We think about all kinds of details, looking for the best case scenario, analyzing all datas just like some experts into statistics and end up living ... nothing.
We care too much about what is going to happen, instead of living the present moment.
The love story becomes in the end a nightmare with all kinds of fights and no ending discussions, coming from both sides.
The end is inevitable, but again trying to define togheter what happens and why it does not work anymore is useless, cause both sides comes with their stories. They just forgot that they had a love story togheter.
I even wonder if they care that they had this story or they just want to convince the other side that they are right.
Love can be defined indeed, but love is like a dance ... you just enjoy it and live the moment.
You should pay attention to all the details that makes your partner smile and be happy ... and not criticize, find excuses and continue fights with no destinations. You cannot jump from love to hate ... cause you cannot be in a love story when you love and hate in the same time.
Just push the love button and let the love story play.
Adrian G Dumitru
93
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
THE NEED OF ABSOLUTE SYMBOLS
The world around us changes so fast, that we feel protected only if we find absolute symbols in our lives.
Those symbols can be family members, the spouse, close friends ... or someone that we admire a lot.
After we grow up, the love partner is the one that can represent most of the time this symbol.
But what happens when from different reasons that person disappear from your life?
That person can die, might be forced to move far away from you, or just cheat on you and continue the life with someone else. What is the path you should follow?!
How can you continue your life without an absolute symbol in your life?
Can you still feel safe and protected?
Most of the times we need to feel protected only emotionally.
For any other challenges we are ok, as long as we know we have someone in our life that we can count on in any kind of situation.
Life is sometimes strange to be understood, but even if we love that person a lot and see the presence as an absolute symbol, probably the meaning of life is to understand that you should have only 2 absolute values in your life .. the Universe ( Holly Spirit, Allah ...however you want to name the Absolute) ... and YOU.
Believing in you, in your powers is the right path to follow.
We can see as a blessing the presence of diffent persons that we love and respect a lot, but the first person you need to count on is you.
There is no need to look for absolute relationships cause your life script might be different than the ones that today are with you and tomorrow just follow a different direction than you.
Adrian G Dumitru
94
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
WAKE UP TO THE REAL WORLD
… WE JUST LIVE AN IMPOSIBLE LOVE STORY
Some people say that nothing is imposible, but somehow on the timeline of life, we loose the hope.
And we surrender to the conditions from the real life.
If one of the 2 partners thinks in terms of imposible, the reality becomes stronger.
But the funny thing is that we are in love of imposible things, cause imposible means ... fairy tale.
And some people just refuse to wake up to the real world, which is actually the inabilty to be an adult person.
Basiclly believing into fairy tales, we just act as children, refusing to do what reality says us to do.
This is called the Peter Pan syndrome.
It describes one's inability to believe that they are of an older age or to engage in behaviour usually associated with adulthood. This syndrome affects people who do not want or feel unable to grow up, people with the body of an adult but the mind of a child. They do not know how to or do not want to stop being children. The term comes from the fictional children's character Peter Pan, who never ages. While it is more commonly attributed to men, it can affect women as well.
The Peter Pan effect is also applied to the love stories, when the story itself is imposible into the real life.
One of partners is acting just as a child, wanting to continue the story forever, even if the facts from the reality clearly shows that the end had come.
So if you believe in fairy fales and you think that you just falled in love with Peter Pan, enjoy the story, but dont be so surprisez when reality knocks to your door, saying .... “WAKE UP!”.
Adrian G Dumitru
95
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
GO AWAY … BUT NOT FOREVER
I know so many persons that are practicing the blocking sport in the last time. Today they are into the love story, tomorrow they block each other on all the posible channels of communication.
But there is only one channel they cannot do anything about ... the soul.
The mind is saying ... “go away”, but the heart is coming after the mind leaves and says “... please, not forever”.
When you are in love with someone, you can not detele that person from your soul.
It s easy to detele the phone number, but the problem is that after closing your eyes .... that person will appear in front of you ... as a ghost.
We do silly mistakes, lots of compromises and the love is broken ... cause we dont know how to act on the stage of life.
We use the block button, cause we want to hide the truth ... and the truth hurts a lot ... cause we are in love.
You cannot hide the love ... it can be seen on your smile when you meet that person again.
The sport of blocking the love story, trying to go in autoprotective mode ... just to not be hurt again is silly.
