One of the scariest thing in the world is living without knowing the real intention of someone with you. Especially if you dont know for sure if that person is really in love with you or not.
But how do you know when someone really loves you?!
How do you know that you can trust that person?!
There are moments in life when you need to learn how to connect to the person you are in love with.
There is no specific scenario you need to follow, but actually listen to your intuition is the main path you need to follow.
Intuition is the connection with divinity and it is the only way in how you can really know what is going on.
Being in a love story, being in love with a person you like a lot ... you should just play all in if you feel really connected together.
Asking yourself all kinds of silly questions ... overthinking at all kinds of scenarios is useless.
Yes ... intuition is the way in how you get the informations from God, but also love is a way of connection with another person and let the divinity come to you. When you are in a real love story, you just feel it ... there is nothing you need to ask about.
You could give your life for that person without hesitating.
100 questions ... or 1000 ... will not clarify anything at all, if you actually dont feel inside of your soul, the heart of your partner.
Love is about connecting ... and feel the joy of being togheter.
Dont be afraid of the person you are in love with. Is the last person in the world that you should be scared of.
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LOST … BUT FOUND
… BY ANOTHER WOMAN
I know a guy, kind of successful businessman, married ... with children ... actually
the kind of person that had everything ... but realised after 20 years of work, that
he actually had nothing at all.
He was feeling lost.
Same many, many people in the world are waking up in the morning with this feeling inside of them ... and a huge gap appears in there. Both men and women.
One day ... the guy is contacted by a beautiful lady, also married.
They start chatting ... and then a love affair began.
It was a real love story .... but an illicit one.
After years of being lost, a beautiful soul found him and he was quite happy. It was not a moral thing what he was doing, but he felt his soul was healing. Time is passing and the love story goes on for a long, long time, till one day when they realised that they were on the way to nowhere.
The relationship was only an addiction and they wanted more and more.
They could not see each other so often and 95% of the time spent togheter was
on chat, not even on the phone.
It was what is called an illusion.
Looked like a fairy tale, but it was just a story that ended as a desillusion.
After so many plans they had togheter, they failed in everything.
The guy thought it was a miracle, that he was lost but found and cured by this lady ... as in the end to realise that everything was just in his imagination. He came back to the familly and restarted everything. The beautiful lady was doing the same thing.
When you feel so many months and even years in a row ... lost on your way through life, you even understand quite easy the expression “the pathless path”. You think you cannot do anything about it, but any way appears in your life ... might look like a new chance to heal your soul.
But the real path you should follow is the path that goes to you, cause the way to nowhere always end up to your soul.
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Dont bother to find the cure somewhere else, or live with the feeling that another soul can heal you.
Discover yourself, find the meaning of your life and enjoy it just in the place and in the moment you are now.
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LOVE OR LUST?!
When it comes to a friend, involved into a relationship, we can see from a mile if it s about love or lust.
The truth is that sometimes all we see is physical attractiveness and we actually want a person only into a sexual way.
We think about that person everyday, we have a connection, but is not love. Real love is when you want a person in all the posible ways, even if that also means sexual desire.
We care about that person, we want to spend time togheter and cant wait to meet again.
Lust can be part of the love story, but lust is not enough so that you can have a great relationship.
The full connection with a person it come when you actually want everything involves that person.
Chatting togheter is also very important.
An example can be 2 persons involved into a relationship that is only about sex, but they speak togheter the whole night, if they want to enjoy the night as a sex meeting, and they can discuss all kinds of difficult subjects that they usually dont speak with other persons.
In a real love story, you can stay for hours into a coffee shop and chat about
anything posible and before you need to leave you realise that you actually did
not finished the conversation.
Love is about feelings.
Lust can make you feel alive, but only in the moment you meet togheter, but real love can make you fly.
The physical attractiveness is very important, but it cant be everything into a story.
You cannot start a real relationship togheter if this is the only way you feel attracted.
A real love story can give you happiness and will be a pleasure to be togheter all the time.
A man and a woman can have even the pleasure of chatting with each other for
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hours, but that doenst mean they can have a great long term relationship togheter.
Bottom line we are talking about a love story when it s about everything a relationship involves.
If you only like travel togheter it s ok.
If you enjoy sex togheter is ok.
If you like speaking for hours is ok.
But the love story is about everything.
The presence itself of that person into your life ... is the magic.
Learn to define your story and you will understand better where you are and what is it about.
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CRAZY ABOUT YOU
We play quite silly on the stage of life, when we are into a love story.
We are sometimes too prouds to admit that we are in love ... of that magic person.
Maybe we are just afraid about the truth ... cause yesss ... it is risky to be in love ... you could become a broken soul.
But is it really risky to let your love feelings control you?! Is it risky to admit you are in love of someone ... that you are really crazy about that person?!
Well ... i am sure you also know, that the feeling of being in love can make you be also happy, not only unhappy.
So ... dare to be in love and enjoy the story.
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THE END AGAIN
… THE STORY OF BLOCKING
Well ... even living a love story, not a simple relationship ... problems can appear.
And they keep appearing on and on.
