You could almost believe not only that she has the perfect life, but she is also the
only happy person you ever met.
But that’s only illusory.
In life we can have everything we want ... everything we dreamed since we were little children, but for completing the puzzle of a real happy life .... the soul must feel joy inside.
In time i had met lots of ladies ... real ones, but all of them had something in common ... they were caring an unhappy soul behind the mask of the perfect woman.
Years ago, a close friend of mine, was living the illusion of the perfect life, in Norway.
She was married with a very wealthy guy, having eveything a princess or maybe even a queen could have.
She was asking for something ...and her wish wad a command.
They were traveling all around the world and she even thought she lives her life into a fairy tale.
Before marriage, she came from a poor country and knew very well what was looking like a simple life ... and always compared her actual life with the life she had when was young.
But one day .. suddenly she realised than even if she have this wealthy life ... her soul is empty.
She remembered that years ago, she had nothing, but in high school ... being in love with a classmate, she was always feeling joy into her beautiful soul. Unfortunately that feeling inside her was present only till the moment she decided to left her country and go looking for a wealthy life.
Realising this, with a huge determination, she left eveything she had in Norway, only with few clothes in a bag, looking for a new and happy life. Now she is married in Paris and have a beautiful life in there.
She is not so rich as she was in Norway, but since she left that perfect life of a princess she started to feel her soul again ... and a little bit of happiness in there. So the question is what is looking like a life from the fairy tale?!
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A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
The magic last only 3 days
A beautiful girl atacked me few days ago, complaining that i am the kind of person that believes in fairy tales.
She not even knew very well who i am, but defined me as a strange person.
I was smiling and asked her why she defines me if she never met me in person, but she could not have a good answear.
We are all the time defined by people, that never had anything to do with us. Truth be told ... i do believe in fairy tales, but i also believe that it last about 3 days to recognize an illusion.
We all need beatiful moments into our lifes and some of them can easilly be defined as magic.
But what if everything is just illusory?!
When you will understand that the border between a fairy tale and an illusion can be detected very hard, you will pay more attentions to details.
There is an amazing book called “Man’s search for meaning” by Victor Frankl, telling his story from a nazi concentration camp, about how people acted into those moments in the worst scenario a human being can live and explains to us the importance of having a meaning in life ... which most of the time is usually a dream.
He came up with the logotherapy theory.
That is founded upon the belief that striving to find meaning in life is the primary, most powerful motivating and driving force in humans.
He personally survived the holocaust cause he wanted to publish his work, other people wanted to meet again with the loved ones ... so statisticlly people that survived were not powerful individuals, but people that had the believe their life is not going to end in there.
Believing that someone could escape from the Auschwitz concentration camp looked at the time as an illusory fairy tale.
Coming back to our lifes ... we have many reason to believe that ... a difficult marriage can be treated with the illusory effect of a love affair ... dreaming to be rich by acting you are a rich person, going out to places and vacations you cannot afford or buying clothes and cars that will ruin you.
Anchored into reality again ... jumping from the fancy fairy tale to the real life ... back and forth ...will make you understand the difference between an illusion and a fairy tale.
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A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Chatting
We certainlly have a phone addiction ... most of us.
We wake up in the morning, looking for our phones, checking email, whatsapp, instagram, facebook ... and all the other apps, paying a huge attention to any kind of interaction we had into the virtual world.
Instead of going out at a coffee shop we prefer to stay for hours on chat with so, so many people, speaking and analyzing unimportant things.
Why did we lost the pleasure of socializing face to face like in the old times?! Because we have empty souls ... and we cant show up like this into a meeting. On chat is very easy to hide behind the screen of the phone, but also much easier to tell things that in real life ... seeing the eyes of the other person ... we cant have the courage to say those things.
Spending your life on chat is an addiction and as in any other addictions it will make you pay a huge price.
Real life is beautiful, as long as we know and have the courage to enjoy it.
Live your life ... means to feel and experience the emotion that the joy of being alive can bring you.
Living your life behind the mask offered by your phone is illogical and makes no real sense if you are brave enough to define this addiction.
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A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
The art of loving
In life we need to learn the art of loving, to understand how to love others and how we can let others love us.
Paradoxically is much easier to love than let others send their love to us.
The art of loving is an art that should be teached even from the kindergarten till we complete the university.
We sometime love, but dont show properlly this love to the others ... and we could define lots of abstract ways as that.
You love your child, but you dont care about the things the child does. You love your spouse, but you show very clearlly that you care about that relashionshop only when everything ended.
And tell me ... is it difficult to receive compliments?!
What if one day, the cashier at the bank that you had a small conflict with, just because of a small missunderstanding ... tells you: “its ok ... i love you”.
I had accidentlly met persons at that, men and women, that told me “i love you”.
In Hawaii, there is a practice called Ho?oponopono.
Ho?oponopono is a method used for reconciliation and forgiveness.
Is like a mantra and the words are:
“I love you
I am sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you”
This practice is for everybody and for any kind of relationship you have ... even the ones that are your enemies.
Saying “I love you” ... especially into the difficult relashionships ...but believing it with all your heart, makes the whole scene very special.
Loving is an art that you can learn, as long as your soul is opened to give and receive.
Define the magic of love and let it be everywhere into your life.
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A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Can't sleep in the night
Legend says, when you cant sleep in the night is because you re awake in someone else’s dream.
We wake up ... look at the walls of the room, then pick up the phone, read a book and again look at the walls.