Go in front of the mirror, look into your eyes and say the truth, but nothing but the truth ... and say it loud ... “I LOVE U .. my dear love”. Then the magic will happen.
Being honest with ourselves is the key.
Lying ourselves, trying to block someone that you know that somehow reappears every time on and on ... just till one day when you see you cannot fight with the force of love.
Adrian G Dumitru
96
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
ACRES OF DIAMONDS
I read once a book called “Acres of diamonds” by Russell Conwell ... a lovelly book that you should read one day.
The short story from the book is about a guy that had a farm but wanted to be very, very rich.
He was not satisfied with what he has and decides to go into the world, looking for diamonds.
In the end he dies far, far away ... and his desires of becoming very rich is not accomplished.
He dies with the dream inside of him ... but at least he tryed, cause he abandoned his farm, his familly ... his everything ... just to succed ... and he failed.
After his death, someone comes and buys the farm.
Accidentlly discovered at the river from the property a stone.
When the priest comes to his house and sees the little stone, realises that is not a simple stone, but a diamond.
The whole farm was full of diamonds and the guy became one of the richest guy in the world ... and this is the reason the book is called “Acres of diamonds”.
He bought the farm with very little money and found the dream of the last owner ... directlly on the property.
The story itself is funny and has a very powerful message.
Do you know someone that is looking for diamonds?!
Well ... we all do ... but the diamonds means happiness.
We are all looking for happiness and think that it will not happen today, but in the future ... it will never come from your spouse, but from someone else’s spouse. And we are spending our life searching and searching, but “the diamonds” are near us.
So many people are cheating, having love affairs ... but it s just a disease called love addiction ... and you could heal that at home ... cause maybe you have “the diamonds” but did not discovered them yet. Yes ... we are blinds.
We cannot see the obvious things and we spend a life searching for what we already have.
Adrian G Dumitru
97
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LOVE HURTS …
Yesss .... sometimes real love hurts a lot.
Real love stories are always complicated.
And if they are simple ... we think everything is boring and we do them complicated.
We want to be happy, but besides that ... we also want lots of other silly things. Our ego is full of desires and some of those desires are not in full harmony with the love itself.
For example, a beautiful lady is having a huge desire of admiration.
She just love when other men are looking and admiring her ... even if it s nothing for real between her and the person that admires her.
The lady is very intelligent and understand that her desire for adminiration is contradictory with the love story ... but her ego wants both things.
The lady is also wise enough as she presents everything as simple ... normal facts.
But what is the truth?!
Can all those desires coexists into our lives??
Can the lady be into a beautiful love story, but in the same time also want as others men to look and admire her?!
I mean ... everything is posible, but in the end what we thought is a love story ...
is just a simple relationship.
When we do things that hurt our partners, and most of the times we know it very, very well ... because we are not in the kindergarten ...we destroy the infinity between us.
Real love hurts a lot sometimes.
And when it hurts you just see that everything was just an illution and the love
story .... is not a love story.
But life goes on.
Without synchronicity between our desires, you just loose the game.
The Universe can send to you the best partner in the world, the best love story ...
but when you dont know to control your ego ... and let the desires define you ... this is when you change the status from love story to ... just another relationship. I gave you just a silly example with the beautiful lady, but the message i have is
Adrian G Dumitru
98
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE A philosophical view over love stories
quite simple and this is just that there are moments in life when we should only follow the heart and forget about our silly ego.
Dont change the status of your love story ... if you have one .... you wont easilly
find another love story ... i am a real one.
Adrian G Dumitru
99
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
SHE'S JUST A SILLY GIRL
...BUT SHE IS MY REFLECTION
Imagine that everything should be perfect.
Wouldn’t it be boring?!
I think this is the main philosophy, why many couples that are in love, instead of enjoying the love story ... they also have moments that they would kill each other for silly reasons.
If you listen to them, you would laugh at what they tell you about.
You could even ask them if are talking about a cartoon serial or is about a love story, but watching them ... you see that they are really serious.
They start saying .... she did this, he did this, she doesnt really care about me, i
think he loves me because of .. etc, etc, etc.
Great love story ... silly reasons why they fight, sometimes even dailly ... but all the time they end up again togheter, because the love itself is infinite.
We have complicated minds and we dont really understand what harmony means ... and most important ... what is the real meaning of love into our lives. Today we are happy, tomorrow we are not ... but when you look deep inside ... the love is there all the time ... for him ... but also for her.
