Listening means have an idea about what is happening into your soul ... yes ...
your own soul.
And you can follow your emotions and also ignore them.
Whatever you decide is your own choice.
Indeed following emotions is risky.
But hiding the emotions for years means just not listening to your soul.
When you understand that you can just look at your own emotions, analyze them, and see the message behind the emotion, you will start connecting to yourself. Emotions can be by many, many types.
Even the negative emotions have an important message behind.
For example the jealousy that a friend of yours just bought a car that you love ....
simple means you need to do something to have that car also, if you really love it.
People are not their cars ... but are defined by their cars.
Seeing 2 people in love on the street and somehow ... also be jealous that you are not involved into a love story ... tells a lot about the need of love from your soul.
Paying attention to any kind of emotion is extremely important ... it will tell you what you want in that point from your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
13
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
You will be one step closer from being happy.
Letting your brain control the life ... it will be boring.
You will just live a mathematical life, everything arranged in order, with an answear and a solution to almost everything ... except the important things from your soul.
Most probably, a beeing in love chapter from your life, will make you understand better what your soul really wants ... but for that you need to accept that you are a human being, you have feelings ... and strong emotions.
Adrian G Dumitru
14
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
WE FOUND OURSELVES WITHOUT SEARCHING … MAYBE WE SHOULD NOT GIVE UP
We have dreams.
... and goals.
... and lots of purposes.
But what is the biggest desire we really have into that empty soul?!
We always look at the infinite list of desires ... but we just forget to look at the first position, which is actually the only one important.
The human soul needs love, 24 hour a day ... for the rest of life.
Love is like air ... you cannot touch it ... but you still can feel it when it comes inside you.
You can’t see it ... but can’t live without it.
Finding the love .... and realising it’s the story of your life is amazing.
You dream for that love story, but did not search for it.
And now you think you should give up?!
So ... you had a dream ... the Universe transformed the dream into a real chapter from your life and now you just want as everything to end. And we don’t even know if it is a happy or an unhappy end.
Yes ... nobody really knows that.
But deep inside ... you still dare to care about the story you have togheter.
Everything in life is just a result of our choices.
Dream, receive and then act like you really care.
Just dreaming is not enough.
If the courage is missing ... you don’t really care enough.
And if you care enough ... you just don’t give up.
Quite simple!
Adrian G Dumitru
15
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LOST AND DETERMINED
He was lost.
She was determined.
But togheter they were a beautiful couple.
Even if he was lost and she was determined.
She gave him time for months, but it was useless.
The guy was really lost in time and space.
He was like a person that came from the war ... let’s say ... a little bit destroyed.
His soul was empty.
But he was enjoying the love story.
It was the only way in how he was feeling healed.
Determined ... and lost ... 2 opposite words when it comes to a love story. So ... the question is: what you do when you fall in love with a person, that somehow goes in another direction than you do? You give him time?
You try to change him?
You just realise is useless and you leave him?
Maybe the most important thing to do in life is to follow our intuition.
There is no specific pattern you need to apply to your story ... but only what your soul tells you to do.
Trying to change someone should be a real mistake.
Trying to influence into a new direction ... maybe ... sometimes it works.
Having the opposite attitude will ruin the real path you need to follow as a couple, but maybe there are situations in life when we don’t need to follow a certain path, but just explore our souls and enjoy those moments spent togheter.
Understanding the absence of a purpose, at least not in a way we see the regular definition of a purpose ... is the first step to see where you are as a couple.
If the Universe wanted as the 2 of you to have a regular relationship with everything that means ... he would have been created all the conditions for that. All the circumstances ... and the necessary events. But maybe is just not the right time.
Maybe is a story about a pathless path ... which looks like an imposible love story, but is actually a great story ... about 2 souls that are meant to live togheter infinite love ... into a parallel universe ... their own.
Adrian G Dumitru
16
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
MUSIC CONNECTS PEOPLE
There are people that love music, communicate through music ... and understand life when listening the words from the songs.
A beautiful song, can define a love story between a man and a woman.
Music connects people, but only few know that.
I know a couple, a beautiful lady and a strange guy ... that really had togheter what is called an imposible love story.
They broke up 100 times, with no success ... cause they actually were real in love one of another.
It was real, real ... pure love between their souls.
They talked all the time for hours and she always told him what music she loved. He was listening music too and every time after they tryed again and again to brake up ... he was listening for hours at the songs she loved.
