Ask from time to time as his wife to visit him.
He was playing poker, mini golf, football.
He was living one year of relaxation.
After a while he realized he is not stress anymore, as he used to be in the past because of his curent businesses.
His brother was taking care of everything and somehow he was having a forced vacation, but everything was great.
My friend ... had a very powerful ability to readapt in any condition. Of course, that he was lucky enough cause his family could arranged the things so that he can have the best treatment a prisoner could have.
But still ... he was in jail.
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Lots of people are living in a free world, they have all the possible conditions they could have ... but ... still they can’t adapt not even to those perfect conditions and ... just enjoy it.
If you ask them ... what is missing from their lives to be happy ...
they would not be able to give you a straight answer.
It’s silly ... cause we don’t even know why we are unhappy.
We can’t find any trick at all ... to influence life for a better reality ...
but many of us ... not even thought of the idea of tips and tricks.
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The looking of a powerful person
... but a mind of a scared to death person
Today i believe reality is just a perception.
I can see it as something beautiful ... and the same scene could be seen as something negative, by all the others.
It happens i met few weeks ago an interesting guy that i chat with from time to time.
First time when i saw him ... i got scared of him.
He looks so scary, that laughing a little bit with him ... i said ...
“Please don’t beat me”.
He smiled.
He was scary, but knew also to smile.
I am not scary ... but i don’t know to smile.
He used to be a bodyguard in London, for more than 10 years ... for very important persons ... politicians came from other countries, princes and princesses from rich families from Asia or Africa ... and lots of others important people that came with different reasons in UK.
He told me all kinds of strange stories from his professional life from there.
Every time, after he finished a job he was starting a process of erasing all the informations of what he saw.
He explained me that he always wanted to split the professional and the personal life.
But ... it was quite funny that every time we were discussing something ... he saw the worst case scenario in what we discussed about.
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As a bodyguard, he needed to be optimistic, but also keep in mind all the time ... worst case scenarios.
The problem today ... for my friend was that he was seeing the dark side in everything around us.
He was big as a mountain, but scared to death as a kid who watched a scary cartoon movie.
He was not a body guard anymore, but even if he tried so much, for so many years to erase the informations from his professional life ... the influence was huge.
The damage was done ... in his way of thinking, analyzing, defining ...
but also living the normal life.
I could not believe ... that a so powerful guy ... could get scare of any element from life ... and somehow create a script .. about how that element, even if is so unimportant, is being able to create a ...
catastrophe.
And so, so, so many others are doing the same.
Even if they look so strong ... their minds mix all the worst case scenarios .... with the real life ... believing and expecting bad things to happen.
We do not understand we need ... positive influence for us.
Negativity is everywhere ... anyway.
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The dogmatism ... is just not letting
us live the life we should live
I have a dear friend of 20, from the far away India, that is always remembering me by the religious and moral rules of life.
I actually hate the dogmatic thinking, but i believe that even refusing certain ideas, just because you simple don’t like them ... can be defined as dogmatic behavior.
The problem of being influenced by what society thinks about certain things is huge.
But how we learn what is this world about?!
Well ... first ... we get informations about what is going on in here ...
from the family, friends and all the people from our lives.
Later on ... instead of accumulating so, so many informations ... we should just experience life.
What i am saying is that we should make a switch and try to not see life throw the eyes of the world .... but just experience the world.
We are influenced a lot ... which if we are lucky enough and get positive influence from the others ... is good, but ... usually the influence is not all the time positive. So ... what we should do?!
Well ... i think for a while ... we should also experience life without dogmatism and even without morality, cause this last one is a chapter from the book of dogmatism.
Just experience ... everything you want ... even bad things. You should not let yourself be influenced by nothing ... and by nobody.
Let yourself ... be wild.
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In fact ... just be yourself, the one that the inner soul is telling you to be, not caring of what others might think of you and your behavior. Dare to experience that ... just for a while.
It will open new perspective for you.
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Applying morality ... the same ... but we need to see the beautiful and the dark side of life to understand what life is really about.
Enjoying experiences of any kind ... will help us evolve from the spiritual point of view ... even if it might look as a something strange. What else should i say ... except the fact that we should dare to be ...
wild ... even if this will take us out of the usual standards of the human being.
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The change should come
... from your attitude
I was in the oil station, waiting to pay.
The lady was so slow ... that i became annoyed of her.
I could not believe i had to wait so much.
My reptilian brain was almost activated and wanted to tell her: “Fuck you! Who the hell hired you in here?! I never met such a slow person as you!”
Just before opening my month ... something inside of me whispered ... “Please be calm and be nice to her!”
I was arguing during my lifetime with hundreds of people ... so one more person ... was nothing.
But ... i was thinking ... maybe we should never meet again ... so who cares?!
Something calmed me and instead of speaking in an ugly way to her, i’ve been just ironic ... saying ... “Have you ever thought of changing your job?! Maybe something related to arts?! Painting?! Sculpture?! ... something as that.
In art ... you never need to hurry.
You should be really good for that ... cause it looks you never hurry, even if so many clients are waiting in here.”