When real love exists, you will never say i totally dislike this at her or him ...
cause you actually love everything at the person from the love story.
Being in love ... means seeing only the magic.
Telling ugly things about the partener ... is silly ... you know the power of love and you also know is useless to fight with that power. Just love ... and enjoy the love story.
Adrian G Dumitru
100
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
CAN REAL LOVE BE PROVEN
THROUGH REAL FACTS?
I think the human mind is quite attracted by the imposible things and situations. We are actually looking for magic, but when we see imposible things happening, we see the presence of magic in our life ... and this is when life can become, even for a short time, a fairy tale.
If we try to describe the real modern comtemporary man, we should see that he is trying to impress her with all his attributes: the way he dresses, the way he speaks, the way he acts, his car and all the other values he owns ... but everything is just to make him appear as the perfect partner. But can be love associated with all those values?!
What if he tryes to impress her with all kinds of expensive presents?!
Will the woman feel the love?!
Will she feels that she is into a love story?!
One day a friend of mine from Philippines told me she is in love .... with her
husband.
I wanted to ask her in reply is she smokes marijuana, but before i should open my lips, she told me that she asked God for her husband. She saw everything as a present from Him.
I am curious for example if a beautiful girl, in love with a guy that is cashier to the grocery store, ask him one day ...”hey ... i was thinking ... you need to prove me that you really love me ... i want you to buy me a Lamborghini .... i know it
sounds imposible ... but if you really, really love me, i am sure you can find a way
to do that”.
What can he do?!
Well ... he could be lucky enough to win to the lottery.
But still, if this is not happening, he could go and steal a Lamborghini.
There are lots of tutorials over the internet that explains you how to steal a car.
Or ... if the guy is wise enough ... he can do .... nothing.
I also know a guy that cheated his wife a lot.
The wife found and she was really mad because of that.
Last time he cheated on her ... he was really in love with that woman.
When their love story ended, the guy bought a very, very expensive car to his wife, just to forgive him.
Adrian G Dumitru
101
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
You know what happened?
Well ... she falled in love with the car from her husband, but today she is in love indeed .. with another man.
So ... i think we act really silly on the stage of life and also that a real love story does not need proofs.
We care too much about what is going to happen, instead of living the present moment.
The love story becomes in the end a nightmare with all kinds of fights and no ending discussions, coming from both sides.
The end is inevitable, but again trying to define togheter what happens and why it does not work anymore is useless, cause both sides comes with their stories. They just forgot that they had a love story togheter.
I even wonder if they care that they had this story or they just want to convince the other side that they are right.
Love can be defined indeed, but love is like a dance ... you just enjoy it and live the moment.
You should pay attention to all the details that makes your partner smile and be happy ... and not criticize, find excuses and continue fights with no destinations. You cannot jump from love to hate ... cause you cannot be in a love story when you love and hate in the same time.
Just push the love button and let the love story play.
Adrian G Dumitru
93
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
THE NEED OF ABSOLUTE SYMBOLS
The world around us changes so fast, that we feel protected only if we find absolute symbols in our lives.
Those symbols can be family members, the spouse, close friends ... or someone that we admire a lot.
After we grow up, the love partner is the one that can represent most of the time this symbol.
But what happens when from different reasons that person disappear from your life?
That person can die, might be forced to move far away from you, or just cheat on you and continue the life with someone else. What is the path you should follow?!
How can you continue your life without an absolute symbol in your life?
Can you still feel safe and protected?
Most of the times we need to feel protected only emotionally.
For any other challenges we are ok, as long as we know we have someone in our life that we can count on in any kind of situation.
Life is sometimes strange to be understood, but even if we love that person a lot and see the presence as an absolute symbol, probably the meaning of life is to understand that you should have only 2 absolute values in your life .. the Universe ( Holly Spirit, Allah ...however you want to name the Absolute) ... and YOU.
Believing in you, in your powers is the right path to follow.
We can see as a blessing the presence of diffent persons that we love and respect a lot, but the first person you need to count on is you.
There is no need to look for absolute relationships cause your life script might be different than the ones that today are with you and tomorrow just follow a different direction than you.
Adrian G Dumitru
94
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
WAKE UP TO THE REAL WORLD
… WE JUST LIVE AN IMPOSIBLE LOVE STORY
Some people say that nothing is imposible, but somehow on the timeline of life, we loose the hope.
