LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
LOVE
the pathless path that goes to your soul
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
1
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
ADRIAN G DUMITRU
ARIJ EMAAN
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Year: 2021
Author: Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
2
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
THANK YOU … TO MY FRIENDS
THAT HELPED ME WRITE THIS
BOOK !!
I would like to thank to Arij Emaan, Pamela Suggs, Shahara Pereira and Annie David for all the inspiration they offered me for this book.
Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
3
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Love … the pathless path
goes to your soul.
“So in a very basic way, the pathless path is a path of desire. If your deepest desire is to wake up, to escape the illusion, to unveil reality, and in the end to know who you really are, the message gets through. Your deepest desire activates a level of awareness that will lead you to the goal.”
Pamela Suggs
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
4
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
INTRODUCTION
LOVE ... the pathless path that goes to your soul.
Is really love a necessity for our lives?!
Why can’t life be much simple, mathematical, with very clear rules to follow?!
Why we need to fall in love?!
We should spend our lives only following the path the society taught us about ... finish school, get a job, make money, try to be successful, retire ... and then die. Why we need this complicated story of studying what love is about?!
Well ... first all of you have a heart inside of you ... to feel the life ... and being in a love story everything becomes more “real”.
Following just the paths the society told you about should be boring.
This is why lots of poets and writers ... wrote so much, trying to define the meaning of love in our lives.
When you are the kind of person that look at life in a logical and rational way ...
falling in love looks like useless, like a pathless path.
But discovering the love feelings, in a time when everything looked like boring in your life ... redefines everything.
Is never a good moment to fall in love, cause you will always need to do something in the real life ... and looks like there is no time to loose for those silly feelings ... but one day ... when the feelings become so strong inside of you ... you realise that you just started to feel ALIVE.
You always did what other taught you to do in life .... the parents, friends,
teachers or people you know ... but no one came to you to whisper the secret of life ... IF YOU WANT TO FEEL ALIVE ... JUST LET YOUR HEART TO FALL IN LOVE. You might loose your soul, your heart, your mind ... but you will feel being alive. No other path gives you those feelings.
Yesss ... truth be told ... LOVE ... is the pathless path ... but it goes to your soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
5
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
“One day you will tell your story of how
you overcame what you went through
and it will be someone else’s survival guide”
Have you ever thought why so many people wrote love poems, or essays ... or love stories?!
Did they tried to cure their own souls, defining their love stories in such a beautiful way?!
... or maybe they thought of all the people that go on the path of love for the first time ... and they tried to create a survival guide for that. But is the Universe of love a jungle?!
Why and of what you need to worry if you start a love story?!
Is it something good or ... bad?!
You see ... is quite strange ... cause no one named the stories about love ... “Survival guide in a love story” ... even if it sounds as a good, but also realistic title.
You will find only fancy titles ... cause maybe in the end, the authors saw only the beautiful memories of those times spent togheter.
The writings explain how the path of love show you the infinite ...and maybe avoid to say too much about what breaking up means.
You won’t even understand the balance between infinite happiness and unhappiness ... but this was actually the reason behind those writings.
You feel that ... it kills you to make this jump from positivity to negativity ... but if it happens, you will just need to do it.
Love stories are like gambling ... and could happen as you to lose everything you
actually have ... your soul.
Can you get it back?!
Well ... lots of people, after breaking up, go to a therapist, or talk for months about the subject with their close friends ... and some are becoming poets or writers.
The survival guide in fact ... it does not exist, because behind any great love poem ... it was actually a great love story.
The only thing the poet is regretting is that those moments are not part of the present ... not the fact that the story existed.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
6
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The hidden message ... “survival guide” it actually tries to tell you ... “listen beautiful soul ... you are going on a journey ... on the path of love. It will be amazing.
Those will be the most beautiful moments of your lifetime.
Even if your soul will be broken into very, very small pieces ... it will worth it.
You did not know you had a soul anyway.
Now you know it ... rebuild it ... and do something positive with it”.
Yes ... you are going to lose yourself, as in the end to meet again with ... you ...
cause the path of love always goes to your soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
7
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
“And I'm not even waiting. If someone has to
reach me, he will arrive sooner or later. It matters that he
knows how to make me believe again”
Love can make you feel the infinite, but also hurt you a lot.