She was doing the same thing ... cause those songs remembered her of him. She knew that she was in love with a strange guy, but she loved him a lot. Yes ... music connects people, especially the ones in love, cause they are more sensitive emotionally as others.
Just try the trick next time when this situation can appear in your life, and even if all the doors will be closed ... magic will happen and everything will restart again. Love stories are not easy to be managed.
Strong emotions are involved ... but that also mean ... strong connections.
Adrian G Dumitru
17
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
BE A BETTER VERSION
OF YOUR DESIRES
Very determined she tells him:
“Please disapear!
If you ever get back, be a better version of your desires!
Dare to enjoy our story next time!”
... and she closed the conversation, but also blocked him after.
She did this many times into the past, but she was very, very determined now. A real love story ... needs to be a great story, first of all!
When the things goes into the direction when everything is just bla, bla, bla ... and you see both of them unhappy, for a long, long time, you actually understand that the whole management of the story was wrong.
Life is like a scene, we are the actors, but somehow we do not know to play the
role, as we should play it.
But why?!
My believe is that in one point, we just lost the confidence that the love story, which for many times, looked like a fairy tale ... is real.
We disconnect from everything that happens and even from the person that we said so, so many times that we love a lot.
And that is the moment when our intuition stops telling us what to do, what to say and how to act.
The art of living in the present moment, without any fear inside the soul, is the one that can really save you.
The partner, from the love story, will like to see again that person ... that made her fall crazy in love.
Remember ... a real love story can be also named a great story ... otherwise we just speak about regular episodes from the boring daily life.
Adrian G Dumitru
18
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
WHAT IS LOVE ABOUT?!
There was a time, not so long ago, when i asked many people what is love about. I do not believe in cliches, but as a reply i was thinking at all the answers i’ve got. I’ve been told that love is respect, forgiveness, joy, happiness ... and someone even told me that love is a teacher.
The last one was tough and i was really wondering for a while how can love be a teacher.
Well ... when you feel beloved, you see the whole life in a totally different way.
If everything was just black and white, now it has colors ... beautiful colors.
You will see situations differently.
Things difficult to accept ... that are happening ... you will find as opportunities. People you disliked before, you will see as persons that needs to teach you a lesson.
Everything will look like a beautiful universe.
And everything will happen ... will happen for a specific reason, but only to help you with something.
Seeing love in a large spectrum of beautiful words, will help you define why love appeared in your life.
It says that a human being to survive needs air, water, food and a home to stay in.
They forget to mention that love is actually everything.
Take the love away from a beautiful spirit and you will destroy that soul.
Cause love, indeed, is air for the soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
19
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
REAL LOVE MEANS … THE PLEASURE
OF SPENDING TIME TOGHETER
There are 1 millions ways of defining love ... and especially love stories.
I am sorry to tell you, but there is a huge difference between a love story and a regular relationship.
Over the years, i met married people that are loving their marriages ... but only few.
And i also met, lot of unhappy couples.
They look as lost on the road of love.
So ... what is the secret formula for living a love story inside the marriage?! Well ... first of all chemistry is extremely important.
If you have this ... you already completed half of the process, without doing almost anything.
Will she drive you crazy?!
Yesss
Will he drive you crazy?!
Hell ... yes ... 1 million times ... but loving him, you will just forgive him every time.
Into a real love story is very important to see the pleasure of being togheter. When you see this ... and it can be while drinking a coffee in a Monte Carlo coffee shop or on the corner of the street, in a place from the country side ... the same pleasure anywhere you should be ... that is chemistry. Being togheter, means enjoying being togheter.
Is quite simple to present the concept, but too complicated to live as this into the real world.
Yes ... you can’t build chemistry between 2 people ... and artificially create the pleasure of staying togheter.
Pay attention while you are togheter with your love partener ... while driving togheter, shopping togheter, swimming togheter ... or whatever you do togheter. If you feel joy in those moments, that is the magic of a love story.
If today is ok, tomorrow is boring ... and the day after tomorrow is just a regular day ... think about what chemistry means.
If you don’t see it ... just look for another story.
Adrian G Dumitru
20
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
DON'T PLAY AROUND WITH
A DETERMINED WOMAN
Being in love with a determined woman ... you are the luckiest ... or maybe the unluckiest men from the planet.
