But everything is just part of the story ... and if you really love that person you will take everything just as it happens.
Happy, mad, joyful, crazy ... you will be defined in all those ways, but in the same time you will be in the story.
So ... dears actors from your own love story ... what if you just admit everything, just as it is and ask your partner “Come to me today to destroy ourselves emotionally?!”.
Yeeesss ... cause the infinite can destroy you.
Everything is yin and yang in this life.
You cannot be happy, without tasting unhappiness.
The same, in a real love story, you will be happy and unhappy also, but the main idea is that everything goes to the infinite level.
You want infinite love, infinite attraction?! ... just prepare yourself to receive at
least a little bit ... the opposite also.
Does it worth it?!
When you are into a real story, you should dare to enjoy everything, play all in ...
and expect the infinite... so just dare to play the game of “destroying” yourself emotionally.
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A philosophical view over love stories
MAYBE IT WAS NOT A GAME
… MAYBE IT WAS A MIRROR
It says that life itself is a mirror of your soul.
You can find this theory in all the religions.
I spoke once with a young priest and asked him what can he tell me about his religion.
He quickly replyed that is too young to convince me about the philosophy behind his religion, cause he just finished school, but the main idea in how he could define everything we see around us ... was just as a reflection of our soul.
And this is happening in your daily life also, in your business plans and actions, in your relationship with all the people from your life and also in your love story ... if you are involved in one.
Sometime we are in love and we dont see all the sides of the other person, but time is passing and we start seeing things ... that we can call “games” ... or “dirty games”.
We totally dislike that this is something is happening in our life ... and we keep wondering why?!
We never think at the theory of the mirror.
Is the partner cheating?!
Did you cheated before?! If not in this relationship, what about last ones?! Did you lied before?
Was you a nice person with the person you love?!
We expect as everything to be perfect, especially into a love story and even if
that magic person really loves us ... still silly dirty games can be part of the story.
Don’t wonder why is happening ... just look into the past ... and see how you can
become today a beautiful soul.
And then ... things will change.
Yeess ... it’s not a game ... it just the mirror.
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A philosophical view over love stories
THE MOMENT WHEN YOU
REALISE YOU GOING TO LOOSE
How you act in the moment when you feel you just lost everything ... just defines you as a person.
In any of the circumstances, being about business, love ... or just life ... is very important to know how to accept you lost and to continue the life after that. Loosing the game is nothing so important as it looks like.
If you look behind ... into the past, you will see how many other battles you had lost.
But yes ... today you just lost the war.
I mean ... it s not you lost the game ... but the game is over.
Can you accept that?!
Can you see that this is the end of the script?!
It was a fabulous script about a love story, but nobody ever asked you how the story is going to end .... and you are angry ... very, very angry ... cause you haven’t been asked either about the time when the story is going to end.
You call her ... and she calls you down.
She refures to say back to you that she also loves you ... but you know the real truth ... and just don’t want to accept the things ... just as they are.
Yes is difficult to accept when we loose someone we loved a lot ... is just like loosing part of our soul.
Pretending is easy ... is just lying yourself.
Accepting that everything came to an end ... is just part of the life itself, cause everything has a beginning, but also an end. You cannot fight with the power of the Universe.
Is difficult to understand what and why is happening ... the way is happening. Is also difficult to accept you lost the game ... but maybe ... just maybe ... you lost this time cause something better is expecting you.
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A philosophical view over love stories
READ MY LIPS … “I LOVE YOU!”
We love ... love stories, but somehow today we are into the story and the next day suddenly we jump into the ... hate story.
That makes me ask myself if it s all about a love story or just a story.
You cannot be in love of someone today and the next day ... you could just forget about that fact.
Well ... probably this is how it works and i cannot see that for clear.
But let me tell you a story with a beautiful lady and gentleman that loved her a lot.
They were both ... deep in love.
She was crazy about him.
He was crazy, but also crazy in love with her.
Somehow, they all the time just had different fights, then they blocked each other and just did not spoke for days or even for weeks.
The funny thing was that they lived closed to each other and the Universe was laughing of them ... and they met everyday.
The guy being crazy ... he was actually acting crazy.
He was in love with her and admitted that.
Everytime he met her ... he was whispering ... “Read my lips ...I LOVE YOU!”. She could not believe it ... “the guy blocked me ... and now is whispering that he loves me?! ... hmmm ... what should i think of all these?! Is he crazy?! .. or just crazy about me?!”
Dear friends ... when you really, really love someone ... no matter what happened between the 2 of you ... you must be brave enough to admit that you love that person.
Is nothing to be ashamed of.
Love is the most beautiful feeling you can see in your soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
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A philosophical view over love stories
AFRAID OF LIVING IN THE REAL WORLD?!
Afraid of living in the real world?!
So many people from all around the world ... just live their lives being afraid of living into the real world.
I heard a story from the real estate industry, that just before the crisis of 2008, ordinary people from UK, sold their houses, which were just old and ugly but very expensives ... with about one million pounds ... then they bought a beautiful new house at the sea in Cyprus with about 100 thousand pounds. They used the rest of the money ... just to retire and enjoy life.
They live a simple life in UK, working from monday to friday, just living for
expecting the weekend, and then suddenly they could just retire ... and realise
that life if beautiful.
What did they had to do?!
