The whole meaning was to be happy togheter in a lovely story.
The memories are in your heart and overwhelm you.
And for a second you think ... “Let’s do it one more time!”.
But all doors are closed now, the story ended and the life continued in a another direction.
Now, the real regret ... is that you lost the story of your life.
Yes ... life is about taking advantage of different opportunities.
What you have to do?!
Almost nothing difficult ... just to connect to the moment and enjoy it!
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
IF I WOULD HAVE 2 HEARTS, I'D
LOVE AS ONE OF THEM TO THINK
We think we can control every event or situation from our life.
We feel powerful, with lots of life experience behind.
And one day ... suddenly ... a beautiful soul, an innocent smile ... turns your life around.
You enter into a story ... and you can’t understand why you feel ... what you feel. Your heart is loosing control, overwhelmed with emotions that you don’t thought that can exist.
You wonder if it’s real or you just lost your minds.
After a whole life, ruled by your mind, a life with emotions that were delete from the early stage, you feel how you loose control of the whole situation. But you somehow dislike, but also love it.
You feel happiness and joy.
You feel your heart ... in the moment when your soul connects with that person, that becomes the love of your life.
So ... is it good or bad to loose control?!
Well ... most probably you should want as in the whole process to be involved 2 hearts, one that loves and one that thinks.
At least things should not run out of your control.
You are not used to live as that ... but in the moment when you realise that you are actually not used to be happy ... you prefer to stay in the story and take the risks.
What is the worst it can happen?!
Loose your heart?!
Loose your mind?!
Don’t care if the soul is happy!
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
SILLY THINGS DESTROY GREAT STORIES
Somehow, one day ... it just happen.
We meet that person ... and we fall in love.
We become ... blinds.
We only see love, love and nothing more.
But we love it ... it’s beautiful living a love story.
We start to forget about real life ... of everything around us.
The feelings are so intense, that you can’t believe you are in this story.
You enjoy it, smile and dream to be a no ending story.
But one day ... just like that ... you loose your interest ... and somehow you can’t really see why.
You had lots of expectations as things to happen into a certain way ... but the characters from the story did not followed the script.
But what you do not realise that except talking by your love with the partner ...
you never payed attention to any detail from the real life.
Love was so powerful ...
You then see disappointment inside your soul and want to leave the story.
You lost interest ... but you actually feel lost again ... and lonely.
Hurt by your own expectations, just because you did not talked with her for 30 minutes ... to define what you want, how you see life and where you want to be togheter into reality.
You are sad, cause she did not read your thoughts ... but she was busy, just like you, enjoying the love story.
Yes ... silly things destroy great stories.
Learn to define and don’t be so blind, even if love is so powerful!
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
A USELESS PSEUDO DRAMATIC
WAY OF WASTING YOUR LIFE
A useless pseudo dramatic way of wasting your life
We have a huge disability of adapting ourselves in beautiful stories ... even when it comes to love stories.
Our overthinking is directed all the time in ugly scenarios.
We should also expect as good things to happen, but somehow we don’t do it. Even when everything runs perfect, we think that maybe it’s too good to be true ... and most probably something bad will going to happen soon. Overthinking at worst case scenarios is a disease, but at least we should admit it is part of our behavior.
How can you live into the opposite side ... and have a different behavior?! First of all, you need to learn how to let your partner love you.
If it’s a real love story ... real, real love ... you must just enjoy it.
Most probably someone that loves you, will never hurt you ... and even if that person does it, that’s not done in purpose.
If you feel beloved ... dare to enjoy the feeling and forget about any negative scenario.
If something bad has to happen, it will hapen anyway ... but is not happening in this moment.
This is the time to enjoy the love story, not to live with fear inside the story ... the fear that it will end.
One of the meanings of a love relationship is to learn to live without negative emotions.
Love is a very powerful protection.
Love is everything.
The cliche that “love hurts” is just a silly idea.
If you really love someone and also feel beloved ... you should forget about the idiotic feeling of fear.
Real love can make you fearless.
Dare to feel beloved!
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
THE STORY WITH THE IDIOT AND HIS EGO
“Hey Idiot!
I love you!”
One day, a guy with a huge ego ... receives this sms, from a number he doesn’t know.
Of course ... he knows were from the message is, even if he does not had the number in his iphone.
He actually deleted the number one day before.
Who could name him “idiot” and also tell him “i love you” ... except that magic smile ... that drives him crazy all the time?!
But we need to be honest ... she also made him happy so, so many times.
Is like living an illusion ... today is happiness and the day after .. the opposite is coming.
But what should be life ... without illusions?!
Most probably a boring way of surviving ... while staying on this planet.
And the guy, with a huge ego, is reading again the message ... even few times.
For a moment he could not decide if he should focus on “idiot” ... or “i love you!”.
He is too proud to see only “i love you!”.
But how was that girl ... when she admited she loves him?!
Was she also proud?!
Had she a huge ego also?!
So i wonder if “idiot” + “proud” = “i love you!”.
Do you think also the guy loves her?!
Well ... let me tell you the whole story.
He first blocked her and them he saw that she doesn’t call or sms him.
Then, as any proud person, he deleted her number, so that he will not be tempted so that he will call or sms her.
So the “idiot” ... receives in the end the message ... but he is so “idiot” ... that he only sees the word “idiot” ... and he does not see that she loves him.
Being proud ... having a huge ego ... well ... maybe you should forget about love stories.
It’s just not something for you.
Maybe you should become a politician, even a successful one.