And we surrender to the conditions from the real life.
If one of the 2 partners thinks in terms of imposible, the reality becomes stronger.
But the funny thing is that we are in love of imposible things, cause imposible means ... fairy tale.
And some people just refuse to wake up to the real world, which is actually the inabilty to be an adult person.
Basiclly believing into fairy tales, we just act as children, refusing to do what reality says us to do.
This is called the Peter Pan syndrome.
It describes one's inability to believe that they are of an older age or to engage in behaviour usually associated with adulthood. This syndrome affects people who do not want or feel unable to grow up, people with the body of an adult but the mind of a child. They do not know how to or do not want to stop being children. The term comes from the fictional children's character Peter Pan, who never ages. While it is more commonly attributed to men, it can affect women as well.
The Peter Pan effect is also applied to the love stories, when the story itself is imposible into the real life.
One of partners is acting just as a child, wanting to continue the story forever, even if the facts from the reality clearly shows that the end had come.
So if you believe in fairy fales and you think that you just falled in love with Peter Pan, enjoy the story, but dont be so surprisez when reality knocks to your door, saying .... “WAKE UP!”.
Adrian G Dumitru
95
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
GO AWAY … BUT NOT FOREVER
I know so many persons that are practicing the blocking sport in the last time. Today they are into the love story, tomorrow they block each other on all the posible channels of communication.
But there is only one channel they cannot do anything about ... the soul.
The mind is saying ... “go away”, but the heart is coming after the mind leaves and says “... please, not forever”.
When you are in love with someone, you can not detele that person from your soul.
It s easy to detele the phone number, but the problem is that after closing your eyes .... that person will appear in front of you ... as a ghost.
We do silly mistakes, lots of compromises and the love is broken ... cause we dont know how to act on the stage of life.
We use the block button, cause we want to hide the truth ... and the truth hurts a lot ... cause we are in love.
You cannot hide the love ... it can be seen on your smile when you meet that person again.
The sport of blocking the love story, trying to go in autoprotective mode ... just to not be hurt again is silly.
Go in front of the mirror, look into your eyes and say the truth, but nothing but the truth ... and say it loud ... “I LOVE U .. my dear love”. Then the magic will happen.
Being honest with ourselves is the key.
Lying ourselves, trying to block someone that you know that somehow reappears every time on and on ... just till one day when you see you cannot fight with the force of love.
Adrian G Dumitru
96
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
ACRES OF DIAMONDS
I read once a book called “Acres of diamonds” by Russell Conwell ... a lovelly book that you should read one day.
The short story from the book is about a guy that had a farm but wanted to be very, very rich.
He was not satisfied with what he has and decides to go into the world, looking for diamonds.
In the end he dies far, far away ... and his desires of becoming very rich is not accomplished.
He dies with the dream inside of him ... but at least he tryed, cause he abandoned his farm, his familly ... his everything ... just to succed ... and he failed.
After his death, someone comes and buys the farm.
Accidentlly discovered at the river from the property a stone.
When the priest comes to his house and sees the little stone, realises that is not a simple stone, but a diamond.
The whole farm was full of diamonds and the guy became one of the richest guy in the world ... and this is the reason the book is called “Acres of diamonds”.
He bought the farm with very little money and found the dream of the last owner ... directlly on the property.
The story itself is funny and has a very powerful message.
Do you know someone that is looking for diamonds?!
Well ... we all do ... but the diamonds means happiness.
We are all looking for happiness and think that it will not happen today, but in the future ... it will never come from your spouse, but from someone else’s spouse. And we are spending our life searching and searching, but “the diamonds” are near us.
So many people are cheating, having love affairs ... but it s just a disease called love addiction ... and you could heal that at home ... cause maybe you have “the diamonds” but did not discovered them yet. Yes ... we are blinds.
We cannot see the obvious things and we spend a life searching for what we already have.
Adrian G Dumitru
97
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LOVE HURTS …
Yesss .... sometimes real love hurts a lot.
Real love stories are always complicated.
And if they are simple ... we think everything is boring and we do them complicated.
We want to be happy, but besides that ... we also want lots of other silly things. Our ego is full of desires and some of those desires are not in full harmony with the love itself.
For example, a beautiful lady is having a huge desire of admiration.
She just love when other men are looking and admiring her ... even if it s nothing for real between her and the person that admires her.