She became annoyed of me and could not believe i was talking like this to her.
I actually wanted to wake her up and i am totally convinced that there were lost of people into the past that spoke to her in a totally un respectful way .... if this was her real way of serving clients.
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But i was glad that instead of speaking ugly i was just ironic.
I was glad because it was a small prove that i am not so connected anymore with my silly reptilian brain.
I am not acting in a proper way ... but still ... i am on the good path. Then ... after i left the oil station, i had a philosophical question in my mind ... what the hell is the meaning of those one time meetings ... for me ... but also for the lady?!
What is the real influence on our lives?!
Is it just a nonsense?!
The real answer did not came yet to me, but i understood that change should come ... from our attitude ... and this was something to think about .... me, but also the lady.
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Immoral acts reveal ... hidden desires
A friend of mine from UK, has a very interesting story, that somehow redefines the way we should see immortality.
I speak with him on the phone 2-3 times a year, but in the past we used to spend lots of time together.
He is what a woman should define as ... a real playboy.
He loves women ... adores them and could not imagine life without them.
He has an addiction for beautiful ladies ... especially for the young ones.
In the real life, he has a beautiful wife, 2 amazing kids, a gorgeous house and an amazing car.
He actually has the perfect life ... but still inside of him is this strange addiction for other ladies.
He never considered this as being an immoral thing.
But today, my dear friend ... felt himself trapped into a love story ...
with an amazing 20 years old girl.
He started to be afraid that the story will influence him and he will leave the perfect life he has at home, until he found a new trick.
He spoke with a friend of him, and then he tried to convince her that they should have sex in 3 ... him, his friend and her.
She refused, but in the end ... because he asked her for so many times, she said yes.
The next moment ... he considered she is not anymore that special woman that he saw in such a beautiful way, for such a long time. He was explaining with so many details ... that even if she is so beautiful and she likes her so much ... he feel released ... and does
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not feel anymore that huge influence of switching the perfect life from home with the perfect life with the young lady. It was quite funny.
The guy had 2 perfect lives ... and was actually afraid that he will abandon the wife and kids .... because of the adventurous love story he had now with the other one.
The trick ... of “sharing” the young lady ... somehow saved him and he was happy explaining me that he is safe now.
On the other hand ... all those immoral facts defines hidden desires, very difficult to be understood if we are not honest with ourselves. Why is my friend still cheating his wife when he already has the perfect life?!
What are the reasons that influenced him to do this?!
But also ... why he runs away by that perfect life with the amazing 20 years old girl ... and used such an immoral trick to save himself?! Maybe ... he has an addiction for perfect case scenarios, but in the same time is scared of them.
And the Universe is laughing behind his back and introduce him only ... in perfect stories.
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Even the humans have a “pedigree”
... but a mental one
He was talking with a friend, telling him that he was dating with that beautiful young lady.
He was amazed of her ... but his friend not wanting to disappoint and
also not offend him ... was listening politely and just reply at the
end ... “ Same as horses ... us ... the humans ... we have also kind of
a mental pedigree. Be aware that ... in my opinion ... she is not
having the right one.”
He was not understanding the message, cause was too happy to understand what his friend wanted to say.
That guy was in love with horses and all the time he was looking for all kinds of informations about horses. But what is a pedigree for horses?!
A pedigree chart portrays a horse's family tree. You'll see charts included in advertisements of horses for sale and stallions at stud, in sales catalogues, and farm brochures. When you research an individual horse, a certificate of registration (the “papers”) establishes that animal's identity.
But the question is ... can a human have a mental pedigree ... as the guy just said to him?!
Well ... sometimes a metaphor helps us express everything in a much beautiful way ... so that in fact even if we offend someone ... we should do it in a beautiful way ... to sound more as an advice.
You see, the pedigree represents the past ... the history of that past.
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Is something that defines everything in a certain way ... and it can let you predict the behavior, but also the future behavior according to the events from the past.
To the humans ... the same principles can be applied ... if we see everything from the mental point of view. But i also believe that people can change.
The influence of the past will always be there ... and will look like a time bomb whose detonation is triggered by a timer ... but a timer that we don’t know anything about.
So ... the real question is ... should we give credit to the people ... or just believe that the influence of that “mental pedigree” will always be there ... and there is no chance for showing to us only the beautiful side of that soul?!
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Not clearly remembering who
she really was, but loving her vibe
... he was starting to seduce her
Sometimes we just love some of the people we met.
They were speaking on the phone for more than an hour.
They spoke many times, but today it was ... special.
He loved her vibe, cause he influenced his vibe in a great way, but he was not remembering who she really was.
They met few years ago, but he met during this time so many people that he was not actually remembered her ... as a person.
Knew her voice ... and also remembered her as a spirit ... but not as a woman.
He could not remember, even if he was thinking so much ... if she was beautiful or ugly, slim or fat, blonde or brunette .... nothing.
It was like his mind had absolutely no information about her look, even if both of them discussed that they met 2-3 times in the past. But loved her voice, her attitude ... the connection with her ... and in fact ... her everything.
