Well ... if you have the courage to let yourself be dominated by your feelings ...
yes ... but that is going to be a huge risk.
Couples as these exists.
I met once, 20 years ago ... a gentelman of 75 and a lady of 72. They had 50 years of pure love togheter.
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I saw in their eyes ... the true happiness.
Yesss ... falling in love is risky, but wait to see how miserable life is ... without the presence of love.
Dare to loose the control on you ... into the love story.
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
YOU LOVE THE STORY?!
… JUST PAY THE PRICE AND GO
You want to look good?!
Go to the gym and dont eat too much.
You want to travel?!
Save money and travel into the world.
You want to become a wise person?!
Read books, go to the seminars, spend time meditating.
For any story you dream about ... you just need to pay a price.
What about the perfect love story?!
Well ... first of all you need to be lucky enough to find that perfect partner you dream about.
Then you will need to pay attention to all the details a love story involves.
Love is not only to be loved.
You need to be caring, unconditional, want to grow as couple, never giving up on each other, be able to sacrifice, to have compassion and affection.
You also need to forget about vanity, selfishness, amour-propre, and egotism.
Loving it s a real art.
You will just adore the moments spent togheter.
But the biggest challange is that you will just need to focus on you as a couple, not on you as an individual.
Do the things you love to do ... both of you ... but also give your life and soul for the person you love.
So bottom line to live the story you love ... just pay the price and then enjoy it.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
A STORY ABOUT KARMA
TRYING TO REDEFINE THE MARRIAGE
Years ago i met a guy that i was speaking with 2-3 times a year. We became friends and talked about lots of things when we were chating.
He was working in an important bank, as an it engineer, but also as a hobby he was an astronomy teacher.
His wife had also a very successful career.
They had a nice marriage and were travelling all around the world togheter.
They even went to the North Pole.
They looked very happy.
I was very busy at that time, but over the years, everytime i was meeting him, he was all the time in the presence of young students girls. They were studying astronomy togheter.
He looked quite happy all the time, but i start noticing one strange thing ... he was not telling me about his wife anymore ... and he used to talk a lot.
Now he was talking only about antronomy, telescopes and the young women from his classes.
I was not meeting him often, so somehow i was only seeing the whole picture, but not the small details from his life.
After a year, i met him again and somehow i disliked not seeing him happy as i used to see him.
He explained me that he divorced by already few months ... that it was his fault, but he loved staying near his young students girls.
He was just closing a phone conversation with his ex wife and was very disappointed.
He asked her to restart their ex marriage, but she was on the way to a resort with another man.
She agreed with him to restart for them, but also for their son ... but not in that day .... cause she wanted to enjoy the trip with the new man from his life.
She just asked a delay by 2-3 days, because in the end she just wanted to enjoy life one more time.
She didnt this into the past, as he did many, many times .... but he disliked
seeing ... actually his actions into a mirror ... cause life itself is a mirror. Somehow this is how karma work ... garbage in, garbage out ... or what you offer
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
to others this is what the Universe sends you back.
Well friends ... you just need to learn when it comes about love ... to also “miss” some opportunities and keep one certain path.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LOVE AND THE DANCE
OF OUR EMOTIONS
Yesterday you had been happy, today you are not ... and you cant even define the love story as a good or bad thing into your life.
Maybe keeping an excel sheet with daily reports about what happened and defining each day as a good, bad or excelent one, will help you understand better where you are.
But love is not math.
I mean your partner can drive you crazy for many days in a row, can hurt you a lot, can even betrayal or cheat on you ... but if the connection between you and that person is huge ... and you can feel the infinite near that person ... you will see yourself acting as a silly person, going back again each time in the arms of the loved one.
Yes ... you are not acting logically ... in fact you act very stupidlly ... but the huge desire to love and to be loved will not let you run away from an illogical situation. Being in love is not always living a fairy tale.
Today you feel happy, tomorrow angry ... then you cry again feeling disappointed ... and just seeing the smile of that person, for reasons difficult to understand, will make you again happy.
Even meeting that person for 2 minutes will make you happy ... or drive you crazy.
