You see ... this is why falling in love is the experience ... when you discover you have a soul ... and even a big one.
You are amazed of what you can feel ... and have no idea how all those moments should be defined.
You will lose yourself ... and everything is related to you ... all your dreams and ambitions.
It will be confusing ... but a beautiful experience.
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And nothing will be the way it used to be.
But the meaning of the whole experience is to redefine the way you see everything is related to life.
Your focus was YOU ... and he took everything.
But a moment of happiness was offered by the same person.
And you wonder if it worth that.
Took you everything ... but he gave you a moment in return.
And if you will not lie yourself anymore ... you will accept the fact .... that
moment was the infinite itself.
He took everything was you ... and gave you the infinite.
Yesss ... love stories are confusing ... but this is how we redefine the vision we have about everything.
And truth be told ... a love story is not about losing your soul, but discovering you have a soul.
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Jumping from fantasy to
... dependancy ... in a love story
“Every day I fall more in love with you
my Love!
You give me a reason to fall, Fall in your love! I couldn’t love anyone else as this before!
You are the reason the world is bright, but it goes dark when you are out of my sight that's why I always need you by my side.
My own world king, my hero! I love you always till to the end of days”
(Annie David)
Love is beautiful.
We dream about it.
Men and women from all around the world ... have moments when the fantasy is asking them to pay more attention to what love means. And one day ... the right person appears.
Looks like the one from the fantasy ... and maybe the scenario is even a better one than the one you dreamed so much. You just love everything happens.
The memories of the moments spent yesterday, the pleasure of being again today
togheter and the plans you have for tomorrow ... make you ... as this time to
dream with your eyes opened.
Everything looks ... real and magnificent.
It’s the life you had in the fantasy and can’t believe life became this way. But what if you jumped from fantasy to dependancy?
Having an addiction for the love story itself ... can change the path you follow in life ... but are you willing to pay the price?! ... or you are in the position where you will pay any price you are asked for ... just as the fantasy to continue?! Yes ... a love story can be a fairy tale.
Sometimes it will be a dream ... but it can also become a painful one if the addiction for the soul mate is so big ... and that person is not there, near you. Yes ... love is risky ... and will make your world bright ... but also dark ... and maybe everything is related to the way you manage the addiction itself ... or maybe is too late and the addiction is already playing with you.
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“So now ... I am the sole
proprietor of my blissful life. “
(Shahara Pereira)
What happens when you fall in love ... you give your soul to the partner ... but
you never get it back?!
Can you still be you?!
What if a love story becomes a relationship that just ruins your spirit?!
You use to be joyful all the time ... but you lost yourself on the path of the love story.
And you got lost.
You became someone else.
Thought it will be a journey, that will redefine you in a beautiful way ... and end up loosing your energy ... your essence ... your everything.
A love story should be a beautiful chapter of our lives, but sometimes .. even if it begins in such a fantastic way ... we loose everything means ... us. So ... is there a way to get out from the labyrinth of love ?!
Or you remain on that pathless path ... and you will never find yourself again? Well ... it all depends if you decide to be happy ... or just follow the illusion that you will be happy ... even if you are not happy anymore in that relationship by such a long time.
You forgot to analyze the dynamic of your story, the statistics of everything happened ... and that what you thought is going to be the story of your life ...
just ruined you emotionally ... in such a way that you don’t even dare to believe that ... one day you will be again ... what you used to be ... that happy face, with a smiley soul.
But you are lucky ... and one day you wake up ... and become again the sole
proprietor of your blissful life.
And you feel great.
You thought that the love story will make you the most happiest person on Earth and at the end of the fairy tale ... you realise that you are happy being alone ... you with your beautiful soul.
Nothing more.
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You see ... what you did not knew, and no one told you, is that being in love is indeed great ... but be all the time aware, not to lose yourself.
Love is beautiful ... but can also be painful ... it all depends how you manage the dance of your emotions.
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“Turns out
... she does not care at the end.”
The need of feeling special ... and irreplaceable ... even if the whole story has ended.
Truth be told we have an infinite need of feeling special ... especially to see that at the persons we love most.
Even at the end ... when the whole story is finished we still have the illusory
desire of being irreplaceable.
But why?!
Cause we want to be important on our own timeline, but also in other people’s lives.
And we believe that no one could replace us.
We do not understand what life is about ... and even if we understand that ... we cannot accept it.
We are adults, but we cannot see that a story has a beginning ... the story itself and then ... the non evitable end.
Should we have the dignity to accept the end ... with everything that means?! Well ... i believe so.
The day when we accept that we ended a story with someone ... cause other persons are waiting for us in the near future ... for both from the couple ... and that life has many chapters to show us ... that is a day of awakening. The end is not something bad .. even when it looks like that.
Life have many things to offer us ... and the end is a just a new beginning for something more important that the actual story ... the next chapter.
We should understand, but also accept that life goes on ... that we are special for ... us ... and maybe for someone else also ... but just when the story exists ... and irreplaceable as a character in our own life story.
Let everything in your life ... be as it is... let all new events come to you, but also let other things disappear from your life.
You will still be important ... but for the ones that need you in their lives.
