We want all kinds of things.
Not having them for real, after all kinds of efforts, makes us accept in the end the situation as a simple static fact.
And we even convince ourselves that the truth is that we don’t really want that for real, but it’s just a simple illusory desire, as many, many others we had in the past.
But this time is a special case, cause the Universe revealed us the desire ... but only from time to time, to let us understand the desire can be real ... but only if we really, really want it.
And the obsession from inside of us?!
How can it be defined?!
Can the obsession defines us?!
Well .... maybe, but only if we let it speak ... and tell us the story.
You see ... sometimes, the Universe just shows us paths difficult to see translated
in the real world.
Is like a present.
But you need to see that to follow the beautiful path you want to follow, you should only forget about lying yourself and see the unaccepted truth.
And the truth is that you are in love, you miss that person a lot and you even cannot breath without that story in your life.
Yeeesss ... sometimes what you need to do is NOTHING than accepting the present the Universe gave you.
Open the box, embrace it with love and enjoy.
It’s not a lie ... it’s just an unaccepted truth.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Why should i want a “clone” when i can have the “original”?! Well ... depends only who
wins the game of heart and mind.
We want a car.
Then ... a convertible one.
We want a house.
Then a house near the beach, with a lovely ocean view.
We want to have a relationship.
Then ... we realise we just want to be happy.
And we start to define what happiness means, but the conclusions are pretty unclear, because it looks like we want to have only what looks imposible to have. And the desire becomes even more stronger, day by day ... and the only thing we want, as an obsession ... is to be happy near a specific person that we like a lot. Is the same story as the convertible car, the house with ocean view ... and now the love story.
I am sure everybody can have a relationship, but not so many can have a real love story ... one like in books or movies.
And one day we ask ourselves why we should want a clone of what the ideal scenario looks like, when we could have the original for that.
The original is the obsession ... that desire from our minds ... we wake up with it, think about it all day long and then we dream about it the whole night.
But life it too short not to care about our obsessions ... cause in the end, the obsession defines what you really, really want from this life.
The obsession appears only when you realise that you have everything you ever wanted, but in fact you have ... NOTHING.
And not caring about what you really want is just an unhappy way of spending life.
It s a nice saying “In the war of heart and mind don’t let your heart win ... if it wins you loose” ... but i wonder myself, when is the perfect time to live the life of our dreams?!
Not care about what we need to do ... but what we want and love to do.
Adrian G Dumitru
63
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Maybe letting your heart win the war with the heart ... it’s an expensive desire that sometimes you just can’t pay the price for it. But the obsession will remain in there.
And one day you will see that there is NOTHING to do than don’t accept anymore what real life gave you, which is just a “clone” of what you want ... and dare to get “the original”.
Let your heart ... win!
Adrian G Dumitru
64
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Waiting ... NOTHING than an illusion
Nietzsche used to say that people don’t want to hear the truth, because it’s too painful to destroy the ilussions from their minds.
Truth be told we are the architects of all those illusions.
And we love them.
The illusion is actually the scene with the perfect script ... everything acting in a beautiful illusory way.
On the times when the things are not in the way we want them to be, what we do is just ... wait.
And many, many times we wait for a very, very long time, but nothing is really happening, because an illusion is only an illusion and it will never be real. But we always hope ... that things will change.
We almost can say that we don’t really understand the difference between optimism and illusions.
In a real love story ... waiting is not a nice chapter.
Is like writing the last pages of the story, before the end is coming.
But everything in life has a beginning, then the experience itself and the end.
So, if you have the ability to see everything is happening as an experience, you
can just forget of the “waiting chapter” and accept the end, as the beginning of
something new that is waiting for you.
Life means action ... living ... enjoying.
When you understand that, you will see that waiting ... is NOTHING than an illusion.
Adrian G Dumitru
65
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
The power of vanity over love stories, or
how you suddenly jump from the infinite to ... NOTHING
Vanity is defined as something that is vain, empty, or valueless or inflated pride in oneself or one's appearance.
Vanity exists before entering into the love story and will just remain hidden for a shorter or longer term, while you are in love.
But one day, when you will start to dislike more and more one situation that keeps repeating, vanity will reveal its power.
The other partner will be totally surprised and will almost not be able to understand what is really going on.
Alpacino used to say “Vanity, Definitely My Favourite Sin”.
Vanity can help a lot when you are alone, and is more a quality than a sin, but in the end, when you are involved into a great relationship or even a beautiful love story will just delete everything between the 2 partners. You will suddenly jump from the infinite to ... NOTHING.
And when the connection is closed ... and everything is defined as nothing, that is the end of the story.
Most probably, when you really care of someone, you need to keep in mind the concept of “us” .... of “being togheter”.
You cannot mix vanity with a real love story.
And if you see vanity on the timeline is not a great story anymore.
Maybe it used to be, but not now.
It is just simple math.
2 powers ... vanity or love ... which is stronger?!
Actually you are the one that decides that, and in the end you decide if you love more “us” or “you”.
And yeeess ... vanity is a sin, that makes the infinite be metamorphosed into NOTHING.
Adrian G Dumitru
66
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
NOTHING OR ... NEXT?!
When Steve Jobs was fired from Apple, after years of huge work, he spent some time meditating and then he created another company called NEXT.