Being in love is a dance of contradictory emotions ... but this are the rules of the game ... if you want to be happy, you risk as tomorrow to be unhappy also. And indeed ... falling in love is easy, staying in love is difficult.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
UNLOCK THE ONE YOU LOVE AND LIVE
Our emotions make us smile, be happy or feel broken deep inside us.
All the real love stories from the world, from all the books even wroten by now, are defined by the word “imposible”.
It always appears a reason why the story cannot be transcened beyound the fairy tale and be part of the real world.
Stories written hundreds of years ago with the princess, prisoner into the tower of a huge palace ... are still present even into the modern world.
Now the princess is not having the official title of a princess, but we name her a lady ... is not having a palace, but a very beautiful house ... maybe and expensive car, very expensive clothes and everything a woman can have ... but 2 pieces are missing from the puzzle: the prince and the love story.
At 20 we start our lives having the concept of a happy life as: a beautiful house, an expensive car, money in the bank account, and all kinds of other silly things ... but can those things really make us happy?!
Even personal development posts shows people with Lamborghini or yachts ... presenting that is the image of real success in life ... and you cant image how many likes those posts have.
But i wonder now, why depression is the number one disease of our century?! Now the level of life of the average human being is very high.
People accomplish most of their dreams in their life time, except the fact that
they never feel happy.
What can make us happy?!
Well ...the happiness is coming to us through love.
The problem is that no one ever told us this in school.
They teached us math, chemistry, biology and others stuff ... but no teacher told you that happiness can appear in your life through a love story.
Years are passing ... and you become a prince or a princess ... but unhappy as the prisoner in the tower of the palace ... cause her father, the king, wanted her to marry with someone she does not like.
Choosing to be in a love story ... even if the story itself can be defined as illicit ...
is just a choice .
Defining the choice ... is an act of choosing between two or more possibilities, but
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
one of the possibilities is to be happy.
So ... it s just a choice ... unlock the one you love and live.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
THE 2 PRISONERS
FROM THE CHAT ROOMS
I know 2 young people, very deep in love.
In fact they are not so young anymore, but the love addiction they have one for another, made them act as teenagers.
For some reasons they live an imposible love story and this is happening by already one year and a half.
They became very close friends also ... but somehow, living in 2 parallel universes
... let them have moments of infinite love, but also moments when they feel broken by the love itself ... with no real chance even to survive.
They start asking themselves if real love ... really exists into the real world, or the only chance to meet the absolute love is into an abstract way ... in a parallel universe ... just for even less than 1% of their time.
The rest, the defining of the love story ... and all the compliments that they had for each other ... were into the chat room.
Their love story was a mix of 1% of real love and 99% procents of virtual love. The connection between them was huge and this was the real thing that let them stll remain togheter.
The presence of technology , changed our lives a lot.
3o years ago, you had to write letters, go to the post office and them wait for few days for the answear.
Now you can brake up or even ask her to marry you on the chat room. But what is life invented for?!
I say “invented” to be connected at the word “technology” also.
The question is if it s ok to keep our love story 99% of our lives into the chat room?!
You ve got no idea how many people in the world live the love story on whatsapp, messanger etc etc.
Steve jobs was so proud of his inventions.
His presence into the scene of the technological world ... changed the world.
... but i still wonder why he did not let his children use technology ... and that’s a big why.
In the end i think the virtual world just steals from us the pleasure of living into the real world ... which is transcended only by living the present moment ... in
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
the real life.
We have a real inability to connect to the reality ... and the technology help us survive.
It s like you are in the hospital and you can breath only if they connect you to machines that can help you do this.
Disconnecting you will let you survive for only few moments.
Adrian G Dumitru
90
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
IS LOVE ENOUGH?!
We see life in a mathematical way.
We have plans and clear directions, but one day .... booom ... something
happens, you fall in love and everything starts looking like you re driving on the
highway to nowhere.
But why is that?!
Because falling in love cannot follow the mathematical way of seeing life.
It s a way of connecting to your soul ... so it s not a direction, but a connection.
In the real daily life you are too busy to spend your time connecting to our soul ...
finding that useless.
When it happens to fall in love, somethings hits you.... something similar with a
tsunami and without realising you start seeing you have very powerful feelings inside of you, for a person you just met.
It s incredible, and cant even understand what is going on, but somehow you start feeling that inside ... you have a soul.
