones that are in the dreaming period of a love story, or the ones that wants to understand love from a philosophical point of view.
Enjoy it!
Adrian G Dumitru
4
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
IT'S ALL AN ILLUSION
… SO ENJOY THE SHOW
All religions say about life that is an illusion.
All great philosophers tell the same.
Basiclly ... the short story is that everything you own, you see, you love, you smell, you touch ... you feel .. it’s an illusion. Just everything ...
I mean you go to the church you hear that, you speak with a professor of philosophy and you hear the same ... and you dont understand a thing.
You drive your expensive car ... you see a beggar at a street corner ... and you
realise that probably there is no difference between the 2 of you ... cause
everything is just an illusion.
But is difficult to accept that.
And one day a greater illusion appears in your life.
You fall in love.
And you just love it.
And you wonder again ... is that an illusion also?! You know the answear ... but you avoid to answear.
But what if ... i just say what if ... you just admit it’s an illusion and you enjoy the illusion?
What if you enjoy the show?!
It’s difficult to understand life throw the philosophy of illusions ... but being redefined as a show ... which sounds better ... you can even get better results. A zen proverb says “Chop wood, carry water”.
Before the awakening the monk was choping wood and carried water ... after the enlightenment he was doing the same.
The monk was living in the present moment, no matter what he was doing ... so he was probably just enjoying the show. We can do the same.
But we are luckier ... we should just enjoy the love story ... and life should be beautiful.
Cause love stories ... are beautiful.
Adrian G Dumitru
5
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
STATISTICS SHOWS THAT WE ARE
UNHAPPY … BUT WE COULD BE
Yes, the truth about the modern society is that lots of people are unhappy. And most of them are people involved into relationships, even long time relationships.
You see ... people fall in love, start a relationship and end up being unhappy ...
which is weird.
It’s like starting a business and know that not after a long time, you will fail ...
and be bankrupt.
But you know, even small businessmen are studying what business is about, get involved a lot, make smaller or bigger business plans and try to apply all those things into the business they have.
But almost all the unhappy people, if you ask themselves to define why they are unhappy, or if they ever tryed to just redefine their relationship so that could be again a love story ... will give almost no answear, or if they answear they will explain to you for hours why the partner is not bringing the happiness inside their relationship.
Unhappy people don’t even read articles over internet about what is the unhappiness, or how to save a relationship. They just live the unhappiness.
Real love is about connecting the partner’s energies, and form a new entity called ... the couple.
That new energy is the one that brings the happiness, the unhappiness and everything else comes from there.
To be happy while being involved into a relationship, is like wanting to be in good physical condition all the time.
You will need to be aware of what you eat, what you drink, go to the gym and respect a clear schedule for that all the time.
And after few months you can easily see the results.
The same in a relationship.
You will need to care, love, smile, spend quality time togheter and even keep a statistics of what happens everyday ... defining if was bad, ok, good or excelent. Defining all the time, once a day what is happening and if you don’t like what you see just redefine ... is a simple first step.
Adrian G Dumitru
6
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
Because being happy is a choice ... but most probably you need a plan for that ...
especially when you are into a relationship.
Dare to redefine everything as a love story.
Adrian G Dumitru
7
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LIFE IS SIMPLE … WE JUST
DON'T KNOW TO ENJOY IT
It says that life is simple.
If you are happy, you should keep dancing and if not ... start dacing.
And the question is ... do you have a partener for dancing?! I mean ... a real one. But that kind of partner that knows to dance in any situation that life brings you. Living beautifully our lives ... smiling, dancing, being happy could be a nice scenario to follow.
But if it is that simple, why we have so many unhappy people on the planet?! Well ... i think that smiling is just a simple choice and after you smile to her ...
then you can ask her to dance ... then while dancing you will feel joy inside your soul ... and when joy in there ... you are happy.
So, quite a simple equation ... and you jump from a smile to being happy.
You should try this exercise.
But the parter is important.
Choosing that person is not easy ... or maybe you don’t even need to choose or search for one ... cause at the right time, that magic person will suddenly appear in your life.
So ... just pay attention not to loose that lovely person from your life. Will be difficult to be replaced!
Adrian G Dumitru
8
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
“DON'T WORRY! EVERYTHING
IS GOING TO GE AMAZING!”
It’s quite important to have near you a lovely person that ... no matter what is happening in life ... can just say to you “Don’t worry!”.
If you also hear “Everything is going to be amazing!” ... you are one of the
luckiest person from the world.
And i am not joking on you.
The words that comes from your lover are of huge impact on how you will feel and also act in difficult, strange or important moments from your life. Just to hear an encouragement is fantastic.
To know that the loved person is on your side all the time, is the only thing you will need.