He could not believe what was happening, but he had to choose between just stop and do NOTHING .... or start again with a similar company. And this is why the symbolic name ... NEXT.
So, my question to you is what should you do in a similar situation?!
But what if you are “fired” from a beautiful love story?!
What your next move should be?!
There are many options.
Well ... first one is just decide NOTHING, do NOTHING .... and make no future
plans just after breaking up.
Defining what ”NEXT” means is a process that you can start just after meditating a lot at what that ended story meant to you. And no hurry.
Take everything in your own rythm.
Being in a hurry, deciding right away to make the “next” move into another story, will mix too much the energies and the result will be just a mess.
Just ask yourself if everything is really ended, totally disconnect from the love story that you enjoyed so much in the past and then, after you feel healed, let the life continue.
Normal people usually don’t live in a monastery, so later ... they will think of what “next” means.
But keep in mind all the time ... don’t mix the energies from the past with the ones from the present or future.
So ... “the old story” ... “nothing” and then “next”.
Simple as that!
Adrian G Dumitru
67
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
“FUCK YOU!”
If you can’t tell her that when you are mad,
without being afraid of saying it,
you are just an idiot and you don’t really have
a great relationship.
Freddie Mercury was the only man on the planet that dared to say “Fuck you!” to 72.000 people and the audience screamed in applauses. Is unbelievable ... but true.
What about you?!
Do you have to courage to say it to her, when you are really, really mad?!
Or you are afraid of the consequences?!
A real connection between 2 people that are in love, have no limit at anything.
You can do or say absolutelly anything you want, without any fear at all.
Real love has no limit, no rules ... no NOTHING.
In love everything is allowed and if she will not like it ... if she really loves you ...
will just forgive and say as a reply that she loves you.
And then you realise you are an idiot cause you said something as that.
Also you should accept the truth, that you love her a lot ... like an idiot.
Love is stealing your minds ... and yeessss... you become an idiot ...but over all it will be fun.
So ... just dare to be alive and don’t be afraid of NOTHING ... not even of powerful words.
Adrian G Dumitru
68
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Being happy ... and the illusion
of being unhappy
OR
Being unhappy ... and the
illusion of being happy
If you write a diary about your love story most probably will write that you are happy, the next day you are mad and unhappy, then for another 2 days happy again ... and then again unhappy and everything continues on and on as that. If you would daily tell to a close friend about your love story, would not understand what is really going on.
Defining the relationship as something that brings happiness or unhappiness ... is pretty unclear.
The real defining is that if it is something very intense it will bring happiness and unhappiness also.
It will just be as the weather ... today is a sunny day, tomorrow is raining and things chance all the time.
But one day you will need to decide if you are actually unhappy and live with the impression you are happy, or you are happy and have this illusion that you are unhappy also.
Analyze what the story brings you, and redefine everything, but also accept that happiness and unhappiness are 2 processes that you frequently met into the real world.
But if you have the right balance between them everything should be just ok. Keep this daily diary ... then you can just see the proportion of happiness and unhapiness from your relationship.
If you are unhappy only 5-10% and the rest you feel is happiness, then it is a great love story.
The contrary balance ... just shows is a story that somehow, no matter what you feel, is not really for you.
Dare to analyze your story, or what you call “your story” ... and in the end you can decide if you still continue, or there is NOTHING you can do about it ... and just follow a completely different path.
Adrian G Dumitru
69
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
We always want what we cannot
have for real.But what if we should not bother to have for real ... but enjoy everything in a parallel universe.
Let me start with a simple example.
You are in a beautiful resort and you just love the hotel.
Everything is amazing ... the people working in there, the cozy hotel room ...and the atmosphere is fantastic.
So what you would do if you would be a billionaire?
Just rent a room and enjoy everything from time to time, when you would come back or just buy the whole hotel, move in there and take care of everything a hotel means?!
I mean ... sounds fantastic to own an amazing hotel, but i am asking myself ... if you are rich enough, why should you bother to buy the hotel, when you could just enjoy the life in there from time to time?!
You see ... life offers us so many chances so that we should just enjoy it ... and we complicate everything.
And in love stories we do the same.
We fall in love and sometimes we enter into wonderful love stories, but instead of enjoying the story itself, we start making plans ... one after another, and somehow we ruin everything, searching for explanations and we looking for a meaning.
In the 80ies, Bill Clintion, a young politician at that time, was already governor of Arkansas.
He was in public attention all the time, with all kind of stories ... including his love affairs.
A beautiful joke from that time is saying that Clinton was asking all the time his close friends ...”What should i do with all those beautiful ladies, that comes into my arms?!”.
Difficult to answear ... but if we should study his life, we should see that the answear to that question was NOTHING but ... “Just enjoy them!”. And he was one of the most successful men from the whole planet.
Adrian G Dumitru
70
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Truth be told, we do not know to enjoy life and take advantage from all the beautiful things.
Nobody ever taught us the art of enjoying the present moment, and there is NOTHING more important.
Maybe we are not billionaires and even if we would be, there should exists things that we could not have in the real life, but probably we should not bother to have everything for real ... but just enjoy it ... even if it happens in a parallel universe.
Adrian G Dumitru
71
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
“You want the moon?!
Yes ... i can get it for you.
But what for?! We have each other ... and we
don’t need anything else, cause we are the infinite togheter.”