The lady is very intelligent and understand that her desire for adminiration is contradictory with the love story ... but her ego wants both things.
The lady is also wise enough as she presents everything as simple ... normal facts.
But what is the truth?!
Can all those desires coexists into our lives??
Can the lady be into a beautiful love story, but in the same time also want as others men to look and admire her?!
I mean ... everything is posible, but in the end what we thought is a love story ...
is just a simple relationship.
When we do things that hurt our partners, and most of the times we know it very, very well ... because we are not in the kindergarten ...we destroy the infinity between us.
Real love hurts a lot sometimes.
And when it hurts you just see that everything was just an illution and the love
story .... is not a love story.
But life goes on.
Without synchronicity between our desires, you just loose the game.
The Universe can send to you the best partner in the world, the best love story ...
but when you dont know to control your ego ... and let the desires define you ... this is when you change the status from love story to ... just another relationship. I gave you just a silly example with the beautiful lady, but the message i have is
Adrian G Dumitru
98
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE A philosophical view over love stories
quite simple and this is just that there are moments in life when we should only follow the heart and forget about our silly ego.
Dont change the status of your love story ... if you have one .... you wont easilly
find another love story ... i am a real one.
Adrian G Dumitru
99
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
SHE'S JUST A SILLY GIRL
...BUT SHE IS MY REFLECTION
Imagine that everything should be perfect.
Wouldn’t it be boring?!
I think this is the main philosophy, why many couples that are in love, instead of enjoying the love story ... they also have moments that they would kill each other for silly reasons.
If you listen to them, you would laugh at what they tell you about.
You could even ask them if are talking about a cartoon serial or is about a love story, but watching them ... you see that they are really serious.
They start saying .... she did this, he did this, she doesnt really care about me, i
think he loves me because of .. etc, etc, etc.
Great love story ... silly reasons why they fight, sometimes even dailly ... but all the time they end up again togheter, because the love itself is infinite.
We have complicated minds and we dont really understand what harmony means ... and most important ... what is the real meaning of love into our lives. Today we are happy, tomorrow we are not ... but when you look deep inside ... the love is there all the time ... for him ... but also for her.
When real love exists, you will never say i totally dislike this at her or him ...
cause you actually love everything at the person from the love story.
Being in love ... means seeing only the magic.
Telling ugly things about the partener ... is silly ... you know the power of love and you also know is useless to fight with that power. Just love ... and enjoy the love story.
Adrian G Dumitru
100
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
CAN REAL LOVE BE PROVEN
THROUGH REAL FACTS?
I think the human mind is quite attracted by the imposible things and situations. We are actually looking for magic, but when we see imposible things happening, we see the presence of magic in our life ... and this is when life can become, even for a short time, a fairy tale.
If we try to describe the real modern comtemporary man, we should see that he is trying to impress her with all his attributes: the way he dresses, the way he speaks, the way he acts, his car and all the other values he owns ... but everything is just to make him appear as the perfect partner. But can be love associated with all those values?!
What if he tryes to impress her with all kinds of expensive presents?!
Will the woman feel the love?!
Will she feels that she is into a love story?!
One day a friend of mine from Philippines told me she is in love .... with her
husband.
I wanted to ask her in reply is she smokes marijuana, but before i should open my lips, she told me that she asked God for her husband. She saw everything as a present from Him.
I am curious for example if a beautiful girl, in love with a guy that is cashier to the grocery store, ask him one day ...”hey ... i was thinking ... you need to prove me that you really love me ... i want you to buy me a Lamborghini .... i know it
sounds imposible ... but if you really, really love me, i am sure you can find a way
to do that”.
What can he do?!
Well ... he could be lucky enough to win to the lottery.
But still, if this is not happening, he could go and steal a Lamborghini.
There are lots of tutorials over the internet that explains you how to steal a car.
Or ... if the guy is wise enough ... he can do .... nothing.
I also know a guy that cheated his wife a lot.
The wife found and she was really mad because of that.
Last time he cheated on her ... he was really in love with that woman.
When their love story ended, the guy bought a very, very expensive car to his wife, just to forgive him.
Adrian G Dumitru
101
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
You know what happened?
Well ... she falled in love with the car from her husband, but today she is in love indeed .. with another man.
So ... i think we act really silly on the stage of life and also that a real love story does not need proofs.