I recently read the blog of a beautiful lady, that broke up with the one she thought that is the love of her life.
The blog was actually a diary with her daily feelings, starting from 20 months ago ... till now.
I was reading all the details and was surprised to see how her soul was metamorphosed from being totally broken ... to a soul ... that looked like a very powerful one.
In the first posts, you could see the victim of the love story, later on you could read all the beautiful memories, as in the end to understand from her what is the meaning of self love and how that can heal you after losing the person you loved do much.
It was a diary of a beautiful journey and if you should see the photo with the beautiful lady, you would not believe how such a fantastic woman, that could start a new story the day after breaking up ... was still suffering after almost 2 years. She was deeply in love at that time, but today she became totally changed ... and even she was still loving him ... understood that everything happened in the way that needed to happen.
She accepted the path the Universe gave her.
Saw everything as a life lesson ... as her destiny.
Was she still thinking about love?!
Well ... she was experiencing now the self love .. and she was not waiting anymore ... not even for him, or anyone else.
She knows today to let everything come by itself ... without forcing anything at all.
The right person .. will just come at the right time ... sooner or later.
But she was still expecting as the chosen one to make her ... believe again.
Yes ... the journey of love has very beautiful, but also painful paths ... but when you can discover the self love, and accept that the Universe knows better as you
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
8
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
what is important ... it means you understood that the whole meaning of the love story taught you that you have a soul ... and you should follow that path that leads to it.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
9
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The art of being perfect
“I lost myself ... being perfect for you ....
Showing you everything ...
You’re yourself ...
Wanting too much ...”
(Arij Emaan)
She was in love ... deeply in love.
He was loving her ... but wanting so much from her.
She mastered the art of being the perfect woman ... in a love story ... that could be the perfect one ... if he shouldn’t be so selfish.
And ... she lost herself ... just for being perfect for him, trying to show him everything he wanted to see.
So the question is ... does it make sense to be the perfect partner? To lose yourself ... just to be perfect?!
Well ... i think it all depends of how much you love that person ... and how much you want that love story.
But, maybe the only realistic problem is that the human being, no matter how wise that person is, does not have the ability of accepting ... the perfect partner. We just can’t.
We can’t accept having the perfect love story, with the perfect partner ... even if we asked that so much.
Or maybe ... we just can’t believe it can be real.
The art of being perfect in a love story is in total contradiction with the art of being selfish ... but this is actually how things happen.
We want everything ... we want the infinite in fact ... and we really don’t care so much if the person that brings us this happiness ... is losing herself on the path of perfection.
We don’t care about anything at all.
We pretend that we care ... but is the story we care about ... and not the person.
Cause being selfish is also ... an art.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
10
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
To say “I love you!” is an invitation to eternity.
(Dabija)
“I love you!” sounds like a magic formula.
You say it and this is actually the path to the love story.
It’s official ...
But how many times did you say it ... and with how many persons it happened?!
Was it sincere?!
Well .... maybe i should ask ... was it sincere all the time?!
As the writer Dabija told us in his books ... saying “i love you!” is like inviting someone to enjoy the eternity togheter.
Most probably ... it should be an unique statement ... but are we ready to live eternity togheter?!
Is this a path to follow for the whole life ... or is just a chapter of our life? Yes ... we say lots of things.
At that time we even believe them.
But ... what yesterday was a magic formula, today that could represent for us ...
only simple words.
The human being cannot understand what eternity really is ... and even if could understand ... the concept of uniqueness is not for us.
What today is unique .. tomorrow is just part of the past ... feeling that maybe it has no value anymore.
But ... still ... we use the magic formula of “i love you!”.
The beautiful blindness of being in love makes us dream of living the eternity. But what eternity?!
Of love?! ... or ... of the love story with that person?!
And i am still asking myself what really means for us a love story.
Is that really a path ... to eternity?!
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
11
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
“Are we a moment or a life time?”
(J. Strelou)
You see, we stress so much in life ... because we focus too much about what future means ... and we actually miss the opportunity of enjoying the present moment, which is probably the most important thing to do.