That’s going to be real fuel for your spirit.
A real connection, a real relationship is going to follow many directions over the years, but no matter what really happens ... just being there for 100% near your partner ... will mean a lot.
Never forget of great words as: fantastic, great, amazing, magnific, gorgeous etc, etc.
Whispering them to the loved one is a way of reconnecting to a new level. And also ... everything is going to be amazing with the 2 of you, as a couple!
Adrian G Dumitru
9
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
THE BARGAINING TABLE
If we come to a bargaining table expecting to compromise in relationships, we’ll walk away a looser almost everytime.
The “bargaining table” is a way to refer to the time and place that parties come together to handle a negotiation. It doesn't need to be a physical “table”, rather it refers to the act of getting a deal done.
But can we talk about a bargaining table when it comes to a love story?!
I mean a real, real one ... a fantastic great story ... can that have something to do with compromises?!
Well ... it’s ok to totally forget about your ego when you are into a beautiful story, but never forget of the real values any person should have. What are the real values?!
You can find the real values into the Bible, but the bible is a too long story to read it ... so the short story is: don’t lie, don’t cheat and many, many others bla, bla, bla.
In fact ... in a real great relationship, just do the things that you expect as the partner to do, so that you and that person to feel great ... cause probably this is why you called the story ... a great one.
Today, i believe that when it comes to love, you can just accept for a while any compromises, even cheating ... if you love too much and can’t live without that person ... but in the end ... at least we should have the dencency not to call what we have ... a great love story.
Staying in the mud ... and imagining we are in a great resort at a beautiful spa ...
it’s only an illusion.
On the other hand, in life everything can happen at the most unexpected moment.
Ugly facts and events can appear into the story, but accepting them for on and on should just be silly ... cause if we come to a bargaining table expecting to compromise in relationships, we’ll walk away a looser almost everytime.
Life can be beautiful if we have some simple values and we follow them. Accepting that we also make mistakes is just part of the game, but in the next second it happens just define the situation and maybe redefine the whole script, so that it can still be a great love story.
Adrian G Dumitru
10
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
VIRTUAL OR FOR REAL?!
How should we enjoy our love story ... virtual or for real?!
Of course, we will answear that we would do it only into the real way.
But we spend hours on chat, even with the loved person.
So many people spend lots of time on messenger, whatsapp, sms, phone calls and many, many other ways of interconnection into a virtual way. And i now understand why video chat studios are running so well.
We are afraid of spending our life on the real scene and we hide behind the screen of the phone or of the computer.
But why we don’t define what virtual and real means?!
What is the worst it can happen if you directly play the role, with no mask, on the real scene ... the life itself ... the real one?!
Yes .... you can have a silly performance ... but at least you act in the real life.
The emotions can drive you crazy ... but don’t tell me that you are afraid of your emotions?!
Most probably, if you really like someone, just dare to interact with that person into the real world.
You will see directly if you have or not a connection, cause without a connection ... there will not be any relationship at all.
You can’t really be with someone if you hide behind the screen of the phone. Living into the real world is probably the answear ... but only if you accept you are a human being ... with everything that means.
Adrian G Dumitru
11
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
POWER OF WORDS
The words can define the whole world.
The power of our words is extremely important.
Being fallen in love, we adore to hear the beautiful words from our partners.
We just love it.
Beautiful words can make us feel like a prince ... or a princess.
Combined with a real scene ... and with real chemistry between the 2 of the partners, words have a huge power.
Only hearing the voice of the person we falled in love with ... will just raise your vibration to the highest posible level you ever been.
The power of words is explained also into the bible and is a way of connecting to deeper levels.
It can increase the connection with the partner, just by trying to define the undefined between the 2 of you.
Cause to make someone understand your mind is a different kind of intimacy.
But in the end ... words are just part of the process.
Reality ... and i mean just a simple smile ... touching the hand ... a kiss ... feeling that person is real ... will take you even closer. And combined are the magic formula.
Words can help you clearly define, but in the end just smiling ... can make the person you love ... see everything you feel inside your soul.
Keep the right balance ... but whatever you do, first of all ... let your heart love.
Then everything will come by itself.
Adrian G Dumitru
12
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LISTEN TO YOUTR EMOTIONS .. AND NOT
NECESSARY FOLLOW YOUR EMOTIONS
The most difficult thing in the world is not to control the others around you, but to master yourself.
Understanding where you are on the timeline of your life, seeing and accepting yourself just as you are is probably the first step of connecting to your soul. And no matter where you are today, is the best place you could be, cause the Universe knows better.
Following the road of discovering yourself, except of listening to your intuition, you should also listen to your emotions. Lots of people dislike that.
Find this as a weak behavior.
But you need to understand that listening doesn’t mean following.