You start forgetting about daily routines and most of the things you usually do ...
focusing only on the love story.
But is love enough?!
Can love solve everything?!
Yessss ...as long as makes you connect to your soul.
Love can redefine you ... and you can become a different person.
You will look different.
You will think different.
You will act different.
You will feel different the fact that you are alive.
So ... yesss .... love is enough.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
WHEN THE LOVE STORY GOES TO AN END, JUST KEEP THE MEMORIES AND GO ON. SEEING THE WHOLE PICTURE
Sometimes is just too complicated to see the whole picture into the present moment.
We are overwhelm of our emotions.
I saw the quote “Sometimes you dont get what you want, because you deserve better”, on an instagram page of a wonderful lady who was in love with a man that did not knew what he wanted.
He loved her a lot, but never saw the path as them to be togheter into the real life.
The lady was a very determined person and one day seeing the whole picture of their story, she decided just to say ... STOP.
It was enough, cause everything was looking as a pathless path.
But you know why?!
Because we have a dogmatic way of seeing life, we also look at the love stories and search for a final destination, but not a reason why it exists.
Sometimes the whole meaning is just to cure our broken souls ... and no other reason or destination at all.
But again ... is not easy to accept that.
Indeed, the both partners needs to want the same thing.
If they synchronize ... is perfect ... if not ... the story will only be a story with love and hate acts .... with no clear direction at all.
But in the end, if the end is coming, they should keep the good memories and see everything as a life experience.
You know there are people that falled in love for the first time at the kindergarten and were very disappointed when they graduated. Was their life finished in that moment?!
Hell no ... life was continuing.
That can happen at 10-20-30 or 40.
Maybe something else is expecting you in life and this was just a chapter ... just to prepare you for something better, that will come into the future.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
YESTERDAY I LOVED HER A LOT
“Yesterday i loved her a lot.
Today i just hate her ... but cant see why.
Why the love story does not continue?!”
Overthinking is so usual into a love story.
yes ... but that is going to be a huge risk.
Couples as these exists.
I met once, 20 years ago ... a gentelman of 75 and a lady of 72. They had 50 years of pure love togheter.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
I saw in their eyes ... the true happiness.
Yesss ... falling in love is risky, but wait to see how miserable life is ... without the presence of love.
Dare to loose the control on you ... into the love story.
Adrian G Dumitru
82
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
YOU LOVE THE STORY?!
… JUST PAY THE PRICE AND GO
You want to look good?!
Go to the gym and dont eat too much.
You want to travel?!
Save money and travel into the world.
You want to become a wise person?!
Read books, go to the seminars, spend time meditating.
For any story you dream about ... you just need to pay a price.
What about the perfect love story?!
Well ... first of all you need to be lucky enough to find that perfect partner you dream about.
Then you will need to pay attention to all the details a love story involves.
Love is not only to be loved.
You need to be caring, unconditional, want to grow as couple, never giving up on each other, be able to sacrifice, to have compassion and affection.
You also need to forget about vanity, selfishness, amour-propre, and egotism.
Loving it s a real art.
You will just adore the moments spent togheter.
But the biggest challange is that you will just need to focus on you as a couple, not on you as an individual.
Do the things you love to do ... both of you ... but also give your life and soul for the person you love.
So bottom line to live the story you love ... just pay the price and then enjoy it.
Adrian G Dumitru
83
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
A STORY ABOUT KARMA
TRYING TO REDEFINE THE MARRIAGE
Years ago i met a guy that i was speaking with 2-3 times a year. We became friends and talked about lots of things when we were chating.
He was working in an important bank, as an it engineer, but also as a hobby he was an astronomy teacher.
His wife had also a very successful career.
They had a nice marriage and were travelling all around the world togheter.
They even went to the North Pole.
They looked very happy.
I was very busy at that time, but over the years, everytime i was meeting him, he was all the time in the presence of young students girls. They were studying astronomy togheter.
He looked quite happy all the time, but i start noticing one strange thing ... he was not telling me about his wife anymore ... and he used to talk a lot.
Now he was talking only about antronomy, telescopes and the young women from his classes.
I was not meeting him often, so somehow i was only seeing the whole picture, but not the small details from his life.
