A philosophical view over love stories
NO PLANS
“Yes
No plans
Just love”
We have so many plans, so many to do lists with lots of things we should do daily and monthly and yearly ... but let me see your list please! ... is there written somewhere:
“TODAY I WILL LOVE!”?!
I am sure you will answear to me that you are too busy for that.
Time is passing ... not only days .... but months and years in a row ... and we
forget to love and let others love us.
Because we have plans ... but what you miss most is an essential clue to who you are.
To paraphrase Anton Chekhov and/or The Spice Girls: Tell me what you miss, and I’ll tell you who you are.
In that day when, even if you are extremely busy, you feel that something very important is missing from your life ... that is a day of awakening.
That is going to be the day when you will forget about your to do lists and see what you missed all those years ... the love.
You need to understand that love has no purpose ... but we are too blinds to realise that.
If we should listen for a moment to the soul inside us that tryed for years to whisper us ... that to survive we just need love and air ... nothing more.
Try for a week ... or if you dare ... for a month ... just to taste the love story with no plans at all.
Dare to be alive, cause life is short ... even if you have this illusion that you have all the time in the world.
Adrian G Dumitru
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A philosophical view over love stories
THE LOVE STORY FROM YOUR MIND?!
A wise man once said: “The best medicine in the world is ... love”.
His friend ... a regular guy, with a dogmatic thinking ... replyed to him: “But what if it doesn’t work?!”
And the wise man said: “You just take an extra dose”.
We have this idea of the love stories in our minds.
When we were children we received love from our parents, then we grew up and we expected as love to come from our partners.
But we dont want a simple story ... we want a love story.
Love is probably the only cure for our souls.
One day you ask yourself what if everything happens in your life is just a projection ... and the love story itself is just a story from your mind and not a real one?!
How do you make the difference?!
How do you see that you don’t lie yourself?!
I mean the life itself is defined by the greatest philosophers from the world as an illusion.
Even the Bible says that.
Not understanding if you live an illusion or a real story ... only your soul can give you the answear.
Even if you dont meet so often that person, even if the story itself is not consumed in the real life so much ... for different reasons ... but the connection between the 2 of you is a huge one ... then it is a love story.
If that person is really loving you ... if that person can really makes you feel alive and also happy in the same time ... the story is a real love story.
Everything around us can be defined as illusions ... but in the end, we could say you just live a wonderful story.
Adrian G Dumitru
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A philosophical view over love stories
TRUST THE VIBES
The vibe is a person's emotional state or the atmosphere of a place as communicated to and felt by others.
How can we apply this principle into a love story?!
How do you see if is just a relationship or a real love story?!
Yes ... we dream about love stories, but is difficult to see the difference. Just being involved into a relationship doens’t mean anything at all ...and certainly it doesn’t mean you will be happy.
A real love story ... a fairy tale ... will be the event from your life that will give you wonderful vibes.
You will see raining in the autumn and you will just love it ... you will even think how it should be .... dancing outside in the rain with your love.
You will see snowing outside and you will also see yourself and your partner, drinking a glass of hot wine and watch the window the beauty of nature.
And in everything you will see in your life, you will also see as a way of enjoying life with your partner.
Trusting the love vibes .... lets you enjoy the present moment into the love story.
Life is most of the time boring ... but love, with the vibes that comes ... makes it beautiful.
Adrian G Dumitru
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A philosophical view over love stories
THAT'S LIFE! YOU JUST NEED
TO FORGET ABOUT “US”
The frech are saying “C’est la vie!” and the british “That’s life!”.
It is said after something bad or unlucky has happened, to express your feeling that such events will sometimes happen and have to be accepted.
But in the end we need to accept reality with everything that happens ... good or bad.
There is a theory that says that nothing is good or bad and everything just happens for a reason, difficult to be understood at that moment.
You could have a problem with your car, the engine couldnt start and you start being very unhappy because of that, but maybe you could have a car accident into that day, just after leaving your home.
Maybe the Universe just saved you, but all day long you think that you had a terrible day.
But how it really was: a good or a bad day?!
You see is difficult to understand the answear at the moment it happens.
The Universe just doesn’t tell us the whole story.
We speak a lot about love .... when we are in love or we just broke up.
Otherwise, most probably we will speak about money, football, cooking and many
other stuff ... but not love.
Maybe sex ... but love ... nooo.
Yes ... one day your love partner can say to you that you just need to forget
about the concept of “us”.
What you do?!
Well ... so many people in the world are just being hurt when they hear that ...
but you should remember that everything happens for a reason.
It difficult to see it today and probably the wisest thing you could just say is “C’est la vie!”.
The Universe will not bother to tell you what is really going on, but maybe something better is waiting you in the future or ... that relationship was not the path you needed to follow.
Dont be said ... trust the Universe ... knows better what is the best scenario for your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
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A philosophical view over love stories
YOU CARRY YOUR SOUL IN VAIN
We have a soul ... even a beautiful one, but dont know how to show it to the world.
We carry the soul with us, but everything is in vain.
One day ... our soul is falling in love ... with another beautiful soul ... and the magic happens.
We understand, that deep inside us, is something ... that we cannot be defined.
We knew something was in there ... but did not knew what and why.
Then the soul starts being dominated by the strong feelings that come with the love story.
Again ... we ask ourselves and have no idea what is going on.
We are on the stage of life, but we act silly ... we try to improvise ... but still ...we dont even understand what is really going on.
Life should be easier, if everything should be just mechanic ... math ... with certain rules ... but pfff ... the soul has no rule.