She will make you the most happiest man on earth, but she will kill you if you drive her crazy.
You need to know what you really want ... so that you can stay in the story with her.
A determined woman knows what she wants, has always a plan, plays all in and doesn’t like to deal with men that are ... her opposites.
But the Universe is always laughing of us ... and also by the determined women. Send them exactly what they asked ... cause determined women know to define very clear what they want .... but just a small detail is missing from the script.
The man from the story, even if made her happy .... even if looks like the love of
her life ... is just a lost guy ... a traveller on the way to ... nowhere.
She is patience, hoping she will change him in time.
But he is determined also.
He loves being a traveller on the pathless path.
He is exploring the world and life itself.
Is not looking for a reason ... just loves being in the love story.
So ... which one is the negative character?!
The lost guy or the lovely determined woman?!
If you think that love has a purpose, that we need to follow the dogmatic way of living life, the lady is the positive character.
But when you understand that life itself is an experience ... not a collection of purposes ... you might find an explanation for the lost guy also.
No matter how we see life, in one point we need to forget about the regular way of living and just enjoy life, especially when it comes about love.
The lost guy is a life lesson for the determined lady, but also she is going to be a life lesson for him.
Maybe the lesson is ... complementarity ... but who knows?!
Anyway, don’t play around with a determined woman.
It’s dangerous!
Adrian G Dumitru
21
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LET'S DO IT ONE MORE TIME!
You thought is a toxic relationship.
You thought that everything was a path to nowhere, and you decided to stop. You also decided to delete all the lovely memories from your heart ... and forget about the whole story.
If was the love story of your life ... and as 2 idiots you made a plan to finish the story and not to enjoy it forever.
You were scared to death, cause deep inside you felt the infinite love ... on both sides.
And you came back to the real life ... forgot about fairy tales, love stories and others bla, bla, bla.
Became a zombie again ... a person that was not feeling alive.
After you lost the only chance of becoming alive ... you realise that you got back to the usual boring life.
Dogmatic ... normal ... yes ... means boring.
You was hurt, but you also had ben happy.
You had the infinite ... and you throw everything away, with no regret.
And for a moment you see that it was not toxic ... it was something different, that you could not understand.
your own soul.
And you can follow your emotions and also ignore them.
Whatever you decide is your own choice.
Indeed following emotions is risky.
But hiding the emotions for years means just not listening to your soul.
When you understand that you can just look at your own emotions, analyze them, and see the message behind the emotion, you will start connecting to yourself. Emotions can be by many, many types.
Even the negative emotions have an important message behind.
For example the jealousy that a friend of yours just bought a car that you love ....
simple means you need to do something to have that car also, if you really love it.
People are not their cars ... but are defined by their cars.
Seeing 2 people in love on the street and somehow ... also be jealous that you are not involved into a love story ... tells a lot about the need of love from your soul.
Paying attention to any kind of emotion is extremely important ... it will tell you what you want in that point from your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
13
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
You will be one step closer from being happy.
Letting your brain control the life ... it will be boring.
You will just live a mathematical life, everything arranged in order, with an answear and a solution to almost everything ... except the important things from your soul.
Most probably, a beeing in love chapter from your life, will make you understand better what your soul really wants ... but for that you need to accept that you are a human being, you have feelings ... and strong emotions.
Adrian G Dumitru
14
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
WE FOUND OURSELVES WITHOUT SEARCHING … MAYBE WE SHOULD NOT GIVE UP
We have dreams.
... and goals.
... and lots of purposes.
But what is the biggest desire we really have into that empty soul?!
We always look at the infinite list of desires ... but we just forget to look at the first position, which is actually the only one important.
The human soul needs love, 24 hour a day ... for the rest of life.
Love is like air ... you cannot touch it ... but you still can feel it when it comes inside you.
You can’t see it ... but can’t live without it.
Finding the love .... and realising it’s the story of your life is amazing.
You dream for that love story, but did not search for it.
And now you think you should give up?!
So ... you had a dream ... the Universe transformed the dream into a real chapter from your life and now you just want as everything to end. And we don’t even know if it is a happy or an unhappy end.
Yes ... nobody really knows that.
But deep inside ... you still dare to care about the story you have togheter.
Everything in life is just a result of our choices.
Dream, receive and then act like you really care.
Just dreaming is not enough.