Just take the decision to change their life ... from an ordinary life ... to a dreaming life.
Same people, same planet ... just a decision.
Do you have any idea that with the price of a penthouse, you actually can buy a small island with a house on it.
Technology developed so much, that you could have in there all the conditions
you actually have in the big city.
Then i wonder myself ... 2 questions.
Why ... if i am actually afraid of living in the real world ... why i am not selling everything and buy an island ... and probably just enjoy life in there?
And the second question ... if i would do this, i would also change my life partner ... and be with that person from my dreams ... or just go alone in there?! Redefining life is just a decision.
With simple math formulas you will define very well the equation of your own life. The secret of a beautiful life is just about daring to live in the world you want to live in.
Even if you are afraid of staying in what you should call real life ... in any second from your timeline, you can redefine the whole script. The continent, the house, the spouse ... everything.
Just do what you love to do ... with the person you want to spend your life with!
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A philosophical view over love stories
THE SOUL THAT
…. MAKES YOU FEEL ALIVE
A guy had everything he even wanted, but at the end of this road, after working so hard for years, he thought he will be a happy person, but he was not. He was feeling empty inside of his soul.
He realised that somehow he was not enjoying life and did not took advantage of
all the money he had in the banks.
So, he decided to make a change.
Next move was to buy the most expensive cars in the world.
But this mirage ends quite soon and he starts again feeling empty inside. He had this desire since he was a kid and after years of hard work ... he was feeling that all this time spent to accomplish this dream was useless. He thinks again and redefines everything one more time.
He is buying a helicopter to use it daily going to work and a private jet to travel on long distance business trips.
Again everything was fine for a short time, but the emptiness appeared again.
Now it was even more prominent.
What else he could do?!
Maybe a last thing to do was to work even harder as he worked till that moment, and at the right time go to NASA and buy a spaceship. He realised he was living his life running after a mirage.
Everything was just an illusion ... the money, the properties he owned, the expensive cars and even the private jet.
He decided to go to a great life coach, tells him the story and the guy said: “You know ... let me think about what you told me for a short time, but meanwhile i want you to come with me tomorrow in a trip to Sarajevo. I am going there to help the kids that lost their parents into the war”. He did not thought too much and said yes.
They were giving food and presents to different kids ... and suddenly a small little boy, came on him, crying ... and was embracing him.
The impact on him was huge. The emptiness inside just disappeared ... and he could not believe that.
The worst disease he was forced to live with for years ... was healed in a second by a little boy that was just embracing him.
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You see, this is the reason why after years of hard work, after chasing the illusion of success ... you see that you spent your whole life driving on the highway to ... nowhere.
A simple smile, of a beautiful soul can bring you all the joy from the world.
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A philosophical view over love stories
PAST, PRESENT AND
FUTURE … OR TIMELESS
A relationship is defined by past .... by everything happened till now.
Should be silly to ignore all the past events, cause all those moments, are first of all memories, but also the description of everything those 2 persons lived togheter.
It s the definition of who you were togheter and cant change this, only if you are very determined into the present moment.
The present is the actual vibe of the relationship.
It defines exactly where took you all the actions from the past.
The present can be bad, ok, good or excellent.
If it’s just ok, you are in a bad position, cause jumping from ok to bad is quite easy.
In the present moment, we start to define the future also ... and we see togheter and if don’t see that most of the time .... we will hide it from all the discutions we have with the partner.
Usually a relationship between a man and a woman is complex.
The past, present and the future define that relationship. We never realise that sometimes very small details can ruin the whole story we have togheter.
We usually don’t define where we are, but that doesn’t mean we are not defined by circumstances and by our actions.
But you know, this is only the dogmatic path of a regular relationship, the way we had been teached to see the story between a man and a woman ... 2 people have feelings for each other.
The funny thing is that there is another path.
It says that everything in life is love .... and the love is immortal, so love itself is
timeless.
There are people that they love so much each other and have such a great connection ... and live what is called a love story, or a fairy tale. Their relationship is not connected to the past, present or future.
In the world of a fairy tale there is no time.
In a real love story, you are not defined by the actions and circumstances and no matter what happens the love remains on the scene of the story.
The people from the love stories are not focusing on anything except love.
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They just enjoy it and don’t care of anything else!
In the end i should say that in one point you just need to decide togheter if you
want a relationship or a love story.
Want to enjoy love forever?!
Just think only at love ...
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A philosophical view over love stories
SHE DRIVES YOU CRAZY,
BUT YOU FORGIVE HER ALL THE TIME
How do you know it s a real love story and you really love her?!
Are there different steps to follow so that you understand what is really going on?!
Well ... i can tell you about a simple and silly way of seeing that.
I am sure that from time to time she drives you crazy ... you see this and even think that this is the end ifself.
And you stay angry ... but not for a long time ... and understand that you miss her a lot.
But i am sure you drive her crazy also and if she really loves you ... forgives you all the time.
When you love a lot someone, you actually cannot live so much time without that person.
No matter how strong you are, how much you consider that the relationship can even be toxic for you ... you feel that you cant survive without the soulmate. And you just want to come back in her arms, kiss her again, love her again and enjoy the love story.
If you have those feelings, even when the story looks closed, it means is real love between the 2 of you.
The only thing you should focus on is just enjoy the life togheter ... and forget about driving crazy each other all the time.
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