Get rid of the abstract and just love with an open heart!
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
ONCE UPON A TIME...
A LOVE STORY ALWAYS STARTS AS THAT …. BUT THE
QUESTION IS: WAS IT REAL?!
Well, all stories starts as ... once upon a time, there was a ...
What about a love story?
A real love story is always defined as a fairy tale.
Once, a person ... a beautiful girl, wanted to drive me crazy ... and she replied to me “you are the kind of person that believes in fairy tales”. And we ended the discussion.
The impact was huge ... cause yes, i am believing that fairy tales can exist into the real life, but we just need to see that life has many ways of showing us what really means.
“Once upon a time” ... is the perfect introduction when you can admit that the Universe loves you and sent you into a love story. But ... was the story real?!
Did you enjoyed it?!
Had you been brave enough to be naive as a child and love with an open heart?! Accepting that life can be beautiful, that we deserve to be happy ... that fairy tales can be also be part of the real life ... through a love story ... is a way of living with no fear into the soul.
A soul defined by love is a beautiful soul.
A soul that shows the love ... is a soul that togheter with another soul connects to the beauty of being alive.
Stories ... love stories ... come in our lives to redefine for us the way we see everything into the present moment.
The question ... “Is it real?!” is a pertinent one, but you need to see life from different angles so that you see its beauty.
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
WHY NOT?!
Why don’t we know to enjoy the love stories?!
Most probably the meaning of the love story in your life is just to enjoy it.
But the mind, with its scenarios, complicates everything ... not letting us see the beauty side of the story.
We see the past, we analyse the present and predict the future, loosing time instead of living the moments with the person that makes us feel alive.
We go through life not knowing what we really want, working a lot, collecting things, projecting happiness somewhere in the future, not realising that the Universe offered us everything today ... in this moment. The french will say ...”Pourqouis-pas”?! ... why not?!
Who stops us from being happy ... right in this moment?!
A real love story, with the right connection between the 2 partners, is a way of understanding the pleasure of being alive.
The chemistry between of them ... is translated into the souls ... as joy.
The art of seeing and enjoying a love story starts with “Why not?!”.
What else you have to do into the present moment ... that should be more
important as being happy?!
Be unhappy?!
It s quite easy to jump from unhappiness to happiness if you just see that everything is only the decision to let you enjoy the present moment ... and feel alive.
It’s an experience ... a beautiful one.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
I AM THE DESIGNER OF
MY OWN CATASTROPHY
Personal growth teaches you what is the meaning of the victim stage and why is so important to understand that everything happens for a reason in your life and you need to realise that you are the designer of your life.
This also can be translated as the fact that you are the designer of your own catastrophy.
If you ask someone that just broke up or someone that has a bad relationship, why are the things the way they are ... they will just tell you for hours different stories, with different reasons ... but there is no fault on their side. That is the position of the victim stage.
Recognizing you are there is just the first step into the process.
I wonder for example if someone that was cheated by the partner is ever thought that everything could be his or her fault?
We do not need to jump from the victim stage to just blame you ... but still need to see reality just as it is.
Realising that you did not offered enough into the story, is a way of seeing why cheating was part of everything happened between. But that is only an ugly scenario.
The relationship itself has many, many ways in how the results of our actions appears into the story we have togheter. But can you change a thing?!
Well ... yes ... just start playing on the stage of the love story in a way that shows you care about the 2 of you as a couple and most probably everything will go in a different direction.
Admiting you are the designer of your own life ... but also of your own catastrophy is just part of the game. Admit it and play ... with no fear.
Life is beautiful if you know to enjoy it.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
TOTALLY FORGOT ABOUT MUSIC
Why in the beginning everything is just peaches and cream and then after years everything is becomes just boring, annoying and no pleasure of being togheter? We somehow miss something over the years and in one point everything between is broken.
That something is called connection.
In the beginning we really understand what that means, but then, later on, there is no importance paid to the connection itself.
A way in how we mix energies, the pleasure of feeling the presence of the partner near is just a way of feeling the 3rd part ... the couple.
Yes, we forget about the music, we forget about the 2 of you as a couple and even start to not care about that.
Jumping from being in love to the absence of caring for a person that you saw in the past as part of divinity.
The music between the 2 of you, made everything be beautiful.
The moment when you forgot about music, about the connection, is the moment
when everything is broken.
Can you fix it?!
Well ... if you see the real meaning of loosing the partner’s soul, you might also think about the music of your story.
That music played while your souls display through the dance.
Had the infinity and could have it again.
But you just forgot how to start the music on.
It was so simple, cause everything begins just with one smile.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
TOTALLY FORGOT ABOUT MUSIC
The music between the 2 of you, made everything be beautiful.
The moment when you forgot about music, about the connection, is the moment when everything is broken.
Can you fix it?!
Well ... if you see the real meaning of loosing the partner’s soul, you might also think about the music of your story.
That music played while your souls display through the dance.
Had the infinity and could have it again.
But you just forgot how to start the music on.
It was so simple, cause everything begins just with one smile.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
PERFECT SCENE
… THE CHARACTERS ARE MISSING
They had everything arranged so that they could be togheter.
Their love was infinite.
Perfect chemistry.
And they ... failed.
They were blinds because of the love story.
They forget that we live in a real world ... and the real life has other rules to follow than a fairy tale.