If the courage is missing ... you don’t really care enough.
And if you care enough ... you just don’t give up.
Quite simple!
Adrian G Dumitru
15
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LOST AND DETERMINED
He was lost.
She was determined.
But togheter they were a beautiful couple.
Even if he was lost and she was determined.
She gave him time for months, but it was useless.
The guy was really lost in time and space.
He was like a person that came from the war ... let’s say ... a little bit destroyed.
His soul was empty.
But he was enjoying the love story.
It was the only way in how he was feeling healed.
Determined ... and lost ... 2 opposite words when it comes to a love story. So ... the question is: what you do when you fall in love with a person, that somehow goes in another direction than you do? You give him time?
You try to change him?
You just realise is useless and you leave him?
Maybe the most important thing to do in life is to follow our intuition.
There is no specific pattern you need to apply to your story ... but only what your soul tells you to do.
Trying to change someone should be a real mistake.
Trying to influence into a new direction ... maybe ... sometimes it works.
Having the opposite attitude will ruin the real path you need to follow as a couple, but maybe there are situations in life when we don’t need to follow a certain path, but just explore our souls and enjoy those moments spent togheter.
Understanding the absence of a purpose, at least not in a way we see the regular definition of a purpose ... is the first step to see where you are as a couple.
If the Universe wanted as the 2 of you to have a regular relationship with everything that means ... he would have been created all the conditions for that. All the circumstances ... and the necessary events. But maybe is just not the right time.
Maybe is a story about a pathless path ... which looks like an imposible love story, but is actually a great story ... about 2 souls that are meant to live togheter infinite love ... into a parallel universe ... their own.
Adrian G Dumitru
16
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
MUSIC CONNECTS PEOPLE
There are people that love music, communicate through music ... and understand life when listening the words from the songs.
A beautiful song, can define a love story between a man and a woman.
Music connects people, but only few know that.
I know a couple, a beautiful lady and a strange guy ... that really had togheter what is called an imposible love story.
They broke up 100 times, with no success ... cause they actually were real in love one of another.
It was real, real ... pure love between their souls.
They talked all the time for hours and she always told him what music she loved. He was listening music too and every time after they tryed again and again to brake up ... he was listening for hours at the songs she loved.
She was doing the same thing ... cause those songs remembered her of him. She knew that she was in love with a strange guy, but she loved him a lot. Yes ... music connects people, especially the ones in love, cause they are more sensitive emotionally as others.
Just try the trick next time when this situation can appear in your life, and even if all the doors will be closed ... magic will happen and everything will restart again. Love stories are not easy to be managed.
Strong emotions are involved ... but that also mean ... strong connections.
Adrian G Dumitru
17
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
BE A BETTER VERSION
OF YOUR DESIRES
Very determined she tells him:
“Please disapear!
If you ever get back, be a better version of your desires!
Dare to enjoy our story next time!”
... and she closed the conversation, but also blocked him after.
She did this many times into the past, but she was very, very determined now. A real love story ... needs to be a great story, first of all!
When the things goes into the direction when everything is just bla, bla, bla ... and you see both of them unhappy, for a long, long time, you actually understand that the whole management of the story was wrong.
Life is like a scene, we are the actors, but somehow we do not know to play the
role, as we should play it.
But why?!
My believe is that in one point, we just lost the confidence that the love story, which for many times, looked like a fairy tale ... is real.
We disconnect from everything that happens and even from the person that we said so, so many times that we love a lot.
And that is the moment when our intuition stops telling us what to do, what to say and how to act.
The art of living in the present moment, without any fear inside the soul, is the one that can really save you.
The partner, from the love story, will like to see again that person ... that made her fall crazy in love.
Remember ... a real love story can be also named a great story ... otherwise we just speak about regular episodes from the boring daily life.
Adrian G Dumitru
18
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
WHAT IS LOVE ABOUT?!
There was a time, not so long ago, when i asked many people what is love about. I do not believe in cliches, but as a reply i was thinking at all the answers i’ve got. I’ve been told that love is respect, forgiveness, joy, happiness ... and someone even told me that love is a teacher.
The last one was tough and i was really wondering for a while how can love be a teacher.
Well ... when you feel beloved, you see the whole life in a totally different way.
If everything was just black and white, now it has colors ... beautiful colors.
You will see situations differently.