And by the way ... you are an idiot.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
TELL ME … WHERE IS YOUR LAIR?!
We all have specific places where we feel safe and relaxed.
Usually your home is one of those places.
But there are many, many people that can’t feel comfortable not even at home ...
and that is an ugly scenario.
Being in that position, you realise that a change needs to be done ... as quickly as posible.
You can’t see what and don’t understand clearly why ... you just feel unlucky. But then ... you realise that you actually have an idea cause you heard about the concept of lair for your soul.
That can be ... vacations all over the world, going to fishing, riding the bicycle into the woods or staying in a hidden place with a beautiful soul ... and just enjoy the life togheter.
The lair itself ... the perfect lair ... can even be the soul of that person.
You feel safe and beloved in there.
But is it wise to live like that?!
Well ... the life is the way it is ... and also the world is the way it is ... but the script with the lair is fantastic ... cause we all need a parallel world where everything is perfect and we are the main character from the scene. The lair can give you the confidence that a perfect world can exist.
It might look like a fantasy, but is a fantasy that youl feel for real.
In there you get the fuel for your soul ... and once you jump again into the real world, you are ready for anything can happen.
The lair is a trick ... a lovely one, especially if we are talking about a story between a man and a woman.
So ... define the lair ... and enjoy the fantasy.
Dare to do it!
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
THERE IS NO ANSWEAR INTO THE LIBRARY.
ALL ANSWEAR ARE INTO YOUR SOUL.
There are lots of people that are looking for the meaning of life into the library. They read hundreds of books for years ... maybe thousands and in the end they see that they did not understood a thing and even worst ... they see themselves running on the path to nowhere.
No meaning, no pleasure ... no beauty.
They don’t feel alive.
Life in the library can’t give you the vibe you are looking.
But, somehow, things change over night, and after the library era, a beautiful soul smiles you .
The first reaction you see is that you totally forget about books and library.
You start enjoying being on the scene of life.
The story with the smile of the beautiful soul ...makes you alive.
You look inside you ... and you see joy and happiness.
That was not something you could find in all the books you had read over the years.
You enjoy the story.
Falling in love is beautiful.
You see your emotions and can’t believe you missed all those things by this age. The books from the library helped you understand the world ... but the love story helps you feel the world ... and the fact that you are not a zombie, but a real soul ... and even one that can experience fantastic feelings.
It’s ok to study and meditate of the meaning of your presence in here, as a soul ... but probably experience life is the ideal path.
The love stories are a way of jumping to the top of most intense emotions you could ever see inside your soul.
So ... study ... but experience also.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LOVE OR MONEY?!
WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST?!
There is an old saying ... “Love cannot pay the bills”, but on the other hand without love we are just empty souls ... cause love is everything.
For hundreds of years, or maybe thousands, money were very important when it came to marriage.
Between an ugly but rich guy and a nice but poor one ... the first one always was more important and usually the choosen one.
Usually the parents decided that and then the girl had to get marry and live unhappy for the whole life, just because the richer guy was presenting a secure way of living.
And this was happening for centuries and between love and money ... they decided all the time that money are more important.
Well ... things changed cause nowadays ... just as a joke ... the girl decides by herself to get marry with a rich guy.
The man has to be a succesful one if he wants to present interest for the girls.
But you must not worry ... men are looking for rich women also.
So ... i wonder myself what has changed in thousands of years?!
Before parents decided for us whom to get marry with ... and now we decide for us that money are more important.
I wonder if The National Institute of Statistics would make a research study to give us the answear if money or love is more important today.
And i am also curious if a woman married with a businessman would divorce for a cashier from the grocery store.
Yes ... money are important ... no matter what we say ... cause love cannot pay the bills, but on the other hand i think everybody knows that without a real connection with that person from your life, most probably you will end up living a boring and unhappy life.
So probably a happy life means ... lots of love, but also with some extra cash in the bank.
We need to be honest and clearly define reality.
And you could have anything in the world ... but without a great connection everything is useless ... so even the guy from the grocery store is an ok partner if
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
you love him ... and you are the one with some extra cash.
I wrote the essay smiling, but i think the secret in life is just to have a little bit of everything you want.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
THE MEANING OF ABSTRACT
INTO A LOVE STORY
We are afraid of love.
It’s not that love is not a beautiful experience, but the end usually hurts.
Is like going to the casino ... you go, you play ... you can win ... but also you can loose everything you have.
The problem in a love story, is that everything means ... that you can loose your mind and soul.
But does it worth it?!
Well ... if should be honest enough i think we can just admit that unhappiness is the number one disease of the century.
It was also 200 years ago and maybe 1000 years ago, but people at that time did not had the courage to admit it.
You know, it’s like being in a prison ... you could try to escape ... but on the other hand who knows for how more time you will remain a prisoner if you don’t try to escape.
Staying unhappy is not a choice.
Staying unhappy is just a way of don’t having the courage to be happy.
The moderm human being has many challenges during the life time and one of them is the love story test.
But we are afraid of love, cause we don’t want to be hurt.
And we accept the story, but in an abstract way.
I mean ... is like saying “i want her / i dont want her”.
Today you are saying something and tomorrow you just say the opposite.
But everything is because of the fear from inside your soul.
The abstract way of playing the role into the love story, will let the partner connect to your soul, but will also bring disappointment into the relationship you have.
The abstract is never easy to be understood.
It needs infinite love and infinite understanding on the other side, so that the story should go on.
Once the infinite connection between the 2 of them can happen ... probably ...this can heal the silly abstract way of loving.