You slept ok for years, but now you wake up with 3-4 hours before you should start your day.
Your mind or your soul has a huge problem inside ... and cant find an sollution.
Everything you should try, you cannot close your eyes and sleep.
So what do you think about the legend that is saying you are present in someone else’s dream ... or i should add ... someone else’s soul?! Some people have money problems.
Some they had fights with different people they know.
Others have very deep love connections with a partner that they cant meet so often into the real life. They think too much and dream too much one for another. Sometimes love is so, so powerful that you cant even understand what is happening.
But what should we do, if this persists for days, then weeks and months?! Define that reason why you think you cannot sleep .... connect with this idea and ask the Universe to find a sollution for you.
There are lots of things that happens and you cannot understand, but every happens for a certain reason.
Maybe the Universe wants us to stay awake and let us meditate till the mind connects with the soul and then everything goes in the best direction.
But till you find that direction ...dont spend those morning moments defining the walls from your room ... but look deep inside your soul. The answear will come!
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A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Rodeo or philosophy?
How should we define the perfect partner?!
The one that takes care of us, of the house, of shoppings, the one we can chat for hours, the one with that we have splendid sex ... or who?!
Most probably the perfect one is someone who has a little bit of everything we mentioned bellow.
Speaking of absolute values is illusory.
Also be aware if you are in love ... cause you will see things throw the lens of love
... which can trend to define everything as ... absolute.
Absolute beauty ... absolute sex ... absolute relationshiops.
The illusory truth effect (also known as the illusion of truth effect, validity effect,
truth effect, or the reiteration effect) is the tendency to believe false information
to be correct after repeated exposure.
The same might happen into your life.
So dont speak about absolute values in real life.
We are human beings ... not gods.
Just be an open mind ... see everyday as it is.
If one relationship goes more into the philosophy trend ... go and discuss evething you want... if in another relationships you can have lovelly sex ... just focus more on rodeo.
Whatever it is ... rodeo or philosophy ... you must enjoy it.
The Universe knows better what you need.
So one day you can enjoy something and one day something else.
But learn to enjoy every moment at all ... just as it is.
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A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
When God wants to save you
… he sends into a love story
We all feel lost ... into this undefined thing ... called life.
Some even feel depression ... and have no idea how to heal it.
They go to doctors that prescribe them different medication ... but is almost useless.
Dalai Lama had been asked ... do you believe in medicine and if yes ... can the medicine treat depression?!
Dalai Lama smiled ... and said ... he believes in emergency medicine, cause after a tragic accident the persons involved must be treated right away, but is not believing in treating depression with medication. We cannot heal our souls with drugs.
I think we can be healed only by love.
A young unhappy boy of 5 years old can heal his silly unhappiness with his mother ... that knows to infinitlly love him.
At 15 maybe from the group of his friends will help.
But what is happening at 37 or 56?!
Is there stil a chance for that?
We might live with the illusion of drugs or any other prescription the doctor gives us.
Apps as Tinder also create the impression that love is everywhere, but in the end if God wants to save us, then he will send us into a fairy tale.
We tend to define us as human beings ... but behind the mask of our bodies ...
there is the soul.
Let your soul be free ... let it fly away and be in love.
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A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Everything you love
About 100 years ago, Franz Kafka (one of the greatest novelist the world had), was walking throw a park in Berlin, and met a girl that was crying cause she lost her doll.
They went togheter trying to find it, but with no succes.
Later they decided to meet again in the next day to find the so loved doll. Knowing that there is a small chance to find it, Kafka came with a letter from the doll to the girl, saying “I went to travel the world. I will write you about my adventures.”
They keep meeting till Kafka died one year later.
He was reading letters to her all the time, and the girl just adored all those stories.
One day Kafka came with the doll (bought a new one) .. and the girl just loved it, but replyed that is not looking like the doll she had.
The next day, they meet again and Kafka reads a new letter saying: “I look different, cause the world had chanced me”.
After years, when the girl became an adult, she finds inside the doll a message signed by Kafka, saying “Everything you love probably will be lost, but in the end, love will return to you into a different way”.
But what if you just refuse to loose the magic love?!
You maybe know that everything goes to nowhere, but the love is so strong and you just dont want to let it fly away.
You try to forget, find a new “doll” ... but everything is useless.
You want your “doll” ... which is the pure love, the one that appears only once in a lifetime.
Do we have the right to do this?!
In the fairy tale, you are alllowed to do whatever you want to do, but only if inside your soul lives a heart that is defined by magic.
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ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
The perfect partner
Men live in the illusion that they live into a patriarchal society, but we are again, without yet realising, into a matriarchal society.
There are believes that thousands of years ago existed matriarchal societies. Stories about amazons women, very powerfull that where the ones that run the wars ... are not science fiction theories.
Today we live into a world dominated by the feminism movement.
Feminism is a range of social movements, political movements, and ideologies that aim to define and establish the political, economic, personal, and social equality of the sexes.
But what is really hapening?!
Men are actually dominated by the obsession of the perfect woman.
Does she exists?!
Is she real?!
In my opinion ... the perfect woman is the one that can bring joy inside your soul.
Beautiful, smiling, a good soul, shining eyes and... good vibe all the time.
That is she ... the perfect woman.
Dear men ... yes we will go to the age of matriarchal society ... cause we are obsessed with this concept of the perfect woman.
But if we become slaves ... at least we should enjoy the life with this lovely illusion.