It says that the cemetery is full with people that were irrepleceable but maybe they still remained as that in the heart of the people that were important for them during life time.
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Looks like she / he does not care at the end?! ... and you feel disappointed?!
Just continue your life, focus on the new important things from your life ... and let the show of your life ... go on.
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Being insensitive
“He is insensitive ...
For my needs.....
For my desires....
For my thoughts....”
(Arij Emaan)
Unfortunately ... not all men are paying attention to what women really want.
Some ... don’t understand.
Some of them ... actually don’t care.
But ... in the end she will see him as insensitive.
She needed so much as him to read her thoughts ... without telling him anything at all.
She was hoping ... he will connect to her soul and understand all that she expects from him ... without saying a word.
But ... he was too insensitive to her needs ... just like all the time.
Sometimes she regrets that she loves him so much ... but she doesn’t have the power to leave the story with him.
In the vision of a woman ... insensitive man means ... usually that lover ... who looks into her soul ... and then doesn’t act in the way he should act.
And a woman doesn’t want in her life an insensitive person ... even if she knows that he loves her.
She wants everything.
She wants the infinite ... this is her main desire.
Is she asking too much from him?!
In her thoughts ... her believes about a true love story ... the infinite was just part of the script.
... but he is just too insensitive ... and everything was looking like a love story that followed an unwanted pathless path. And ... she still loves him.
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A philosophical question …
A philosophical question for you.
Where you can find the final frontier of the Universe ... in the mind or in the heart?!
Are you a logical person that does in life only what has to do, what society taught to do ... or a romantic person that always care about what the heart has to say?! What is more important in life ... to listen to what the mind is telling us ... or the heart?!
In which direction we can find the meaning of life?!
But why should we bother to find the meaning of life ... or should i ask ... should we find the answear of the meaning or feel the answear?!
Where is the final frontier of the Universe ... and what does it mean final frontier?!
Well ... i believe that seeing it ... feeling it ... you understand everything life is. It say that we have thousands of thoughts in a day ... and still the answear is not coming to us.
How should we define the Universe?!
Too many philosophical questions ... but i think the Universe is everything ...
including us.
And if you believe in yourself ... the Universe is you.
In life we always need to choose between what we love to do and what we need to do.
And most of the times we only do what we really have to do.
There is a saying ... “my life, my rules” ... but even if you have your inner Universe ... is your life ... and their rules.
The mind helps you to follow the logical path, the pragmatic way of living life ...
and you always hide what your heart has to say.
And one day, after being unhappy for many, many years in a row ... you ask your mind ... why i am not happy if i followed all the rules and accomplished all requirements?!
And the mind ... will smile and lie ... telling you that you will see the results in the future.
You will be happy when you will be rich ... but being rich means 1 million dollars or 100 millions?! ... or when you will see the whole world, but you don’t even
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visited all the places from your country ... and time is limited.
The heart can be happy ... staying in a beautiful coffee shop in Monte Carlo ... drinking a coffee ... but also staying home, in the living room ... near the loved person.
For the heart ... you don’t need the ideal circumstances ... but to connect to the present moment ... and just feel the beauty of those moments.
The mind will always analyze everything and will never stop from doing this.
There will never be the perfect time for enjoying life.
The heart does not care about anything ... but seeing the beauty of life ... and i believe this is where the final frontier of life will be.
And you can be the king of the world, but as long as you are not happy, you are just the slave of your thoughts.
Let you heart be present on the scene of your life ... let it decide the path that you should follow ... forget about the dogmatic rules and enjoy life ... just as it is.
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The difference between influencing and domination
.... and the meaning of that in a love story
What is the difference between influencing and domination?!
Should the 2 of them exist into a love story?!
Which one of them is good and which one is bad?
Well, i believe influencing means try to inspire someone to have in life what they always dreamed to have.
Is making that person believe that everything is posible and that they can accomplish anything they really want. Domination is somehow the opposite.
Is more trying to be the boss into a relationship, which actually is a non sense concept and ask the person you love to make only the things you want.
It’s only your philosophy of life that matters and you are the only one that decides the dynamic of the relationship.
In a relationship defined by domination is only one person important ...the one that dominates.
In the one defined by influencing ... you show you care about the partner ...
about his / her ideas ... dreams ... desires.
Theoretically ... i believe is quite easy to understand the difference between influencing and domination ( which is also present in many kinds of relationship ) ... but very difficult not to mix them.
But the day when we will understand that domination will make your partner feel like a slave ... a non value person ... and influencing will make that person feel like a prince / princess, that will be the day when you will think about redesigning the whole architecture of your relationship.
In a couple ... everything should come by itself.
The concept of “the boss” ... even if it is the man or the woman ... is ridiculous, but you will find it in many, many relationships if you will bother to analyze them. This is one of the reasons why you will see people that divorced, completely changed.
You won’t even recognize them, cause they are not dominated anymore and they could become again the person they used to be in the past.
And this time, if that person is lucky enough to be in a relationship with someone
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that could influence in a positive way, you will see a magic change in everything that defines that person.
And maybe this is the huge difference between a love story and a simple relationship.