There is no past anymore, but we always are thinking about it, being anchored in there.
There is not future yet ... but we always pay too much attention to it.
But when you are in a love story ... you always have the obsessive question in your mind ... if this is a moment ... or a life time story?!
Even if you felt that you met the soulmate of your life ... you still can’t get rid of that question.
You have the desire of having the eternal love story ... that just never ends.
And the desire itself is a repetitive thought from your naive mind.
You always oscillate between living the present moment near that person and the obsession that you will lose that story?
But what is the most important ... to enjoy or to worry?!
Why you have this balance?!
You are on a beautiful path of your life ... but you think you will get lost ... and you will lose that person in the future.
You never think that the life itself is not eternal ... and a beautiful moment ...
though its joyfulness can look like eternity.
We worry too much ... thinking that we will be on a pathless path ... to an unhappy life.
But the Universe smiled us ... gave us the happiness ... and instead of enjoying it, we pay too much attention of what eternity means.
I believe that the oscillations between happiness and a false expectation that everything will not be a life time story ... will end in the moment when your mind will accept that us, as human being ... can live the eternity only in the beauty of the present moment.
So ... just enjoy it ... don’t even bother of anything else!
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
12
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The architect …
“You are like an architect.
A true one.
But you have no experience as a builder.
Being in a relationship is not only about plans ... but also about building real facts togheter.”
Are the plans important?!
Yes they are ... but without action ... all the plans are useless.
Thinking as an architect, seeing how your relationship will look like ... is perfect ... but all you say must be translated into the real life.
Beautiful plans give a good vibe to the relationship ... but will also hurt a lot if nothing is happening.
You see, most of us, after a certain age, when we already have a life
experience ... we become good theoreticians ... and we know to come with lots of plans that could take the story we have togheter on a very beautiful path.
But what you cannot see is that when you are in love, the relationship is beautiful just as it is ... mostly because its spontaneity.
It started with no plans ... and it continued with no plans, but what you did not realised was that everything was amazing. There was no love story architecture.
But you felt the infinite being near that person.
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
LOVE
the pathless path that goes to your soul
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
1
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
ADRIAN G DUMITRU
ARIJ EMAAN
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Year: 2021
Author: Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
2
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
THANK YOU … TO MY FRIENDS
THAT HELPED ME WRITE THIS
BOOK !!
I would like to thank to Arij Emaan, Pamela Suggs, Shahara Pereira and Annie David for all the inspiration they offered me for this book.
Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
3
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
Love … the pathless path
goes to your soul.
“So in a very basic way, the pathless path is a path of desire. If your deepest desire is to wake up, to escape the illusion, to unveil reality, and in the end to know who you really are, the message gets through. Your deepest desire activates a level of awareness that will lead you to the goal.”
Pamela Suggs
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
4
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
INTRODUCTION
LOVE ... the pathless path that goes to your soul.
Is really love a necessity for our lives?!
Why can’t life be much simple, mathematical, with very clear rules to follow?!
Why we need to fall in love?!
We should spend our lives only following the path the society taught us about ... finish school, get a job, make money, try to be successful, retire ... and then die. Why we need this complicated story of studying what love is about?!
Well ... first all of you have a heart inside of you ... to feel the life ... and being in a love story everything becomes more “real”.
Following just the paths the society told you about should be boring.
This is why lots of poets and writers ... wrote so much, trying to define the meaning of love in our lives.
When you are the kind of person that look at life in a logical and rational way ...
falling in love looks like useless, like a pathless path.
But discovering the love feelings, in a time when everything looked like boring in your life ... redefines everything.
Is never a good moment to fall in love, cause you will always need to do something in the real life ... and looks like there is no time to loose for those silly feelings ... but one day ... when the feelings become so strong inside of you ... you realise that you just started to feel ALIVE.
You always did what other taught you to do in life .... the parents, friends,
teachers or people you know ... but no one came to you to whisper the secret of life ... IF YOU WANT TO FEEL ALIVE ... JUST LET YOUR HEART TO FALL IN LOVE. You might loose your soul, your heart, your mind ... but you will feel being alive. No other path gives you those feelings.