It s quite difficult to really see what a soul means and what to do with it.
And we go on ... carring a soul in vain.
Adrian G Dumitru
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A philosophical view over love stories
ARE U AFRAID OF A NEW BEGINNING?!
We all want to be happy, but we do nothing about that.
We just dream ... but why we are afraid of ... being happy?!
The first condition of being happy .... well ... is just to open your heart.
The way in how you learn how to open your heart is when you fall in love. Falling in love means loosing the control and letting the feelings dominate you. There is nothing you can do about that ... cause love itself is much stronger than the way you think.
So ... the question is are you afraid of being happy?!
But ... if today you are not happy in the actual point from your timeline ... why are you afraid of a new start?!
That could mean the restart of your life.
You define where you are ... and then redefine everything ... even a new start. An old lady ... a very wise person ... asked me today this question: are you afraid of a new beginning?!
The emotion i felt in that moment ... was like i was interogated by an FBI agent ... about my private life.
But i was hesitating ... i could not answear.
I knew the answear.
Yes ... i was afraid of a new start ... because i am afraid of being happy ... and also be a person with an opened heart.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
PRETENDING WE ARE HAPPY IN A STORY … INSTEAD OF BEING HAPPY IN THE RIGHT STORY
Years ago the parents decided for their children whom to marry with.
Lots of dramas happened for thousands of years.
But the society changed, and now the young people can decide for themselves which is the path they need to follow in life in everything involves that.
But still ... unhappiness inside of the marriage is one the main diseases of our century.
Something happened and even that we are the ones that decide whom to marry with ... we just end up being unhappy togheter.
Well ... truth be told, we did not read books about how to have a happy marriage togheter.
In school, we read books about geography, biology, history and many, many others bla, bla, bla ... but not about how to manage our relationships ... especially with the ones we love.
But we dont like to see that we failed and we avoid for years to admit the truth.
We even try to continue, believing in the quote “Fake it, till you make it”.
Just saw in the morning a picture with 2 close friends that pretend they have a beautiful marriage togheter.
I know him pretty well, but am also a close friend with her.
For the ones that dont know them, i think the picture looked quite real ... they looked like they are in love, but the truth is that they are in love of someone else. They have businesses, children and many other things togheter.
They cannot divorce, or if they do it ... is not going to be an easy decision ... so they just continue pretending they are happy togheter.
So the question is why we are pretending that we are happy in a story ... instead of being happy in the right story?!
We are not in a relationship from 1000 and not even 100 years ago, when someone else decided for us in which love story to live our lives.
We are the ones that decided everything on the story we followed in life ... but are never satisfied of what is going on with our lives.
Maybe is just the right time to wake up and decide that you will spoil your life pretending you are happy ... or you will be happy for real.
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A philosophical view over love stories
LOVE POETRY IS THE ABSTRACT
THINKING OF YOUR HEART
You love poetry?!
You love ... love poems?!
Well .. it means something is happening with you.
And when i say you .... i mean your soul.
I used to hate poetry and especially the love poem ... till one night when i read a book with love poems ... twice.
I couldn’t sleep and i really did that with pleasure.
The book was written by a close friend.
I just loved it .. and then i wondered why?!
What happened to me?! Why suddenly something i totally disliked ... now was a real pleasure to do.
That was the moment when i felt that i changed ... a lot.
I decided some time ago as love to come into my life and now i saw everything differently.
We are searching for love all the time ... we imagine even the very small details about the love story itself and the person we feel in love with. And one day it just happens.
Are we ready for that?! Is there any kind of training we should do about?! Hell ... nooo.
Everything we need to do is just let everything go ... open the heart and love, but also let your partner love you.
Love has sometimes nothing to do with the way you see the normal dogmatic world.
You will probably dont even understand what is going on in the beginning, but just let the love feelings guide you.
And yessss ... love poetry is the anstract thinking of your heart.
Express it ... even if you are not talented as a poet ... just act with your open heart into the love story.
Adrian G Dumitru
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A philosophical view over love stories
WHY WE WANT SOMETHING
AND WE DO SOMETHING ELSE
Why we want something and we do something else
We have so many plans and so many dreams when we are in love with the one that we consider is the love of our life.
We see each other a lifetime togheter and no reason in the world could stop us. Little by little, we do small mistakes, day by day new ones, biggers ones ... we pretend to not see them ... and one day the truth is coming to our face ... and is saying: “Hi! We have something to talk about!”.
We are in a love story, we should act in a certain way, but we do the opposite. The feeling of love is so strong, that we dont understand what is really going on ... if we really, really want to be in that story or not.
Is not story that scares you, but the love you feel inside of you.
You like being in the story, but dont understand why you changed so much and why you still need to make so many new changes.
You start a new life togheter with your partner and the new path is neither your path or the partner’s path, but yours as a couple. But one day, you see yourself scared again.
You are in love, you have honest feelings for that person, but instead of acting as a person falled in love, you just act as an idiot. Yes ... you are afraid of love.
As a person involved into a love story, you should do something, but you do the opposite.
It s strange to understand your actions and the person you are in love with is feeling really hurted.
The story even goes to an end.
Seeing that is time to wake you and you are in front of the moment that you need to decide if you continue the story or not ... it is a very important moment from your life, when you actually just need to open your heart and love, but also receive love in your soul.
Maybe you never did this before, but in the end you should try it ... cause life is about love.
And a love story can teach you this lesson.
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A philosophical view over love stories
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