After a year, i met him again and somehow i disliked not seeing him happy as i used to see him.
He explained me that he divorced by already few months ... that it was his fault, but he loved staying near his young students girls.
He was just closing a phone conversation with his ex wife and was very disappointed.
He asked her to restart their ex marriage, but she was on the way to a resort with another man.
She agreed with him to restart for them, but also for their son ... but not in that day .... cause she wanted to enjoy the trip with the new man from his life.
She just asked a delay by 2-3 days, because in the end she just wanted to enjoy life one more time.
She didnt this into the past, as he did many, many times .... but he disliked
seeing ... actually his actions into a mirror ... cause life itself is a mirror. Somehow this is how karma work ... garbage in, garbage out ... or what you offer
Adrian G Dumitru
84
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
to others this is what the Universe sends you back.
Well friends ... you just need to learn when it comes about love ... to also “miss” some opportunities and keep one certain path.
Adrian G Dumitru
85
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
LOVE AND THE DANCE
OF OUR EMOTIONS
Yesterday you had been happy, today you are not ... and you cant even define the love story as a good or bad thing into your life.
Maybe keeping an excel sheet with daily reports about what happened and defining each day as a good, bad or excelent one, will help you understand better where you are.
But love is not math.
I mean your partner can drive you crazy for many days in a row, can hurt you a lot, can even betrayal or cheat on you ... but if the connection between you and that person is huge ... and you can feel the infinite near that person ... you will see yourself acting as a silly person, going back again each time in the arms of the loved one.
Yes ... you are not acting logically ... in fact you act very stupidlly ... but the huge desire to love and to be loved will not let you run away from an illogical situation. Being in love is not always living a fairy tale.
Today you feel happy, tomorrow angry ... then you cry again feeling disappointed ... and just seeing the smile of that person, for reasons difficult to understand, will make you again happy.
Even meeting that person for 2 minutes will make you happy ... or drive you crazy.
Being in love is a dance of contradictory emotions ... but this are the rules of the game ... if you want to be happy, you risk as tomorrow to be unhappy also. And indeed ... falling in love is easy, staying in love is difficult.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
UNLOCK THE ONE YOU LOVE AND LIVE
Our emotions make us smile, be happy or feel broken deep inside us.
All the real love stories from the world, from all the books even wroten by now, are defined by the word “imposible”.
It always appears a reason why the story cannot be transcened beyound the fairy tale and be part of the real world.
Stories written hundreds of years ago with the princess, prisoner into the tower of a huge palace ... are still present even into the modern world.
Now the princess is not having the official title of a princess, but we name her a lady ... is not having a palace, but a very beautiful house ... maybe and expensive car, very expensive clothes and everything a woman can have ... but 2 pieces are missing from the puzzle: the prince and the love story.
At 20 we start our lives having the concept of a happy life as: a beautiful house, an expensive car, money in the bank account, and all kinds of other silly things ... but can those things really make us happy?!
Even personal development posts shows people with Lamborghini or yachts ... presenting that is the image of real success in life ... and you cant image how many likes those posts have.
But i wonder now, why depression is the number one disease of our century?! Now the level of life of the average human being is very high.
People accomplish most of their dreams in their life time, except the fact that
they never feel happy.
What can make us happy?!
Well ...the happiness is coming to us through love.
The problem is that no one ever told us this in school.
They teached us math, chemistry, biology and others stuff ... but no teacher told you that happiness can appear in your life through a love story.
Years are passing ... and you become a prince or a princess ... but unhappy as the prisoner in the tower of the palace ... cause her father, the king, wanted her to marry with someone she does not like.
Choosing to be in a love story ... even if the story itself can be defined as illicit ...
is just a choice .
Defining the choice ... is an act of choosing between two or more possibilities, but
Adrian G Dumitru
87
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
one of the possibilities is to be happy.
So ... it s just a choice ... unlock the one you love and live.
Adrian G Dumitru
88
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
THE 2 PRISONERS
FROM THE CHAT ROOMS
I know 2 young people, very deep in love.
In fact they are not so young anymore, but the love addiction they have one for another, made them act as teenagers.
For some reasons they live an imposible love story and this is happening by already one year and a half.