The ego is more powerful as the love story itself.
We want to dominate the partner, instead of just love the partner.
It s amazing that is more important to control the story ... than to enjoy the story.
The selfishness is more important as the power of love.
The Ego is not letting us see the meaning of a love story for us ... and every time we totally dislike that the things dont go in the way we want them to go, as we planned ... sometimes not even disscussing with the partner ... we start to use the block buttons.
It probably takes nowadays 30 minutes to block someone on all channels: email, facebook, instagram, whatsapp etc etc.
I used to do the same, till i realised is useless.
I block one time a person about 30 times. In the end i received notification from Revolut that i received 1 cent from that person. I could not believe it.
I entered inside Revolut and at the transfer details ... i saw the message.
I was laughing.
I mean, a person that needs to stay in your life ... you can block, delete and even get a restriction order against .... but nothing will happen.
The presence of some persons ... especially of the loved ones ... has a symbolistic behind.
Dont bother to block anyone from your life.
Let them play on the stage ... and if it s about a love story ... just enjoy it. Let the kids from kindergarten play this game even if in 80’s or 90’s when you was a kid, there was no “block” button. Just use the “love” button now.
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A LOVE STORY … THE THERAPY
THAT HELPS YOU WAKE UP WITH JOY
Lonely people, even the non romantic ones are looking for relationships.
We dislike to be alone.
We are designed by God to stay jn communities and with a life partner besides. Being lonely means to stay only with you, but we dont find inside of us the energy that can make us wake up with joy in the morning. Only a monk can survive being alone.
But you know why?!
Cause a monk has the Divinity inside of him.
He doesnt need anything else.
But ... we are looking for a clone of God to stay besides us and asume that will make us happy.
There are lots of ways to meet a new person that can become a life partner and all of them works if you just know how you connect with that person. Nowadays also lots people are using dating apps. I made a test to see if this theory is true.
Created a fake account on Tinder and searched in my area.
I even had a perfect match, with a person i know, but it was not my case ... as i am married and she is an old friend.
Dating apps help a lot and inter connection with new people to date with is huge. But nobody tells those people that they should look for a soul mate ... for a love story .. not just for a relationship.
What can the difference between be defined?!
Well ... quit easy: romantic relationships can be viewed as voluntary relationships between individuals who have intentions that each person will be a significant part of their ongoing lives ... but a love story means living a dream with the person you fall in love with.
We should ask for a love story and not just to have someone in our life.
The truth behind the truth with the dating apps is even worst ... is not that is a very small chance so that you will find a love story, but in the end you can only find a sexual relationship.
And that is happening all around the world.
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We just dont know to define what can make us happy.
Ask to the Universe a person that can make you wake up with joy, and that will probably be a love story.
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GOOD BYE ...BUT NOT FOREVER
Sometimes we need to say good bye to some of the people from our lives.
And it s unbelievable how difficult it to do it.
We know it very well ... but we delay... we will do it tomorrow, or sometimes in the near future.
Being in a love story and being forced to do this by all the circumstances, will ruin your soul.
But the truth is that your soul was ruined anyway ... you just need to be brave enough and declare your sentimental bankrupcy.
The Universe sends us sometimes ... amazing stories, but you just need to pay a price at the right time to continue the story.
Being silly ... we just enjoy the story and do nothing as the love to continue forever.
You know ... we live in a real world and some things must be arranged in the real life, but we totally ignore that.
And the end is coming one day, knocks on the door, smiles to you and says: “Hey ... i just came. I will only stay for a second. Just wanted you to know that this is the end of the story.”
But ... you cant believe this is true.
You will be forced to say “Good bye!” ... but you do not surrender.
Just dont want to say it ... “Good bye, forever!”.
In life everything has a start, a story and then an end ... even the life itself ... but can accept that.
Bur life is beatiful, even if you are not happy today ... and it will go on ... but with other stories.
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DON'T EVEN BOTHER TO CONTROL THE
LOVE FEELINGS … IS USELESS
It says that the most difficult thing in the world is to control our minds ... not the other people, but ourselves.
Falling in love is the most wonderful thing it can happen to you.
The funny part is that you will loose the control of everything happens around you.
We use to control our daily lives, from managing the things we do at work, the ones we do at home and many other stuff .... and one day this desire of managing and controlling everything just disappear.
You become focused only on the person you falled in love with.
You will not see something else, but only that beautiful soul.
You will start to be changed ... you will smile all the time ... you will be happy. And if you fall in love with a person that will like and also love you ... then you are living a love story.
Falling in love ... is the time when your life is controlled by your deepest feelings. A falling in love time can ruin you, but it can also make you feel that you are the happiest person from the plannet.
You will be able to make the craziest things you ever did in your life.
The feelings dominate you ... everything means you .... your soul, your mind,
your life ... just everything.
Later on ... this will pass ... you start controlling the love itself and you just love, care, think at that person (but not all the time as you used to do).
If you are lucky you will have a well managed love story and if not a regular relationship with a person that will love and respect you.
But the highest level, when you can feel deepest the love story ... remains the time when you are falled in love.
Can you remain falled in love forever?!