So we wonder today, knowing the story, seeing everything as our own story ...
why the characters are missing from this perfect scene?
All the ingredients of a beautiful story and the end is so silly?
If you ask what happened with them ... as a couple, they will not know what to say.
But they miss each other a lot ... knowing that they missed the story of their lives.
Yes ... being in love means to be blind, to act without knowing the path you follow.
You care about everything, but you see only the love ... and nothing more.
When the end is coming, when you realise that the Universe gave you everything
you could ever imagine ... and you missed the chance ... it s almost imposible to
describe the feelings from your soul.
You continue life.
And you still dream about the story.
Think about that perfect scene ... where the characters are missing and think once again ... if the Universe will give them one more chance. Just one.
The last one ... they promise ... while praying.
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LET'S PLAY THE GAME
Ask, believe, receive ... you know the formula.
You can receive anything you ask to the Universe, but you need to be ready to really play the game.
Do you dream at the perfect partner?!
But can you ask yourself if you are ready to meet that person in the present moment?!
Dreaming it s ok, but acting is difficult.
We define 10 or 20 scenarios and we cannot play .... not even the simplest one ...
cause we are afraid of living our lives.
Most of the time, we live in what could be defined as a boring script and when the Universe comes to us saying: “Hey! It’s the moment! Just dare ... play the game!” ... we do not know how to hide from the scene.
We know how we should act, what to say ... but are afraid of enjoying life.
Had been taught to practice overthinking ... even how to be careful at something that makes us happy and analyze few times before accepting that in our life ...
cause, who knows, might be an illusion and we should think twice before living with an illusion on the timeline.
Is difficult to understand why we allow us to dream, but dont allow us to live and enjoy the fantasy.
We end up as emotional robots ... the software tells us when we stop ... not to be conquered by our emotions.
Yes ... cause we are afraid of being destroyed by our emotions.
But the meaning of emotions is to make you alive, not to destroy you. Just dare to play on the scene of your life!
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
FANTASY OR REALITY?!
WHAT PATH DO YOU CHOOSE?!
I know a beautiful lady, with a beautiful soul, that somehow ... was actually distroyed by her husband, little by little.
She was in love with him, but jealousy made her loose her minds in the end.
But the Universe loved her and she survived.
Husband tryed to change, made her beautiful presents, change the way he acted with her ... he actually tryed to rewrite the script of their marriage.
But one day ... with no real intention to do that, the lady falls in love with another man.
The guy gave her life, made her smile, be happy and again ... a beautiful soul. They were living an imposible love story and after a long time she decides to come back to her husband.
With the guy that made her be alive again, she was extremely happy, but it all looks like a fantasy, or better defined an illusion. Her husband was the real life.
Between a beautiful fantasy and an ugly reality she is choosing in the end ... the reality.
Yes ... somehow we do not believe in fairy tales .. strong enough so that we make them real.
We love fairy tales, but we are afraid of them.
Same like the lady from the story, we prefer what was defined to us by the dogmatic thinking of the society ... as reality, instead of change ... and the way to a dream life.
Between ugly and beautiful, we just choose what is looking ... real.
I think the lady did not hear of Paulo Coelho, that once said: “I prefer to remain crazy, to live my life as i dream and not as others tell me to do it.”
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
CHANGE THE WAY SEE THE STORY … AND THE STORY WILL CHANGE
So many, many unhappy married people ... all around the world.
Ask someone who just married, how is marriage and will say ... “we are so happy togheter!”.
Ask them after 2 years and the answear will be ... “it’s ok!”.
After 10 years, there is a huge probability as their answear to be ... “it just sucks!”.
At the end of the life, unfortunately the answear is ... “i really wanted to choose someone else, but it was too risky! ... and i failed anyway!”.
We think that we have all the time in the world and even if we are unhappy today, we believe that things will change in a better way ... but they never change, because we never do anything about that.
It’s not that we don’t believe in miracles, but we start to not care for what we have in our life.
And if you try to define how you succeded in 10 years to jump from “we are so happy togheter!” to “it just sucks!” ... will be difficult to explain to other people what really happened.
But what if, even if it sucks, one day you just decide to redefine everything and start to be happy togheter one more time?
What if you change the way you see the story ... and maybe the story will change?
Did you ever thought of this?!
I mean what do you have to loose?!
You are unhappy and ... you could just continue to be unhappy.
A close friend of mine, was in prison for 1 year.
Everything happened in Paris, many years ago.
He told me the whole story ... how he went to prison, what happened in there ...
everything.
The first week was horible ... then he accepted that he is going to stay in there for at least one year and decided to change the way he saw the whole story. Before he was extremely busy and did not had time to enjoy life, but now he was going to stay in a vacation for one year.
Started to make sport, play cards, chat with people of many nationalities and just
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
enjoy everything happened in there.
So everything started as a nightmare and ended as a very long vacation ... which was not so bad.
If someone would have teached us ... just to enjoy the present moment ... in the way it is, most probably we could be happy in our relationships.
Defining the problems we have as a couple and then redefine everything is just a choice.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
COME TO ME TODAY … TO DESTROY
URSELVED EMOTIONALLY
A real love story will give you the whole spectrum of emotions.
You will feel infinite love, real happiness, but be sure that at the right moment you will be driven crazy also.
Most probably, all those emotions will be very intense and will be quite difficult to hide them.