Yesss ... truth be told ... LOVE ... is the pathless path ... but it goes to your soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
5
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
“One day you will tell your story of how
you overcame what you went through
and it will be someone else’s survival guide”
Have you ever thought why so many people wrote love poems, or essays ... or love stories?!
Did they tried to cure their own souls, defining their love stories in such a beautiful way?!
... or maybe they thought of all the people that go on the path of love for the first time ... and they tried to create a survival guide for that. But is the Universe of love a jungle?!
Why and of what you need to worry if you start a love story?!
Is it something good or ... bad?!
You see ... is quite strange ... cause no one named the stories about love ... “Survival guide in a love story” ... even if it sounds as a good, but also realistic title.
You will find only fancy titles ... cause maybe in the end, the authors saw only the beautiful memories of those times spent togheter.
The writings explain how the path of love show you the infinite ...and maybe avoid to say too much about what breaking up means.
You won’t even understand the balance between infinite happiness and unhappiness ... but this was actually the reason behind those writings.
You feel that ... it kills you to make this jump from positivity to negativity ... but if it happens, you will just need to do it.
Love stories are like gambling ... and could happen as you to lose everything you
actually have ... your soul.
Can you get it back?!
Well ... lots of people, after breaking up, go to a therapist, or talk for months about the subject with their close friends ... and some are becoming poets or writers.
The survival guide in fact ... it does not exist, because behind any great love poem ... it was actually a great love story.
The only thing the poet is regretting is that those moments are not part of the present ... not the fact that the story existed.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
6
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The hidden message ... “survival guide” it actually tries to tell you ... “listen beautiful soul ... you are going on a journey ... on the path of love. It will be amazing.
Those will be the most beautiful moments of your lifetime.
Even if your soul will be broken into very, very small pieces ... it will worth it.
You did not know you had a soul anyway.
Now you know it ... rebuild it ... and do something positive with it”.
Yes ... you are going to lose yourself, as in the end to meet again with ... you ...
cause the path of love always goes to your soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
7
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
“And I'm not even waiting. If someone has to
reach me, he will arrive sooner or later. It matters that he
knows how to make me believe again”
Love can make you feel the infinite, but also hurt you a lot.
I recently read the blog of a beautiful lady, that broke up with the one she thought that is the love of her life.
The blog was actually a diary with her daily feelings, starting from 20 months ago ... till now.
I was reading all the details and was surprised to see how her soul was metamorphosed from being totally broken ... to a soul ... that looked like a very powerful one.
In the first posts, you could see the victim of the love story, later on you could read all the beautiful memories, as in the end to understand from her what is the meaning of self love and how that can heal you after losing the person you loved do much.
It was a diary of a beautiful journey and if you should see the photo with the beautiful lady, you would not believe how such a fantastic woman, that could start a new story the day after breaking up ... was still suffering after almost 2 years. She was deeply in love at that time, but today she became totally changed ... and even she was still loving him ... understood that everything happened in the way that needed to happen.
She accepted the path the Universe gave her.
Saw everything as a life lesson ... as her destiny.
Was she still thinking about love?!
Well ... she was experiencing now the self love .. and she was not waiting anymore ... not even for him, or anyone else.
She knows today to let everything come by itself ... without forcing anything at all.
The right person .. will just come at the right time ... sooner or later.
But she was still expecting as the chosen one to make her ... believe again.
Yes ... the journey of love has very beautiful, but also painful paths ... but when you can discover the self love, and accept that the Universe knows better as you
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
8
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
what is important ... it means you understood that the whole meaning of the love story taught you that you have a soul ... and you should follow that path that leads to it.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
9
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The art of being perfect
“I lost myself ... being perfect for you ....
Showing you everything ...
You’re yourself ...
Wanting too much ...”
(Arij Emaan)
She was in love ... deeply in love.
He was loving her ... but wanting so much from her.
She mastered the art of being the perfect woman ... in a love story ... that could be the perfect one ... if he shouldn’t be so selfish.
And ... she lost herself ... just for being perfect for him, trying to show him everything he wanted to see.
So the question is ... does it make sense to be the perfect partner? To lose yourself ... just to be perfect?!
Well ... i think it all depends of how much you love that person ... and how much you want that love story.