They became very close friends also ... but somehow, living in 2 parallel universes
... let them have moments of infinite love, but also moments when they feel broken by the love itself ... with no real chance even to survive.
They start asking themselves if real love ... really exists into the real world, or the only chance to meet the absolute love is into an abstract way ... in a parallel universe ... just for even less than 1% of their time.
The rest, the defining of the love story ... and all the compliments that they had for each other ... were into the chat room.
Their love story was a mix of 1% of real love and 99% procents of virtual love. The connection between them was huge and this was the real thing that let them stll remain togheter.
The presence of technology , changed our lives a lot.
3o years ago, you had to write letters, go to the post office and them wait for few days for the answear.
Now you can brake up or even ask her to marry you on the chat room. But what is life invented for?!
I say “invented” to be connected at the word “technology” also.
The question is if it s ok to keep our love story 99% of our lives into the chat room?!
You ve got no idea how many people in the world live the love story on whatsapp, messanger etc etc.
Steve jobs was so proud of his inventions.
His presence into the scene of the technological world ... changed the world.
... but i still wonder why he did not let his children use technology ... and that’s a big why.
In the end i think the virtual world just steals from us the pleasure of living into the real world ... which is transcended only by living the present moment ... in
Adrian G Dumitru
89
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
the real life.
We have a real inability to connect to the reality ... and the technology help us survive.
It s like you are in the hospital and you can breath only if they connect you to machines that can help you do this.
Disconnecting you will let you survive for only few moments.
Adrian G Dumitru
90
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
IS LOVE ENOUGH?!
We see life in a mathematical way.
We have plans and clear directions, but one day .... booom ... something
happens, you fall in love and everything starts looking like you re driving on the
highway to nowhere.
But why is that?!
Because falling in love cannot follow the mathematical way of seeing life.
It s a way of connecting to your soul ... so it s not a direction, but a connection.
In the real daily life you are too busy to spend your time connecting to our soul ...
finding that useless.
When it happens to fall in love, somethings hits you.... something similar with a
tsunami and without realising you start seeing you have very powerful feelings inside of you, for a person you just met.
It s incredible, and cant even understand what is going on, but somehow you start feeling that inside ... you have a soul.
You start forgetting about daily routines and most of the things you usually do ...
focusing only on the love story.
But is love enough?!
Can love solve everything?!
Yessss ...as long as makes you connect to your soul.
Love can redefine you ... and you can become a different person.
You will look different.
You will think different.
You will act different.
You will feel different the fact that you are alive.
So ... yesss .... love is enough.
Adrian G Dumitru
91
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
WHEN THE LOVE STORY GOES TO AN END, JUST KEEP THE MEMORIES AND GO ON. SEEING THE WHOLE PICTURE
Sometimes is just too complicated to see the whole picture into the present moment.
We are overwhelm of our emotions.
I saw the quote “Sometimes you dont get what you want, because you deserve better”, on an instagram page of a wonderful lady who was in love with a man that did not knew what he wanted.
He loved her a lot, but never saw the path as them to be togheter into the real life.
The lady was a very determined person and one day seeing the whole picture of their story, she decided just to say ... STOP.
It was enough, cause everything was looking as a pathless path.
But you know why?!
Because we have a dogmatic way of seeing life, we also look at the love stories and search for a final destination, but not a reason why it exists.
Sometimes the whole meaning is just to cure our broken souls ... and no other reason or destination at all.
But again ... is not easy to accept that.
Indeed, the both partners needs to want the same thing.
If they synchronize ... is perfect ... if not ... the story will only be a story with love and hate acts .... with no clear direction at all.
But in the end, if the end is coming, they should keep the good memories and see everything as a life experience.
You know there are people that falled in love for the first time at the kindergarten and were very disappointed when they graduated. Was their life finished in that moment?!
Hell no ... life was continuing.
That can happen at 10-20-30 or 40.
Maybe something else is expecting you in life and this was just a chapter ... just to prepare you for something better, that will come into the future.
Adrian G Dumitru
92
THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE
A philosophical view over love stories
YESTERDAY I LOVED HER A LOT
“Yesterday i loved her a lot.
Today i just hate her ... but cant see why.
Why the love story does not continue?!”
Overthinking is so usual into a love story.