Things difficult to accept ... that are happening ... you will find as opportunities. People you disliked before, you will see as persons that needs to teach you a lesson.
Everything will look like a beautiful universe.
And everything will happen ... will happen for a specific reason, but only to help you with something.
Seeing love in a large spectrum of beautiful words, will help you define why love appeared in your life.
It says that a human being to survive needs air, water, food and a home to stay in.
They forget to mention that love is actually everything.
Take the love away from a beautiful spirit and you will destroy that soul.
Cause love, indeed, is air for the soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
19
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
REAL LOVE MEANS … THE PLEASURE
OF SPENDING TIME TOGHETER
There are 1 millions ways of defining love ... and especially love stories.
I am sorry to tell you, but there is a huge difference between a love story and a regular relationship.
Over the years, i met married people that are loving their marriages ... but only few.
And i also met, lot of unhappy couples.
They look as lost on the road of love.
So ... what is the secret formula for living a love story inside the marriage?! Well ... first of all chemistry is extremely important.
If you have this ... you already completed half of the process, without doing almost anything.
Will she drive you crazy?!
Yesss
Will he drive you crazy?!
Hell ... yes ... 1 million times ... but loving him, you will just forgive him every time.
Into a real love story is very important to see the pleasure of being togheter. When you see this ... and it can be while drinking a coffee in a Monte Carlo coffee shop or on the corner of the street, in a place from the country side ... the same pleasure anywhere you should be ... that is chemistry. Being togheter, means enjoying being togheter.
Is quite simple to present the concept, but too complicated to live as this into the real world.
Yes ... you can’t build chemistry between 2 people ... and artificially create the pleasure of staying togheter.
Pay attention while you are togheter with your love partener ... while driving togheter, shopping togheter, swimming togheter ... or whatever you do togheter. If you feel joy in those moments, that is the magic of a love story.
If today is ok, tomorrow is boring ... and the day after tomorrow is just a regular day ... think about what chemistry means.
If you don’t see it ... just look for another story.
Adrian G Dumitru
20
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
DON'T PLAY AROUND WITH
A DETERMINED WOMAN
Being in love with a determined woman ... you are the luckiest ... or maybe the unluckiest men from the planet.
She will make you the most happiest man on earth, but she will kill you if you drive her crazy.
You need to know what you really want ... so that you can stay in the story with her.
A determined woman knows what she wants, has always a plan, plays all in and doesn’t like to deal with men that are ... her opposites.
But the Universe is always laughing of us ... and also by the determined women. Send them exactly what they asked ... cause determined women know to define very clear what they want .... but just a small detail is missing from the script.
The man from the story, even if made her happy .... even if looks like the love of
her life ... is just a lost guy ... a traveller on the way to ... nowhere.
She is patience, hoping she will change him in time.
But he is determined also.
He loves being a traveller on the pathless path.
He is exploring the world and life itself.
Is not looking for a reason ... just loves being in the love story.
So ... which one is the negative character?!
The lost guy or the lovely determined woman?!
If you think that love has a purpose, that we need to follow the dogmatic way of living life, the lady is the positive character.
But when you understand that life itself is an experience ... not a collection of purposes ... you might find an explanation for the lost guy also.
No matter how we see life, in one point we need to forget about the regular way of living and just enjoy life, especially when it comes about love.
The lost guy is a life lesson for the determined lady, but also she is going to be a life lesson for him.
Maybe the lesson is ... complementarity ... but who knows?!
Anyway, don’t play around with a determined woman.
It’s dangerous!
Adrian G Dumitru
21
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LET'S DO IT ONE MORE TIME!
You thought is a toxic relationship.
You thought that everything was a path to nowhere, and you decided to stop. You also decided to delete all the lovely memories from your heart ... and forget about the whole story.
If was the love story of your life ... and as 2 idiots you made a plan to finish the story and not to enjoy it forever.
You were scared to death, cause deep inside you felt the infinite love ... on both sides.
And you came back to the real life ... forgot about fairy tales, love stories and others bla, bla, bla.
Became a zombie again ... a person that was not feeling alive.
After you lost the only chance of becoming alive ... you realise that you got back to the usual boring life.
Dogmatic ... normal ... yes ... means boring.
You was hurt, but you also had ben happy.
You had the infinite ... and you throw everything away, with no regret.
And for a moment you see that it was not toxic ... it was something different, that you could not understand.