But, maybe the only realistic problem is that the human being, no matter how wise that person is, does not have the ability of accepting ... the perfect partner. We just can’t.
We can’t accept having the perfect love story, with the perfect partner ... even if we asked that so much.
Or maybe ... we just can’t believe it can be real.
The art of being perfect in a love story is in total contradiction with the art of being selfish ... but this is actually how things happen.
We want everything ... we want the infinite in fact ... and we really don’t care so much if the person that brings us this happiness ... is losing herself on the path of perfection.
We don’t care about anything at all.
We pretend that we care ... but is the story we care about ... and not the person.
Cause being selfish is also ... an art.
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
10
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
To say “I love you!” is an invitation to eternity.
(Dabija)
“I love you!” sounds like a magic formula.
You say it and this is actually the path to the love story.
It’s official ...
But how many times did you say it ... and with how many persons it happened?!
Was it sincere?!
Well .... maybe i should ask ... was it sincere all the time?!
As the writer Dabija told us in his books ... saying “i love you!” is like inviting someone to enjoy the eternity togheter.
Most probably ... it should be an unique statement ... but are we ready to live eternity togheter?!
Is this a path to follow for the whole life ... or is just a chapter of our life? Yes ... we say lots of things.
At that time we even believe them.
But ... what yesterday was a magic formula, today that could represent for us ...
only simple words.
The human being cannot understand what eternity really is ... and even if could understand ... the concept of uniqueness is not for us.
What today is unique .. tomorrow is just part of the past ... feeling that maybe it has no value anymore.
But ... still ... we use the magic formula of “i love you!”.
The beautiful blindness of being in love makes us dream of living the eternity. But what eternity?!
Of love?! ... or ... of the love story with that person?!
And i am still asking myself what really means for us a love story.
Is that really a path ... to eternity?!
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
11
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
“Are we a moment or a life time?”
(J. Strelou)
You see, we stress so much in life ... because we focus too much about what future means ... and we actually miss the opportunity of enjoying the present moment, which is probably the most important thing to do.
There is no past anymore, but we always are thinking about it, being anchored in there.
There is not future yet ... but we always pay too much attention to it.
But when you are in a love story ... you always have the obsessive question in your mind ... if this is a moment ... or a life time story?!
Even if you felt that you met the soulmate of your life ... you still can’t get rid of that question.
You have the desire of having the eternal love story ... that just never ends.
And the desire itself is a repetitive thought from your naive mind.
You always oscillate between living the present moment near that person and the obsession that you will lose that story?
But what is the most important ... to enjoy or to worry?!
Why you have this balance?!
You are on a beautiful path of your life ... but you think you will get lost ... and you will lose that person in the future.
You never think that the life itself is not eternal ... and a beautiful moment ...
though its joyfulness can look like eternity.
We worry too much ... thinking that we will be on a pathless path ... to an unhappy life.
But the Universe smiled us ... gave us the happiness ... and instead of enjoying it, we pay too much attention of what eternity means.
I believe that the oscillations between happiness and a false expectation that everything will not be a life time story ... will end in the moment when your mind will accept that us, as human being ... can live the eternity only in the beauty of the present moment.
So ... just enjoy it ... don’t even bother of anything else!
Adrian G Dumitru
Arij Emaan
12
LOVE
… the pathless path that goes to your soul
The architect …
“You are like an architect.
A true one.
But you have no experience as a builder.
Being in a relationship is not only about plans ... but also about building real facts togheter.”
Are the plans important?!
Yes they are ... but without action ... all the plans are useless.
Thinking as an architect, seeing how your relationship will look like ... is perfect ... but all you say must be translated into the real life.
Beautiful plans give a good vibe to the relationship ... but will also hurt a lot if nothing is happening.
You see, most of us, after a certain age, when we already have a life
experience ... we become good theoreticians ... and we know to come with lots of plans that could take the story we have togheter on a very beautiful path.
But what you cannot see is that when you are in love, the relationship is beautiful just as it is ... mostly because its spontaneity.
It started with no plans ... and it continued with no plans, but what you did not realised was that everything was amazing. There was no love story architecture.
But you felt the infinite being near that person.
